A Little Start to 2013


Tuesday, January 1 – Thursday, January 31, 2013
Tuesday, January 1
Happy New Year!!!
Today was a major house-cleaning day...no TV, parades, or bowl games to get in the way as we single-mindedly tackled the dusting, sweeping, and mopping chores that we hadn’t gotten to during all the Christmas rush.
The highlight of the day was receiving this photo of John and Carol...a great New Year’s present.

This evening we dug out a couple of DVD’s that we had thought about watching before, but just hadn’t gotten around to doing anything about them.
Can you tell that we are big New Year party animals?
Wednesday, January 2 – Friday, January 4
These were our “basic routine” days.  Barbara had heart rehab on Wednesday and Friday, and Thursday I tackled the stack of papers and folders that had piled up in the desk in the last few weeks.  Those of you who ever had the opportunity to see my desk at school know my basic filing system...everything is in the pile somewhere.  Well, by the end of the day, nearly everything was filed away in folders and placed in an order that anyone could decipher.  Now, we’ll just see how long that lasts.
Friday afternoon, after seeing Mother at lunch in the nursing home, we ventured out a whole 11 miles to Lindale to do some shopping.
Saturday, January 5
We took care of some household chores this morning and then attended a showing of Les Miserables this afternoon at the historic Select Theater in downtown Mineola.  The Select Theater is the oldest continuously operating theater in East Texas and under the current management is showing first-run movies nearly every weekend.
I’ve listened to cast recordings of Les Mis for so many years that I’ve just about memorized all the lyrics, but we’ve never had an opportunity to see the show.  We both thought it was a wonderful production and I had no problem with the singing of Hugh Jackman and Russell Crowe...I thought their voices, while not Broadway-trained, were perfect fits for the characters they played.
We both thoroughly enjoyed the movie and, we’re not ashamed to say, were moved to tears by more than one song or scene.  What a great afternoon for only a $4.00 ticket!!!  Our next goal is to purchase a CD of the soundtrack as soon as it is available locally.
Sunday, January 6
After a brief visit with Mother, we drove to Yantis to celebrate the first Sunday of the new year with our church family.  We were pleasantly surprised at the number of folks who were present this morning, and thoroughly enjoyed every aspect of the service.
The praise and worship group has continued to grow...there are now eleven of us on the stage...and this morning we were particularly in the groove.  What a wonderful way to participate in the worship experience!

After an afternoon nap at home and another visit with Mother, we returned to YFBC for the evening service.
We really love watching and hearing David do his teaching thing on Sunday nights.  Not only is he a great preacher, but is also a wonderful Bible teacher, as the Sunday night regulars have come to learn and appreciate.
Even when the sermon/lesson is over, the praise and fellowship continue spontaneously until David has to run everyone out the building.

Monday, January 7
Today was another heart rehab day for Barbara.  I dropped her off at the clinic in Quitman and then went out to Our Little Lot to clear some more brush and prepare for another burn-off tomorrow.
When Barbara was finished with rehab, we returned to Mineola, had a short visit with Mother, and then returned to the house for lunch and a long-delayed session to begin getting caught up on journal/blog entries.
Some of our faithful readers had made a few comments about the lack of entries for the past three months, and one in particular, one of our church friends, shared with Barbara on Sunday that she really missed hearing about our lives.  So, Barbara made the decision that we needed to renew our efforts and get the journal/blog up-to-date.  With that in mind, she started work on October at the same time that I began writing about November.  Luckily, we had kept track of our activities in our daily calendar, and our photo files were (mostly) in order.  Armed with all the data we needed, we went to our separate seats, fired up the laptops, and began writing...and writing...and...
Tuesday, January 8
While Barbara stayed at home to do some household chores and continue her work on the October journal/blog, I went to the weekly prayer meeting at YFBC and then to Our Little Lot to see how much work I could get done before the promised rain appeared.  Luckily, the weather held off long enough for me to gather some more brush and burn off one of the piles, but the rain started coming down around 10:30, so I put away the tools, made sure the fire was out, and returned to the house to listen to and watch the rain while we both continued our journalistic efforts.
We were blessed with 1.6 inches of rain at the house today...what a great start for the new year!
We were also blessed with a short visit from our friends Gene and Michelle Young, who had to come to town on some business and stopped by to see us.


Gene and Michelle still maintain their farm in Kansas, but are wintering in their home out at Lake Fork.
Wednesday, January 9
The rain continued to fall today, so there was no chance of getting any yard work done at either the house or the lake lot.
Barbara had her morning rehab session at Quitman, and while she was doing that, I drove out to Our Little Lot to see what effect, if any, the rain was having.

With so much of the gully cleared (not that there isn’t much more to do), it was easy to see the water coursing through the little stream that runs next to our property as it moves on its way to Lake Fork.

After I picked Barbara up at the clinic in Quitman, we went to the nursing home to see Mother for awhile and then returned to the house to rest a bit before driving to Tyler and an appointment with Dr. Dennis at Azalea Orthopedic Clinic.  Dr. Dennis went over the results of my MRI with us and we discussed possible treatments.  One option was to get injections in the knee to kill the pain.  While that would have immediate effects, they wouldn’t be long-lasting, and wouldn’t address the real problem of a torn medial meniscus.  Instead, we opted for arthroscopic surgery to clean the cartilage pieces out of my right knee and repair the tear.  All that was left was to determine when it could be done, and for that, we had to wait for a call from the clinic once a surgery date and time could be determined.
We’ve mentioned it before, but while we rarely eat out at a nice restaurant, Red Lobster is one of our favorite places to go.  It was late and still raining when we finished at the orthopedic clinic, but we took the time to stop at Red Lobster to buy a couple dozen of their biscuits, one of our favorite treats.
We then drove back to Mineola, stopping at the nursing home to visit with Mother and TJ and share some of our biscuit bounty with them before returning to the house for the evening.
Oh, yes...the rain gauge showed another 1.9 inches of rain for the day...a whopping 3 ½ inches over the last two days!!!
And in other good news of the day, we received photos of Little Jimmy and Ava from their parents.  We are so thankful for the technology that allows this kind of sharing, and for the kids taking the time and effort to send us the current photos!

Thursday, January 10 – Monday, January 14
We don’t know what happened with the camera for these days.  There were some photo-ops, but we don’t have any photos to show for them.
Mostly, we just worked around the house and yard, wrote and posted a couple of the journals, went through the daily routines, visited Mother, attended church on Sunday, and in general, just faced whatever life brought us (including receiving another ½ inch of welcome rain on Saturday.
As our constant readers know, some days are just days.
Tuesday, January 15
Happy ??th Birthday to Barbara’s sister, Nancy Hargrave!
A sharp change in the weather was predicted for today, but we didn’t have any idea of how sharp and sudden it would be.
I got up early to go to prayer meeting at Yantis and then spend the morning clearing and burning brush at Our Little Lot.  Imagine my surprise when I came out of the church to find the air full of big, fat snowflakes falling from the sky and sticking to everything!
I went on to Holiday Villages of Lake Fork to check on the lot and found that there wasn’t any snow, but there was some very cold rain and a little sleet coming down there.  Obviously, there wasn’t going to be any work on the lot today, so I got back in the car and drove back home to spend the day in a warm house.
Wednesday, January 16
Happy ??th Birthday to brother Jerry Little!
I took Barbara to Quitman for her heart rehab this morning and drove out to Holiday Villages to check on the property.  But, as I was driving up to the gate at HV, I received a call from Barbara saying that rehab was cancelled for the day due to a computer crash.  So, I turned around and went back to pick Barbara up and return to Mineola to see Mother for a few minutes before going to the house for the rest of the day.
Tonight was our Wednesday to handle the nursery at YFBC and a chance to stay in touch with our Grams and Gramps skills by watching Jeremiah, the youngest son of our youth director Jeremy Durig and his wife, Emily.  Jeremiah is one of the most good-natured youngsters we’ve ever met...such a joy to spend time with him!
Our Wednesday night routine is to spend some time together with Jeremiah and then take turns walking through the buildings to take photos of all the different youth activities that are a major part of the mid-week worship and praise experience.  It has been such a wonderful blessing to watch our youth group grow over the past year and a half!

Thursday, January 18 – Friday, January 19
While Barbara worked in the house these two days, I decided to tackle the flower bed that runs along the north side of Mother’s house and beside the driveway out to the street.  Since there’s a fence on the north side of the flowerbed, the area naturally catches all the leaves and other trash that blows in from the south, and it is a constant battle to keep it cleaned out so the planted flowers will grow.  It took two days to rake everything out and haul it away to a trash pile in the North 40, but it sure did look better when the work was done.
The before and after photos show a pretty dramatic change in the looks of the area

Barbara reached a milestone in her heart rehab today when she finished her 16th session...only 20 more to go until her next cardiac evaluation!
Saturday, January 19
Today was another big day in our social calendar.  We can count on the fingers of one hand the number of movies we’ve seen in a theater the last six years, but today we joined Gene and Michelle and Gene and Carolyn at a first-run showing of “Lincoln” at Mineola’s Select Theater.  When the movie was over, there seemed to be some sharp differences of opinion as to whether folks liked it or not, although we were all agreed that is was well done.  It seemed for the most part that the men thought it was a great movie, while the women were somewhat disappointed in it.
After the movie, we visited with Mother and TJ for awhile at the nursing home and then drove out to Gene and Michelle’s house at Lake Fork for supper and visitation time.

Sunday, January 20
Today was an extra special day for our family.  We began by getting ready for church, visiting Mother, attending services at Yantis FBC, and then driving to Cleburne to see Leah and Ryan baptized tonight at Nolan River Road Baptist Church.
Because my knee has been giving me fits lately, we decided we’d stay at the local Best Western in Cleburne, rather than having to negotiate all the stairs at the kids’ apartment.  So, we got checked in and let Leah and Ryan know where we were.  Leah also called Nancy and Tom to let them know we were in town.
When everyone had gathered at the motel and shared hugs all around, we followed Tom and Nancy out to their new land “The Hargravian Compound,” outside of town, where we got the grand tour of their new dream.
When we got to the place, Barbara and I gave Tom and Nancy a large “Welcome” post as a house-warming gift.

Tom and Nancy’s new dream property is situated on several acres of wooded land, providing them more than enough opportunities to develop it as they want.

Or, as one of their friends told Tom, “Your honey-do list just grew big time!”
After spending time looking over the property and listening to Tom and Nancy talk about their ideas for developing the place, we all hopped back in our vehicles and returned to join Brandi, Tom and Nancy’s daughter, and Keylin and Eva, Brandi’s daughters for a meal at The Cotton Patch.  Later, Paul, Brandi’s husband joined us for dinner and a nice family visit.

It was soon time for all of us to depart for the church, where we took part in the informal evening service and then watched as Leah and Ryan were welcomed into the church and fellowship with Jesus Christ as their personal savior as they took part in Believer’s Baptism.

In a rare twist, we found when we got to the church that the kids’ new pastor has close ties to Mineola and is friends with our closest neighbors, Addie and John and Wanda.  It really is a small world!
When the church service was over, we said our goodbyes to Tom, Nancy, Brandi, Paul, Keylin, and Eva, and we returned to the motel.  Leah and Ryan came by later with a couple of big boxes of photos, letters, and other memorabilia that we went through for a couple of hours.
One of the items Leah found is a letter from Barbara and Henry; written to her when she was first adopted by them when she was four years old...it is a much treasured artifact.

 
Monday, January 21
After such a busy Sunday and a late night of visiting, we took our time getting around this morning.  We met Leah at the Waffle Hut for breakfast around 10:30, had a good breakfast and another nice visit, and then Barbara and I headed back up the highway toward Mineola, stopping at the outlet mall in Terrell to do some serious shop-looking.

Tuesday, January 22
Happy Birthday to daughter Leah McQuitty!!!
Happy Birthday to daughter-in-law Kelly Little!!!
We managed to get back to our regular routine today.  While I went to prayer meeting at church and then to Our Little Lot to clear and burn brush, Barbara stayed at the house to dust, clean, cook, and work on the December journal/blog.  One thing is for sure, between keeping up with Mother’s house and lot and Our Little Lot and Big V, there is never a shortage of things that need to be done!
Wednesday, January 23
Today was pretty much another routine day.  I took Barbara to heart rehab in Quitman and then went up to Our Little Lot to do some more cutting and raking.  After I picked Barbara up at noon, we visited Mother and I checked with some of the nursing home staff about doing an evaluation of Mother’s current condition.  We are very concerned that her appetite seems to be dwindling and her verbal skills diminishing.  It’s not unusual for a person with Parkinsonism to experience these conditions, but we’d like to know, if possible, what the prognosis is for continuing diminution of her physical and mental skills.
Once back at the house, Barbara got busy working on an invitation to Mother’s 90th birthday celebration in February.  Though Mother’s birthday is February 11, we were not able to arrange transportation from the nursing home to the house that day, so we will be hosting a come-and-go tea at the house on Wednesday, the 13th.

Because it is a 90th birthday, we have put out a call to family and friends to send at least 90 birthday cards to honor Mother on this special day.
Thursday, January 24
Happy Birthday to our special friend, Jesse Fairfax, who got us started on our first church-building experience seven years ago!!!
One of the purchases we made at Kitchen Collection in Terrell on Monday was an apple corer/peeler.  We knew after our applesauce-making experiences in November and December that there had to be a better way to prepare apples for cooking.  We broke out the new machine this morning and, after reading all the instructions two or three times and playing with it a bit, finally figured it out and found that, yes, this was a much better way to get the job done.  Many thanks to friends Gene and Michelle Young for telling us about this amazing machine!
Unfortunately, we were both so busy working with the corer/peeler that we forgot all about grabbing the camera to record the experience.  Oh well, there’s almost always a next time.
We went over to the nursing home to show Mother the invitation to her party and have her approve the arrangements.  She was very pleased that we would be honoring her in this way and gave suggestions for the menu and reminded us of some other folks that she wanted to invite.

As we returned to the house, we drove around Heritage Square to check out the progress of the new assisted living center that is being built on the back side of the North 40.  Not only is the complex taking shape, the looks of the North 40 are changing daily as brush is being cleared and trees are being trimmed.  Our little neighborhood hasn’t been very quiet lately.

It won’t be long until the traffic will begin moving around the new complex and residents will start moving in.
Tonight was rehearsal night for the Lake Country Symphonic Band.  We are now well into the preparations for our St. Patrick’s Day Concert on March 17.
Friday, January 25
We took our time getting around this morning and then suddenly got busy as Barbara had to prepare for her rehab session in Quitman.
As usual, I drove out to Our Little Lot to see what, if anything I could do in half hour that I had to work in while Barbara was doing her cardio bit.  I did manage to pull up some more weeds and reeds to put on the burn pile, and then headed back to Quitman.
We had already decided that we would make a run to the lake together when rehab was over; I wanted Barbara to see the progress cleaning out the gully and streambed, and we wanted to deliver a couple of Mother’s birthday invitations to some friends. Our first stop was at Our Little Lot, which Barbara hadn’t seen for awhile.  Barbara took some photos and then we drove over to see our friends Bob and Mary Royar to give them an invitation.  Bob was working out back, so we didn’t get to see him. But we did share a few minutes with Mary.

Another stop we had planned was at Gene and Michelle Young’s house.  Barbara had checked with them before we left Quitman to see if they would be around.  Not only were they at the house on this cold, misty day, they invited us to join them for lunch, a barley soup/stew that Gene had made.  It was, of course, delicious, and we took the time during the visit to get the recipe and make sure we knew what we would be doing with the barley.

After a fine lunch and good fellowship with Gene and Michelle, we headed back toward Mineola, driving through more mist and fog as we crossed the 154 bridge over Lake Fork.

Since it was definitely an “indoor” day, we returned to the house and settled in for an afternoon nap before I went over to see Mother.
We closed out the week doing pretty much nothing except watching the Monk series on Netflix.
Saturday, January 26
Happy Birthday to son-in-law Jim Farnham!!!
Other than Jim’s birthday, this day was most unmemorable around our place.  We each went to our own corner to settle down and pay bills...very exciting!
Sunday, January 27
Today was another adventure day for us.  We got ready for church, visited Mother for a few minutes, and then drove out to Yantis for another inspiring message from Brother David Bagwell, and a great time of worship and praise with fellow church members.
As soon as the sermon was over, we sneaked out of our pew to get in the car and head as quickly as possible to Rowlett to see a high school production of Little Shop of Horrors.  Our purpose for the trip was twofold...I had directed the pit orchestra in a production of Little Shop when I was band director at Liberal High School, and I’m always interested in seeing how different groups stage this unique show. On the other hand, it was an opportunity for Barbara to become reacquainted with one of her former elementary school students from Lubbock.  Ana Cray and her family now live in Rowlett, such a relatively short distance from us that it seemed a shame to not go see them.
Barbara: In the words of Monk, “Here’s what happened.” Through facebook, I have reconnected with many of my former students from Wheelock Elementary in Lubbock. One of those students Ana has a 15 year old daughter (quit trying to count how many years ago I must have taught her…I’ll tell you…it was 1986…now count!). Anyway, when I found out that Ana lived in Rowlett and her daughter was in this play, I asked Jim if we could go see it/and Ana.
Imagine my surprise when we got to the high school to find not only Ana and her family, but her brother Ezekiel (who I also taught) and his family as well as their Mother. What a day of rejoicing that was! I found it remarkable that Ana’s daughter, Ariel, and Ezekiel’s son, Ethan, reminded me so much of their parents when I taught them.


We had stopped on the way to buy flowers to give Ariel after the performance. It tickled me, that Jim immediately took charge of that by selecting ones that looked like the Audrey II plant!
What a fun day!
Monday, January 28
The doctor wasn’t going to be available at ETMC Quitman today, so Barbara’s heart rehab session was cancelled.  Instead, we took advantage of the “day off” and did some serious house cleaning, including cleaning out the laundry room closet that hadn’t been touched in about three years.  It’s amazing what we found in there that had not only been moved here from Artesia four years ago, but had also been moved to Artesia from El Paso at least ten years ago!
One reason for the cleaning spree was that with my upcoming knee surgery, neither of us would have the time or inclination to do serious house cleaning over the next couple of weeks, so we figured we’d better do all we can while we can.
Tuesday, January 29
Happy 6th Birthday to step-great-grandson Rhett Johnson!!

While today is Rhett’s birthday, his party won’t happen until sometime this weekend.  But, we did send him a birthday greeting and checked with John later in the day to see how Rhett was doing.
It was a beautiful morning out, so we opened the house to let in some fresh air.  Bonita, being the princess she is, decided to move from her customary pillow in front of the television set to a spot of warm sunlight streaming in through the storm door. And there she stayed for the better part of the morning...is a dog’s life really such a bad thing?!!!

The clearing of the North 40 continued today with a lot of activity close to the house.  We have found now that the developer that is building the new assisted living facility has purchase the entire 18-acre lot that we have referred to for several years as the North 40.  They have decided to do some landscaping and are currently tearing out the dead trees and unwanted brush (including huge stands of poison ivy and poison oak) all around the area.

While we have enjoyed the privacy that the nearby stands of oak and cedar have provided for our part of the neighborhood, we had to admit that things are looking much better, even if the space is more open.  One great side benefit of the clearing is that Mother had a huge maple tree just outside the back yard that had developed a vertical split down the trunk and was threatening to fall across the fence into the backyard.  The brush crew took one look at the tree and decided they could bring it down and haul it away for us as part of the package they are doing for the developer...now THERE’S an answered prayer!
Gene and Michelle Young came over this evening to visit and try out a quiche recipe that Barbara had gotten from Michelle the other day.  The food was, of course, wonderful, as was the company.
During the course of the evening, Barbara mentioned to Gene that we were considering selling the 18’ car hauler trailer that we purchased in Liberal when we retired.  The trailer has been very useful over the years, hauling the cars and motorcycle rig all over the country, but with our current situation, and the fact that we haven’t used that trailer in over three years, we’ve decided to explore other options.
Gene suggested listing the trailer on E-Bay, but we had one E-Bay experience several years ago and decided then and there that we would never do that again.  Gene then said that they had had some good responses to their lake property by posting on Craigslist.  We didn’t have a clue how to get started, but good old school teacher Gene (becoming a superintendent hasn’t destroyed his teaching skills) guided us through the process, and within an hour or so we had a posting of the trailer up on Craigslist East Texas.  We didn’t have a good picture of the trailer handy, so we posted without one and decided that we could get a photo later if necessary.

Wednesday, January 30
While Barbara went to rehab this morning, I drove out to Holiday Villages of Lake Fork to uncover the car hauler and get some pictures to post on Craigslist.  Imagine my surprise when I couldn’t find the trailer, even though the lot had been thoroughly cleaned and straightened.
After a brief visit with our property manager, Jim Anderson, I found the trailer “on loan” to one of the men who is doing the mowing and bush-hogging for HV/LV.  Lonnie and I visited for a bit and have temporarily struck a deal for the sale of the trailer, but there are some issues to be resolved over the next few days...this will be a continuing saga.
Meanwhile, I did get a couple of pictures of Our Little Lot as it will appear until I can get back out there after the surgery to resume clearing and burning brush and weeds.

 
Thursday, January 31
The last day of the month found us busy preparing for a trip to Tyler and knee surgery for me tomorrow.
After getting up and ginning around, I took Bonita to the Doggie Hotel, went to the post office, and then came home to help pack the few things we would be taking with us.
Later, we visited Mother and reminded her of what we were doing and why we were doing it, and then left her in the caring hands of the wonderful staff at Wood Memorial Nursing Home.
We got to Tyler in time to do a little shopping that we had talked about for some time, and visited with folks at both Sprint and AT&T about a new cell service plan.  We didn’t settle on any deals yet, but something will be forthcoming in the near future.  Our problem here is that Wood County is a black hole for nearly all electronic communications, particularly cellular service, so we want to be sure that we have the best possible provider for our situations here in town and out at the lake property.
We checked in at a Best Western hotel on South Broadway, walked about a block to order a couple of Sonic meals, and then settled in for the evening.
Unfortunately for both of us, my knee gave me horrible fits all night.  Not only that, but I had contracted some kind of sinus congestion to the point where I felt my head was going to explode.  It got so bad that we even left the hotel around 11:00 to go across the street to a Walgreen’s store to get some nasal spray to try to open up my sinus passages.
All in all, it was a miserable night for both of us, but particularly for Barbara, who should have been able to sleep, but couldn’t because I spent the whole night tossing, turning, and walking around to try to get the kinks out of my knee.  The night could have probably been worse, but I don’t know how it would have been possible..
The one high point of the evening was when we received a text message from Mike with this photo of granddaughter Ava...something to brighten up the darkest evening!

 
“A hug is worth a thousand words; a friend is worth more.”- Jasmine Fitzwilliam
In Tyler, awaiting knee surgery tomorrow morning,
Jim/Dad/Gramps and Barbara/Mom/Grams

We Had A Little Christmas


December 1 – December 31, 2012

December Overview
If it’s December, then the kitchen in Mother’s house is going full steam!  It has been a tradition back to our teaching days to bake bread and make treats for co-workers and friends.  That tradition has continued through our retirement years.  In addition to my bread baking this year, Barbara found a great recipe for apple butter cooked in the crock pot.  We set up an assembly line to peel, core, and chop the apples, and then mixed in all the ingredients and started them going in the crock pot, an 11-hour process.  There weren’t very many hours during the month when the house didn’t smell of fresh-baked bread or applesauce!  Unfortunately, we didn’t realize until the month was over that we didn’t bother to take any pictures.
This was also a month of doctor visits for both of us.  We’ve had relatively little medical activity in the last six years, but this month both of us spent quite a few hours either sitting in a doctor’s office or traveling to and from one.  Barbara’s heart rehab (Monday, Wednesday, and Friday in Quitman) and tests and preparations to find out what is wrong with my knee held much more focus than we wanted.

And, there was Christmas...all month, it seemed, but highlighted by five different family Christmases throughout the month.  What a great time it was!!!

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Monday, December 3

Today was a full day of activities for us.  We got up early and started new batches of bread and applesauce. We then drove to Quitman for Barbara’s heart rehab session.  When we returned to the house, we had a bite of lunch and then Barbara gathered up gifts that we had purchased for the grandchildren (Mother’s great-grandchildren) and took them to the nursing home so she and Mother could go “shopping” together to decide which gifts would be from Mother.


Somewhere along the way we took time out to take this picture of Barbara with the new prayer necklace that TJ gave her for her birthday.


Friday, December 7

Barbara had her final rehab session of the week this morning.  Later we went to the office of Leon Anderson, our Edward Jones advisor, for his annual Christmas open house.  Then, we scouted around in some of the shops to see if we could find some more Christmas gifts to fill out the list.
Yantis First Baptist Church held its Living Nativity Scene this weekend.  Scenes depicting various aspects of the Nativity story were set up along the street between the church and the highway, and church members were costumed as the many different characters from the story.  Barbara is the unofficial “official” photographer for church activities, so we spent the evening walking around and getting photos of the different scenes and activities.

We were all very fortunate that we had a beautiful evening with perfect weather for this activity.  It was also nice that a large number of area residents drove past the scenes to get a visual story.


Saturday, December 8

Mother’s house is in a neighborhood that has many trees...mostly non-producing Bartlett pear trees, but also a scattering of oaks and maples...enough that fall means a long season of falling leaves.  It was a nice day to get outside and work, so we went out to try to get the leaves out of our front yard.  Since Addie, our next door neighbor, also had a yard full of leaves, we just raked everything from both yards into the street.
John, our neighbor across the street, was working on a project outside, but took time to get a large tarp for us to pile the leaves on.  Once we had a full load of leaves, we’d drag the tarp into the North 40, dump the leaves, and return to the street for another batch.  Somewhere along the way, Addie returned to her house and came out to give a helping hand.

We should have taken before and after pictures, but didn’t think that all the way through. Instead, we have these shots of all of us working and then a picture of the leafless lawns.



Tonight we returned to Yantis for the second production of the Living Nativity.  Again, it was an absolutely beautiful night and we had even more visitors than last night.




As the photos show, church members were involved in many support activities.  YFBC is truly amazing in the number of folks who pull together whenever there is a job to be done!
Sunday, December 9

We don’t know whether today was the end of one very busy week, or the beginning of another very busy week.
We began the day by visiting Mother for a few minutes before going to the morning service at YFBC, where I joined in with the Praise Band at the beginning of the service and then paired with Aaron Lovelady for a trumpet/euphonium duet for the offertory.

We left the church at the end of the service, stopped at Sonic in Quitman for something to eat on the run, and then drove to the Select Theater in downtown Mineola to begin warm-ups in preparation for the Christmas concert given by the Lake County Symphonic Band.

When the concert was over, we drove back to the nursing home to see Mother, went to the house to rest a bit and then returned to Yantis for the annual church Christmas dinner and fellowship.


Monday, December 10 – Wednesday, December 12
These days were for more baking, making another batch of applesauce, wrapping presents, and getting ready for a short trip to San Antonio.  Along the way we got to Bonita to the vet to have her teeth cleaned and be boarded for several nights.

On Wednesday, we spent several hours in Tyler so I could have an appointment with Dr. Dennis, a surgeon at Azalea Orthopedic Clinic to see what my options are for doing something about my knee.  After having some X-rays done at the clinic, Dr. Dennis recommended an MRI to determine fully whether I had some torn cartilage in my right knee.
There aren’t many things in Tyler that we like and eating out is really not one of things we do very often, but a favorite place is Red Lobster, and that’s where we went for a late lunch/early dinner before taking care of some errands and then returning to the house in Mineola.

Thursday, December 13
I had an early morning dermatology appointment in Quitman this morning.  As soon as I returned to the house, we did the final bit of packing, loaded the car, drove to the nursing home to visit Mother for a while, and then pointed the car toward Dallas on I-20 and then south on I-35 toward San Antonio.

We’ve learned that it’s much easier and faster to take the high-speed toll road that begins at Georgetown on the north, and bypasses Austin and the area traffic on I-35.  On this trip, we decided to also travel on the new higher-speed toll road section southeast of Austin, but soon found that instead of going directly to San Antonio, it would take us to Seguin on I-10, which is NOT what we wanted to do.  So, using our finely honed navigational skills, we located a toll way exit that would dump us out on a county road that would lead us to San Marcos, where we spent the night.
Friday, December 14 – Saturday, December 15

We were up early Friday morning and back in the car for the relatively short leg of the trip to the San Antonio area to spend a couple of days with John, Carol, Randi, Rhett, and Khris (Taryn had to work while we were there, so she wasn’t able to join in the family activities).
It was a wonderful family time together, even though Carol and Rhett were struggling with some kind of bug.  We had a late celebration of Randi’s 18th birthday (how did THAT happen?!!!), and got to meet our great-grand pig, Phoebe, who is Randi’s FFA project.

John took us out on Friday to see some houses that he and Carol are looking at.  We stopped at one particularly scenic location and had John take a photo of us, since we rarely have pictures of the two of us together.


After driving around and looking at houses, we returned to the house to wait for Randi and Carol to get home.
Carol had bought all the ingredients for Gramps’ world famous spaghetti, so I got busy in the kitchen, putting everything together for a big family dinner tonight.

While I was busy in the kitchen, Randi took Barbara to her school’s ag barn to get a firsthand look at Phoebe.


I didn’t get to see Phoebe until Saturday evening, and when Barbara and I finally began comparing notes, we agreed that Randi has done a very good and responsible job of raising this animal and preparing to show her at a livestock show in January.



One of Barbara’s favorite activities is to teach the grandkids/great grandkid how to use our cameras.  Rhett showed a lot of interest in the camera we had with us on this trip, so Barbara started working with him and soon he had his first portfolio.
All of the shots in this collage were taken by Rhett as he wandered around the house looking for subjects to shoot.


Saturday afternoon we took Randi shopping as part of her belated birthday gift and celebration.  When the shopping was done we went to a nearby What-a-Burger for some refreshment.


Speaking of photo shoots...Randi took us out to old-town Helotes where the three of us took turns taking pictures of each other.


We had never been to this particular section of Helotes, but after spending an hour or so, decided that we would have to return on our next trip to get some really fun shots.

When we returned to the house for the evening, we turned the camera back over to Rhett and let him do his thing.


Sunday, December 16

Carol, Rhett, and Randi had had a rough night with whatever allergies or flu had hit them, but John got up in time to see us off early for the long drive back to Mineola.  We called Leah and Ryan along the way to see if they wanted to meet us for lunch somewhere along the road, but were not a bit disappointed when they said they were going to lunch with some of their new friends from church.  We are so pleased that they have finally found a church home there in Cleburne!!!

Monday, December 17 – Tuesday, December 18
Two more days of regular December activities...baking bread and making cracked cinnamon candy were high on the list of priorities, as was gift-wrapping and a trip to Quitman Monday morning for another heart rehab session for Barbara.

Wednesday, December 19
It was another regular day of activities around the house, plus a rehab session for Barbara this morning.

For whatever reason, we felt perfectly justified in taking a long afternoon nap before I went to see Mother for a few minutes and then we headed out to Yantis for our Third Wednesday nursery session at the church.
YFBC is the place to be on Wednesday nights.  Attendance at youth activities is now averaging between 80 and 90 each week, keeping adult helpers bustling.  We have developed a routine that has both of us sharing time with Jeremiah (Jeremy and Emily Durig’s youngest son) and venturing out individually to take photos of the various activities.

We were feeling particularly Grams and Grampish tonight as we captured these settings with Jeremiah.


Thursday, December 20
Happy Birthday to me (Jim), Happy Birthday, etc. etc. etc.!  Today I woke up as old as Barbara (He just had to say that, didn’t he???), having reached the ripe age of 68.  I remember a time many years ago when that age was unthinkable.

I was planning to lounge around and veg out for the day, so Barbara finally had to reveal the surprise that our friends Gene and Michelle were coming over to take us out for Chinese for the birthday celebration.


Other than a great meal at the Chinese buffet and calls from the kids, it was a very quiet and uneventful day.

This evening was quiet time as we played at our laptops and scrolled through the TV channels, checking for something that would keep us awake.

Friday, December 21
Happy Birthday to daughter Heather!!!

Saturday and Sunday, December 22-23
Carol, Barbara’s sister, had let us know earlier that she, Teresa, and Tamara would be passing through the area this morning on the way to visit family in Louisiana.  We made arrangements to meet them in Lindale for a short visit and a bite of breakfast before they continued their journey and we set out on a morning of shopping.


Leah and Ryan arrived this evening (Saturday) to spend an early Christmas with us.  We went to church Sunday morning and they stayed through the night so we could all go to the candlelight service together.
We had a great time together as we pretended it was Christmas Day (although for many years we have espoused the idea that Christmas (and birthdays, to some extent) aren’t just specific days and dates; rather, they are when family and friends can get together to celebrate those special occasions.


And so, this weekend was truly a Christmas for us.

As a special bonus for the day, we received this photo of granddaughter Ava from Mike.



Monday, December 24 (Christmas Eve)

We all just took our time getting around this morning.  Leah and Ryan stayed through the morning, so we had lots of visiting time.

We had so much of our stuff ready for Christmas that we didn’t have a lot to get done...this might have been the most laid back Christmas Eve either of us has ever spent.
Tonight we attended Mother’s church, Harvest Acres Baptist Church, for their Christmas Eve candlelight service.  Mother was unable to attend, but we joined TJ, Ladd, Angela, and Madelyn for our family group.

When the service was over, we adjourned to TJ’s house for a traditional Christmas Eve meal before the others did their gift exchange.  We excused ourselves between the meal and the gift exchange and returned to the house for a quiet evening.


I couldn’t help but think that tonight would have been Mother and Daddy’s 71st wedding anniversary.
Tuesday, December 25 (Christmas Day)

Merry Christmas to one and all!!!

Today was just a quiet celebration for us...with no big dinner or a houseful of guests for the day; we were able to begin preparations for a larger celebration tomorrow when Mother will be home for a few hours to share in family time.
I spent the day smoking a brisket and a pork loin, while helping Barbara prepare some of the other dishes for tomorrow’s meal.

When we weren’t in the kitchen, we were in the living room setting up tables and chairs and decorating the tables.


Sometime during the day the drizzle that we had been having this morning turned into snow and within a few hours we were enjoying an authentic White Christmas here in East Texas.


Wednesday, December 26

Rob, Michelle, and the kids were supposed to be here today for Christmas with Mother, but the combination of snow and flu at their house cancelled their trip east for the holidays.  Since we had already arranged to have Mother brought to the house today and had other guests invited, we spent the morning putting the final touches on the meal and then welcomed Mother, TJ, Ladd and Angela, and Mother and TJ’s pastor, David, his wife, Beth, and their granddaughter, Jasmyne, for yet another Christmas feast and great time of sharing in the season.


Thursday, December 27

Happy Birthday to grandson Alexander...9 years old today!!!

Happy Anniversary to Leah and Ryan!!!
Today would have been the 71st Wedding Anniversary for W.T. and Virginia Perry, Barbara's dad and mom.
This was another day of food preparation as we readied for yet another family Christmas tomorrow.  Mother was also getting gussied up for the occasion as she had Leslie come do her hair at the nursing home.


Mike and Kelly couldn't come to Texas this Christmas because they are expecting their second child soon, but they sent us a beautiful present...this picture of Miss Ava.


In this shot, Ava is pushing the little grocery cart that we sent as part of her Christmas surprise.
Friday, December 28

Today was the last of out five Christmas celebrations in the past two weeks as Heather, Andy, Alexander, Abby, Whitney, Jim, and Little Jimmy converged on the house to spend the day with Mother and us.

Since Alexander’s birthday was yesterday, we had a slightly belated and abbreviated birthday celebration for him before we started with the Christmas festivities.


Alexander was so happy with his gift from us that it didn’t bother him at all that the cake was only for show...at least for the time being.
With the birthday part of the day over, we moved directly to Christmas, beginning with a meal of smoked turkey, baked ham, and all the trimmings (and more), and multiple conversations flying all around the tables.

When everyone had eaten their fill, we cleared the tables and moved them back to the garage, gathered around the living room in chairs and couches, and began the distribution of Christmas gifts.  Because Mother has so much trouble gaining and maintaining her focus on activities and conversations, we took our time with the distribution...one gift at a time around the room, and then time to show it off (a side benefit of this was that we also had many more opportunities for photos of kids and grandkids with their presents).

Later, TJ came over for coffee, ice cream cake, and some visitation with her great-nieces and their families.

Because we rarely get to see Heather and Whitney and their families together, we made time to take family photos.  Mike, Kelly, and Ava weren't here, but their family photo was grafted into this collage.


Before the kids had to return to Richardson, Barbara got them and me together for a rare photo of the three of us.  As Barbara so aptly stated when she titled this photo, it was “a father’s pride.”


When the kids had gone and Ronnie had come to pick Mother up and return her to Wood Memorial Nursing Home, we got another load of dishes going in the dishwasher, wiped down the counters, and then collapsed in our chairs in the living room to savor the blessings of the season...five different visits to or from all of the kids except Mike and Kelly and all of the grandchildren, except Ava and Jaycie in Lubbock; however, through telephone calls we connected with everyone...all within a period of two weeks.  We were tired, but oh, so truly blessed!!!

Saturday & Sunday, December 29-30
The euphoria of the season tapered to total exhaustion this weekend.  Still, there was work to be done as we took down all of the Christmas decoration, carefully packed them in boxes, and carried them back to their place in the attic above the garage.  With that done, Barbara began rearranging the decorative pieces that Mother, and we, have collected over the years and want to display in the living room and dining room.  After dusting, vacuuming, and straightening, we declared the job completed (at least for the time being) and settled down to rest.

All the activity of the week caused my right knee to swell and become very painful, so we chose to stay home Sunday for some much needed rest and recuperation.
Monday, December 31 (New Year’s Eve)

This may have been the quietest New Years Eve in many years.  Barbara couldn’t go to her regularly scheduled rehab session because the doctor wasn’t available (no doctor around...no exercise); so, with the house pretty much in order, we settled in for a day of computer time, reading, and napping.
Our only concession to tradition was to make a couple of phone calls that always end our year.  Barbara and Joyce Whitaker having been calling each other on New Year’s Eve for as long as they can remember.  Because we had no intention of waiting until just before midnight to visit, Barbara made the call and we visited for awhile with Joyce and Gary.

When we finished talking to Gary and Joyce, I called Max Johnson.  Our friendship goes back to our “growing up” days in Artesia, and we have also had a long-standing tradition of New Year’s Eve calls.
And then, calling it a day, month, and year, we trundled off to bed to let 2012 pass and 2013 enter while we slept through it all.

"The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family, all wrapped up in each other." - Burton Hillis

Remembering a month of Christmas with family and friends,

Jim/Dad/Gramps and Barbara/Mom/Grams

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ADDENDUM
Jim: When we first started writing our journals during the second half of 2006, we wrote an addendum at the end of the last December issue to more or less wrap up the year.  For whatever reason, last year’s journals didn't have the addendum, but we felt we should get back in that practice.

For the readers who have joined us on our journey this year, we are nearing the three-year mark of being the primary caregivers of my Mother, Edith Little Borsberry.  Mother has now been in Wood Memorial Nursing Home in Mineola for nearly a year and a half.  She is in the advanced stages of Parkinsonism, a disease that is disabling and debilitating in many different ways.  Mother is essentially paralyzed from the waist down, is totally incontinent, and needs assistance being fed much of the time.  The Parkinsonism has destroyed her ability to smile, although there are times when a smile tries to break through.
Mother’s ability to communicate verbally has greatly deteriorated during the last six months.  Her voice is very soft, requiring us most of the time to get one ear very close to her mouth in order to hear what she is saying.  Perhaps the most frustrating thing for Mother (and yes, she can show frustration) is that while her brain is churning, it is very difficult for her to get the words to come out.  Friends who knew Mother over the years also know that she was very intelligent and had wonderful verbal skills, but those skills are now almost gone.

We like to have Mother brought to her house once a month for lunch with family and friends, trying to help her maintain touch with the life she once knew.  For the most part, those gatherings have been fun and successful, but there are times during the visits when Mother appears to be disappearing from us.
In addition to one or both of us trying to maintain daily contact with Mother while she is in the nursing home, we are also responsible for taking care of her business interests and maintaining her house and yard (not to mention giving constant attention to the queen of the house, Bonita, Mother’s 13-year old Chihuahua).

We also, whenever possible, do what we can to maintain “Our Little Lot,” our property at Holiday Villages of Lake Fork, and Big V, the motor home that we lived in for the first three and a half years of our retirement.  Obviously, we don’t get to spend the time at the lake that we would like, and the only trip we have taken in Big V in the last two years was with grandchildren Alexander and Abby when we took them to Galveston last summer.
During 2012 we did travel to Virginia where we visited family and friends and I joined 100 other trumpeters and buglers at Arlington National Cemetery to commemorate the 150th anniversary of the first sounding of Taps.  In November, we returned to our hometown of Artesia, New Mexico where I sounded Taps at the dedication of the new Baish Veterans Park.  Serving as a bugler for Bugles Across America and participating in East Texas Patriot Guard Riders missions kept both of us busy as Barbara utilized her photography skills to record the activities for posterity (she has calculated that she took over 8,900 photos last year).

2012 brought some devastating losses of church friends and our “adopted mother,” Jean Terpening, in Artesia.  But even with the great sense of loss we felt through these times, we were strengthened through the restoration of some family relationships and renewal of old friendships.
The life we are now living is not the life we planned for ourselves, but we have accepted that just as God provided mission projects and opportunities during the first three and a half years of retirement, he is now directing us through the mission of caring for Mother.

We thank our readers for continuing to travel with us in this “second life.”  Your comments, questions, and encouragement mean more than we can ever express.
Here’s hoping that God will grant each of you countless blessings during 2013, and that He will strengthen you to share those blessings with others.

Love and best wishes to all,
Jim & Barbara Little
Mineola, Wood County, Texas
December 31, 2012