A Little Bit of Mineola Life

Sunday, September 5 – Saturday, September 11, 2010

Sunday, September 5

As we prepared to leave for church this morning, we were counting on all the usual routine…get us up and going and then get Mother up and going…have Sophie come in for a couple of hours until TJ arrived to take her to church, etc.

We had already made arrangements for Sophie to come in from 3:00 until 7:00 this afternoon so Mother would have someone here while I went to choir practice and we went to church tonight.

Everything was going according to plan…Mother was up and around and Sophie was with her as we left for Yantis to start the morning with the fellowship breakfast, followed by Sunday school and church.

It was during the church service that we found out that there would be no choir practice or service tonight because of tomorrow’s holiday. Since it was too late to back out on Sophie, we went back to Our Little Lot at Holiday Villages, took a short nap, had lunch from the clubhouse, and then tackled four hours of chores around the place.

The first job was to drag everything out from under Big V and then set up the rolling pallet that I had fashioned from an old box spring from Mother’s bed. Just as I had hoped, nearly everything that had been sitting on the concrete slab (and getting wet every time it rained) fit nicely in the two sections of the pallet.

By the time I was finished with that chore, everything that we store under Big V was up off the concrete and neatly organized (until the next time we need something).

Next, we turned our attention to mowing and trimming the entire lot. We haven’t had much rain the last few weeks, but there was enough that our grass was growing into the “must mow” range. Barbara mowed our “front” and “back” yards (the areas on either side of Big V) while I did the trimming and then mowed part of the gully where we have the bird feeders.

With that done, I moved to the lot behind us and mowed a big section of it to help keep the critters away from Big V. It is still chigger season and we do have an occasional snake come around, so we try to keep the grass down all around us.

Finally, I moved the mower out to the front of the lot and mowed on either side of the driveway, giving our lot a nice “cared for” look.

With the work done, we got all the tools put away, took showers, straightened up the inside of Big V, and headed back toward Mineola. We stopped to visit Bob and Mary, but they had left for the evening, so we drove to Quitman to pick up mail for our friends Gene and Michelle who will be returning to Holiday Villages sometime this week, and then took a scenic back road trip from Quitman to Mineola.

We arrived back at the house at 7:00, just in time to check with Sophie on how the day went, visit with Mother before she went to bed, and turn our attention to a little TV watching and journal writing…what a really nice day it turned out to be!

Monday, September 6

Happy Labor Day!!!

This was the closest thing to a holiday that we’ve had in a long time. We took our time getting up and around…had a nice breakfast with Mother, did minimal work around the house, barbecued some chicken for a late lunch, and then just took it easy for the rest of the day…no mail and no trips to town…how simple a day is that?

Out of deference to Labor Day, I did labor for a short time this evening as I trimmed and mowed the back yard (but it’s a small yard, and didn’t really count as work).

Tuesday, September 7

Barbara has been doing nearly all the cooking lately, so this morning I said she could stay out of the kitchen and I would take care of things. While her menus tend more toward the exotic, the breakfast I cooked this morning was very basic-pancakes, bacon, and eggs, but it hit the spot and no one walked away hungry or dissatisfied.

We had some little on again-off again showers during the day, but they didn’t do much more than raise the humidity. Barbara decided that she would mow the front yard this morning, just in case it really rained during the day.

Ladd called this morning and invited us to dinner at their place. Angela was cooking a brisket, beans, and potato salad. Not wanting to be unsociable, we said we’d be happy to come over; Barbara even jumped up and baked a cake for the occasion.

When we got ready to leave Mother’s house, I noticed that the starter on the car was lugging down, an almost certain sign that the battery was on its last legs. When lunch was over and we got Mother back to the house, Barbara and I took the car to Walmart to get a new battery and do some shopping. I told Ladd that I didn’t know if we could afford to come back to their house for free dinners. The last time we visited them I had to get two new tires and today I had to buy a battery.

This afternoon I decided to tackle a chore that I’ve been putting off for too long, cutting the vines and ivy out of the fence that separates Mother’s and Addie’s yards. It wasn’t a particularly hard job, but it was tedious as I unwrapped long strands of vines…don’t know what they are, but none of us wanted them around, and then pulled them out of the chain link fence.

Tonight was the first meeting of the new church year for Barbara’s Bridge group at Yantis First Baptist Church. For our newer readers, they don’t play bridge…it’s a group of women from the church who meet together to study scriptural ways to “bridge” the gap among the different ages.

We arranged for Sophie to come stay with Mother for a couple of hours and drove out to Our Little Lot so I could work while Barbara went to church. We ran into a light rain along the way, but it wasn’t doing anything when we got to Holiday Villages, so I got out and prepared to do some yard work. Barbara headed off to church, but she must not have even gotten to the gate when the thunder rumbled and the skies opened up.

With a torrential downpour going on all around me, it was obvious that I wouldn’t be doing any outside work, so I began tinkering around inside. Before long, Barbara returned, saying that no one showed up at her meeting, so she returned to get me. (Oops! The next day Lisa reminded Barbara that everyone, including her, agreed several weeks ago to change the time back to 7:00)

We decided that we’d take the extra time we had to go visit Bob and Mary. Bob is still recovering from his back surgery and we haven’t been able to spend much time with him.

After talking with Bob and Mary for a few minutes, we returned to Mineola and Mother’s house to spend the evening working on the blog and journal.

Wednesday, September 8

With the threat of raining hovering over us, we began the day’s activities as usual…wake up and check email, get Mother up, have breakfast, etc.

We arranged for Sophie to come spend a couple of hours with Mother while we went to Yantis for Barbara’s Bible study group.

Before Barbara went to Bible study, she met with David in the sanctuary and recorded her video testimony that will be shown to the congregation Sunday morning before her baptism. Barbara shared in an earlier journal/blog installment about her experience a few weeks ago, and now the date is set for Sunday morning, September 12.

David and Barbara got the video shot with minimal takes and soon she was headed off to her group and I left to go work around Big V. I spent the next hour or so clearing out the place where John and I had cut down some tree branches on July 4th. There were still quite a few logs around that I hauled off to the burn pile (I wanted to burn, but everything was wet from yesterday’s downpours, so that job will just have to wait).

After raking and hauling off trash, it was time to go back to Yantis, check out the finished video that David made this morning (and it was very good, by the way), get Barbara and then drive back to Mineola.

When we got to the house and stepped inside, the first thing we saw was both puppies standing in the doorway with strange looks on their faces. We knew right away that something in the house wasn’t right, so I went back to Mother’s bedroom and found her lying in the floor. Since Maria, the lady who comes to clean Mother’s room, had been gone only 5 minutes, we knew that Mother had been down only a short while. Mother was just fine, so I called Barbara to help me pick her up and then I started to work “curing” the cause of her latest falls, a power cord from her lift recliner that got tangled in the wheel of her new walker. It took some doing, but the cord is now attached on the opposite side of the chair and cannot get tangled in the walker unless Mother picks the chair up and turns it around, and that is way beyond likely!

Since Mother was on her way to the living room to wait for the visiting nurse when she fell, we got her started back in that direction, but diverted to the dining room to have the lunch that Barbara prepared while I was working on the chair.

We were nearly finished when Kendra, the visiting nurse from At Home Healthcare arrived for her weekly visit. Kendra is a very pleasant young lady and we enjoy her visits as much for conversations we share as for what she does for Mother.

When Kendra left and we had the kitchen cleaned, it was time to take our naps, but mine was interrupted several times by phone calls from David, the mechanic in Tyler who is working on the motorcycle. The first call was good news, as he told me that the key he lost (and the only key to the motorcycle) was now found and he was in the final stages of his work.

After a couple more calls, I gave up the nap as a lost cause and decided to get dressed and go to the backyard to clean out a couple of flower beds. Before I could get my boots on, I heard a terrible racket outside and saw that we were having a torrential downpour…so much for pulling weeds - at least for then!

We spent the rest of the afternoon working at our computers and catching up on phone calls. Later, I went out back and pulled grasses and weeds out of one section of the flower bed, but it was very muddy work and I could tell that there was no way it would all get done today…looks like I’ll be hauling in some more dirt to fill in some low places that have nearly 4 inches of water standing next to the foundation.

The evening was fairly quiet…a little TV and a little work on the journal/blog. Mother was in bed and asleep by 9:00 and we followed at 10:00.

Thursday, September 9

Today was just another day around Mother’s house, with no excitement to speak of.

While Barbara stayed home and cooked lunch, TJ and I drove Mother to Quitman for a dermatology appointment. Mother has all kinds of marks on her arms from dog nips and scratches, but there were also a couple of cysts and some other spots that had us concerned. We were able to get in to see Mr. Gautier, the physician’s assistant who handled my dermatology work in Tyler. Mr. Gautier immediately discounted a couple of the spots that we asked about, but took a deeper look at a cyst on Mother’s arm and decided to scrape it off for a biopsy. He thought it looked like a squamous cell cancer, but we’ll know for sure in a week or so.

When Mr. Gautier was through and had cleared us to check out, we headed back to Mineola and Mother’s house where we found a wonderful meal waiting for us. We spent the next half hour eating and talking and making plans for next week’s visit by Aunt Glennis, who will be coming up from Marianna, Florida, for a couple of weeks.

The afternoon was slow and quiet until our physical therapist, Keith, arrived from At-Home Healthcare. Keith went over all the case notes that he had been given and then started putting Mother through her paces. One of the tools he used was an upper and lower body cycling machine. Mother used it today to simulate riding a bicycle, but Keith said it could also be placed on a tabletop and be used for arm exercises. When we asked where we could find a machine like that, Keith said he had seen them for around $25 at the Wal-Mart in Lindale.

After putting Mother through several other chair exercises to strengthen her hips, knees, and ankles, Keith gathered up his “toys” and left to go home for the day…turns out he lives just a few blocks from us, so he will catch Mother at the end of his travels each day as he heads home.

Tonight we just sat around and watched TV and worked on the journal/blog. As far behind as we are on this little project, there was plenty to get caught up on.

Friday, September 10

The peace and quiet of the past several days was broken this morning when I loaded the dogs in the car and took them to the vet for their annual checkups and shots. Spike, who is always so calm and easy-going, was his usual self…he loves nothing more than getting in the car and going for a ride. Bonita, on the other hand, hates the car and broadcasts to all within her frequency range that she is a very unhappy princess.

When Bonita starts crying and whining, it is impossible to keep the windows closed because the sound bounces off all the windows. But, when we open the windows even a little bit for some relief, all the drivers who pull up beside us stare as if wondering what we could possibly be doing to that poor animal to cause her to screech like that…it is truly a lose/lose situation for whoever draws the short straw and makes the trip to the veterinarian! (Barbara volunteered to stay home with Mother! No big surprise!)

Our appointment for this morning was at 10:30, so I timed our trip to get there by 10:25, get checked in, and get the procedures over with. Unfortunately, Dr. Bradshaw was tied up with someone else’s animals, so I sat there with a crying Bonita in my lap for about thirty minutes before she finally calmed down. Spike, meanwhile, was wandering around the office (on his leash, of course) and sniffing the pant legs of everyone who came in.

Sometime after 11:00 Bonita finally calmed down enough that she just sat in my lap and watched Spike, and at 11:30 they came for the dogs. The rest of the visit was just fine…no more whining and crying…not even a yelp when the dogs got their shots.

When they were finished, I put both dogs in the car and then went inside to pay out, hoping against hope that it would be a quiet ride back to the house. I evidently wasted all my hopes, because as soon as I started the car, Bonita cranked up again, whining and crying all the way home. Boy, am I ever glad that this is only a once-a-year event!

Barbara: While Jim was bonding with the puppies, I got to bond with a couple much more fun! Gene and Carolyn came by to visit and to tell me that Carolyn is flying out Saturday to go play grandma; so they won’t get to come to church Sunday to witness my baptism like they planned. I certainly understood the call to duty but got a chuckle with their way to celebrate my decision. They, in a gift sack with a gal in a bathtub (immersion, get it?), put a diet coke (my drink of choice at any celebration) inside a can coozy.

Anyway, we were having so much fun talking that the time just slipped away from me until I realized that I had to fix lunch, take a shower, and be ready to go to Tyler in less than an hour and a half! But…at least they got to witness Jim bringing home his passengers; in fact, they almost got run over by Bonita who was hurrying to tell Edith how mistreated she had been! So, while I corralled the dogs, Jim got to spend a few minutes chewing the fat with Gene and Carolyn.

Jim: As soon as I got home with the puppies and visited with our company, I helped Barbara get lunch ready while she got a shower and got dressed. Mother came into the dining room and we had lunch and then Sophie came over to sit with Mother for a couple of hours while Barbara and I drove to Tyler to get the Voyager out of the motorcycle hospital.

We stopped at Wal-Mart in Lindale and bought the cycling machine for Mother and also found a new harness for Bonita. Bonita had destroyed her harness a couple of months ago and we haven’t been able to find a replacement until today.

When we finally got to the repair shop, after tangling with Tyler’s Friday afternoon traffic on a loop that is continuously under construction, Barbara took a couple of photos of the cycle and David and me before rushing back to Mineola to relieve Sophie. Silly us, we thought we could do all that in just two hours, but we didn’t count on traffic jams caused by the multiple highway maintenance crews.
When David and I finished talking, I climbed on the cycle for the first time in several weeks, fired it up, and began the ride back to Mineola.

Luckily, it was an uneventful trip, although I did get a little nervous when a motorcycle policeman pulled up behind me at a red light in Lindale. My inspection sticker expired at the end of August and today was the end of the 10-day grace period for getting a new sticker. I think the officer must have been in a hurry to get somewhere else, as he took off in another direction.

There is a really nice cycle shop between Lindale and Mineola, so I pulled in there to see if they still did inspections. Lucky me, they did and I was the only customer in sight, so in 10 minutes I rode away with a completely legal cycle, not caring how many patrol cars or cycles I might see.

When I got back to the house at 4:00, Keith was there finishing up another rehab session with Mother. He was pleased to see that we had bought the cycle exerciser and said that Mother should be able to get quite a bit of use out of it while she watches TV.

I went out to the back yard around 5:00 to continue cleaning out the flower beds. I worked carefully around the Zinnias that Mother and Barbara had planted during the spring, but when Barbara came out and saw what I had done, she said to go ahead and pull out the Zinnias too, since they had quit flowering and didn’t look any better than the weeds and grasses. After a couple of hours of pulling, cutting, and trimming, I decided that I’d had enough of that fun and went inside to clean up.
Barbara: While Jim did his outdoor playing, in between times of helping Edith, I got busy trying to design a business card for Gene that I had said I’d do months and months ago. They realize that I’m just at the playing stages so anything I show here isn’t official; but…with a better photo, I think these could look sharp. Also, I am very aware that the phone numbers should be lined up, but as I said...this is just a practice because the photo is too cluttered!! Besides, Carolyn’s out of town and they don’t have a program to open the design so I just decided I’d put it in the journal where I know they will see it. Clever, huh?

Jim: Tonight we didn’t do much of anything…just got caught up on some mail and I worked the text for this week’s blog entry. I caught a little bit of the Artesia/Albuquerque Manzano football game, but with the time difference between here and Albuquerque, I just didn’t feel like staying up, so we shut down the computers, went to bed to read for a bit, and then shut everything down for the night.

Saturday, September 11

Lest we forget, today marks the ninth anniversary of the terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center towers in New York City, the Pentagon in Washington, and the crash of a plane that was commandeered for another attack, but which came down instead in a Pennsylvania field. Nearly 3,000 innocent people lost their lives in the attacks.

After a big breakfast, it was time to get some serious yard work done. With the flower beds in the back yard finally cleaned out, I decided to go to Wal-Mart and get some topsoil to level the beds. As I wrote earlier, a strong rain will leave us with as much as four inches of water standing next to the foundation and I wanted to eliminate that problem if at all possible.

While Barbara worked inside the house, I turned the existing soil and then added eight bags of topsoil to the mix, leveled the beds and raked them smooth, and then trimmed and mowed the back yard. Since more rain was predicted for the day, I went ahead and mowed and trimmed the front yard before deciding that I had done as much as I could for the day.

Since we had such a large and late breakfast, Barbara fixed a late lunch and we sat down to eat around 3:30. After that we rested for a while before going out to Holiday Villages for the monthly Bingo Night. We haven’t had much luck at bingo the last few times we’ve gone, but Barbara won one of the ten games tonight and brought home a $10 Wal-Mart shopping card…yay, Barbara!!!

We got back to the house at 8:00, got Mother ready for bed, and spent the rest of the night trying to finish off the last two weeks of journal/blog entries.

A week or so ago Leah sent us a youtube link and said she thought we’d find it interesting. When I had a moment, I hit the link and found myself watching a portion of the Liberal High School Band 1997 Spring Concert…the year that Whitney was a senior and Leah was a freshman and I was the director.

One of “That” Liberal Band’s traditions was to play Claude T. Smith’s Emperata Overture each year during graduation ceremonies; it was the last piece that the full band would play before the seniors got up and went outside to join their classmates to enter the gymnasium to the strains of Pomp and Circumstance, played by the underclassmen.

Some years I programmed Emperata as part of the spring concert, just so we’d be sure to have some extra practice on in. I believe that in 2007 Emperata was the opening selection of the concert and was undoubtedly one of the best performances of the piece during my 11-year tenure as director of bands. That isn’t to say that there weren’t a couple of moments I wouldn’t like to have “do-overs” on, but I did think it was an outstanding performance by a great band.
Hearing the piece brought back a lot of memories and I thank whoever kept that footage and posted it on youtube. For those who might be interested in seeing and hearing the band, turn up your volume, sit back, and watch and listen when you hit this link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tq6OyG5zPM

“When things get tough, always remember…faith doesn’t get you around trouble, it gets you through it!” - Unknown

From Mother’s house in Mineola,
Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little More Life

Sunday, August 29 – Saturday, September 4, 2010

Sunday, August 29

With miles and miles ahead of us today we got up early, finished packing the car, and then got ready for Sophie to arrive to look after Mother for a couple of days while we drove to Lubbock to get Jimmy Clint’s things out of storage in preparation for his transfer to the Lubbock County Courts Rehabilitation and Treatment Center.

Sophie arrived at 7:15 and we gave her some last minute instructions before we got in the Vibe and started the 450 mile drive to Lubbock.

We knew Mother was in good hands with Sophie and that TJ would be by at 10:15 to take Mother to church and then bring her back to the house for lunch.

We arrived at the storage facility in Lubbock around 3:15 and immediately set to work going through all the things we had put in there at the end of April. The rehab center provided a very specific list of what and how much of it Jimmy Clint would be allowed to take to the center with him, so we spent a lot of time picking out the clothes we thought he would like. We picked up a few extras of some articles of clothing, hoping that when Kyle delivered everything to the center, Jimmy would be able to go through them and get exactly what he wanted.

Around 5:00 we went to the Holiday Inn Express near the Civic Center and checked in, called Cathey to make arrangements to see Jaycie for a bit tonight, and then waited a while before going across the street to Walmart to pick up a few things that Jimmy didn’t have in the storage shed.

Cathey and Jaycie caught up with us in Walmart and after visiting for a few minutes, Cathey left Jaycie with us to continue our work. Jaycie was a great help in selecting just the right soaps, shaving cream, and other toiletries for her daddy. She also knew what kinds of tee-shirts and underwear he liked, so she was able to select those for him, also.

When we got back to the hotel, Jaycie went through the things that we had picked out for Jimmy from the storage shed and made some decisions about what she knew he liked and didn’t like.

Then, we went up to the room and visited while we helped Jaycie with her math homework. She is just starting the seventh grade and is already loaded down with assignments.
Of course, we also took a little time for silliness and photos!

Around 8:00 we went back to the storage shed to look for a couple of pairs of shorts that Jaycie wanted us to get for Jimmy. Luckily, we found them and then got back across town to have Jaycie back home with Cathey in time to get ready for bed.

We then drove to the Lubbock County Jail and waited until 9:30, Jimmy’s scheduled visiting time. We only got to see him for 30 minutes, but managed to have a very good visit (under the circumstances) and got to read him a letter that Jaycie wrote while we were at the storage shed and driving her back to the house. Jimmy was also very pleased to learn that Jaycie had picked out or approved all the things that were selected for him to take to the rehab center when he is finally transferred.
We were worn out from the trip, the work, and the visit, so we left the jail at 10:00, returned to the hotel, checked email, and then turned in for the night.

Monday, August 30

We got up early this morning, checked out of the hotel, and then met Kyle for a late breakfast at Denny’s and transferred the suitcases and sacks of Jimmy’s belongings to his car so he can deliver them to the rehab center when Jimmy transfers out there. We can’t say enough about how important Kyle has been to us through this time…he has been extremely helpful to us and a true friend to Jimmy!

With breakfast out of the way and the car gassed up, we started the long trek back toward east Texas, but without the sense of urgency that we had yesterday. For one thing, we had already planned a trip for these two days…just not to Lubbock. But, when we knew that Jimmy was going to be transferred, it only made sense to employ Sophie for these two days and get this business taken care of.

Finally, about 5:00 we told ourselves that we were off the clock and no longer would discuss anything serious and anything family related. It was time to relax and pretend that we were off on a real vacation. Therefore, we took our time driving and stopped off north of Gainesville to pay homage to the Chickasaw Indians there before continuing to Durant to spend the night with members of the Choctaw Nation.

Tuesday, August 31

Enjoying our break from the usual routine, we took our time getting around this morning after a good night’s rest at the local Microtel. It's always amazing how we can meet such interesting folks in the breakfast bar at the motels. This morning was no exception when we wound up sharing a table with an elderly (yes, we realize we're getting up there in age ourselves...but this was an elderly, elderly) woman from Allen, TX. She shared much of her interesting life with us in basically a short amount of time! Fun and mindless!

We left Durant at noon and were back in Mineola by 2:30 to unload the car, start the laundry, run a few errands, and get settled in at Mother’s house…not a very exciting day, but some days are like that.

Wednesday, September 1

Can you believe it…September already…where has the year gone?!!!

It was busy around here as we had visitors throughout the day. The morning was pretty much the usual routine…breakfast and some routine cleanup chores. Roger Green, TJ’s handyman, called to say that he would be by sometime this afternoon to help remove the old kitchen range and begin the cutouts on the cabinet. That worked out well for us, giving us the use of the range, such as it was, for breakfast and lunch.

At-Home Healthcare sent out two people to see Mother. Kendra, an LVN, came by to introduce herself and get Mother’s medical history and vital signs, and Stan, a contract physical therapist, came in for an hour or so to do an evaluation. Both folks were friendly, very personable, and very professional, strengthening our belief that we had made the right decision to go with their company.

This afternoon I went ahead and removed the range from the kitchen. I had planned to just help Roger with it, but the longer he took to get here, the more important I thought it was that he be able to start to work on the cabinetry as soon as possible. Besides, I had helped Ernie pull the range out once upon a time, so I felt certain I could do it without causing any damage (to me or the kitchen).
When Roger finally arrived, the range was sitting in the garage. While he went to work on the cabinets, I drove to the hardware store to locate a new outlet (the old one was hardwired) and get any other accessories necessary to get the new range functioning tomorrow. I also went to Sears to get a range cord and check the clearance in the back of the range to know exactly where to set the new outlet…an awful lot of stuff to be thinking about!

It took Roger a couple of hours to do all the cutouts to the right size for the new range and after he’d cleaned up his mess and left, I started wiring the new outlet, a job that took much longer than I anticipated because the wires were very heavy gauge and didn’t cooperate at all in the small space that I had to work in. Finally though, the job was done and the outlet was mounted on the wall, just waiting for tomorrow morning and the delivery of the new range.

Barbara occupied her time during the day by taking care of our first of the month business, handling the routine household chores, and cleaning up some of the messes that Roger and I made as well as taking care of Mother.

Barbara: After we went to bed around 10, my cell rang which is a clue that I’m probably not going to like what I hear as family members know not to call after 9. Sure enough, Leah Renee’ was calling to tell me that Arnold Robbins, a very dear friend and former fellow teacher in Lubbock, died today of cancer. She had just found out on Facebook and knew that I would want to know.

Arnold was the kind of science teacher that could make the most disinterested students love the subject. One walk into his room was like walking into an experiment waiting to happen…rocks, animals, (I found his snake in my classroom one day and believe me I wasn’t a happy camper until Arnold took him back to his classroom.) and who knows what else could be found in his domain! But…Arnold’s real joy was in his after school program with rockets. He and the kids would spend hours just preparing, shooting them off, and discussing what happened right…what went wrong.

Together we coached Odyssey of the Mind for years and built teams that were definitely competitive in the big state of Texas.

But, the greatest thing about Arnold was becoming friends outside of school with Rosie and him. When he first started at Wheelock, he and Rosie were just a young, footloose, and fancy-free couple; but during the years my family got to watch his family grow with the birth of each of their three daughters. I even got to teach Alisha, their oldest, in the sixth grade before I left Lubbock!

When Henry was dying of cancer, Rosie and Arnold were there. And, after his death, they continued to walk with me.

Though the years since I left Lubbock and the miles have separated us, I still consider Arnold and Rosie some of my dearest friends and my heart is heavy with the loss.

Thursday, September 2

Jim: It was a big morning today as we awaited the arrival of the new kitchen range. We went over the floor and the place where Roger cut the cabinet out to make sure everything was going to be clean and okay once the delivery was made.

The Sears truck showed up in the driveway promptly at 10:00, and within a half hour the new range was installed and working…not only that, the door worked…easy to open and easy to close and lock…hallelujah!!!

Other than the excitement of getting the new range, it was a fairly calm day with just the regular chores and errands…get the mail, order refills on some of Mother’s meds, call Dr. Bankhead to request a referral for a neurologist to give us a second opinion on Mother’s conditions as it relates to Parkinsonism, go to the bank, pay bills, and make a Walmart run so it could be an official day.

All in all, it was just another day in Mineola.

Friday, September 3

This morning was taken up with getting Mother ready for another trip to Tyler; this time for a follow-up visit with her neurologist, Dr. Drew. Dr. Drew changed a couple of medications last month and wanted to see how things were going. Mother got a very good report this morning…some days are better for her than others, but her general mental acuity has shown marked improvement in the last month and for that, we are very grateful.

We returned to Mineola to find a great meal that Barbara had worked on while we were gone. TJ passed on it to go home and do some other work, but the three of us enjoyed it very much and then took time off for our afternoon rest.

I made the executive decision this afternoon to find a way to take the rolling pallet that I had made out to our lot if at all possible. I checked with Ladd about borrowing his pickup, but didn’t get any answers at the house or their cell phones. Barbara suggested that I call Bob Royar, but that would mean a couple of trips out to the lake, so I nixed the idea at first, but then gave Bob a call just to see what the possibility might be.

When I explained to Bob what I needed to do, he immediately said to come on out to the lake and get his pickup, He and Mary were getting ready to drive the golf cart down to the clubhouse for the Friday night burger special and wouldn’t be using the truck.

I told Barbara what Bob said and then we mapped out a plan for me to drive the Vibe to Bob and Mary’s house, bring the pickup back to Mineola and tie the pallet on it, both of us ride back to the lake where I would drop Barbara off at the clubhouse and let her order a couple of burgers for us while I unloaded the pallet at Big V, then we would eat our burgers and visit with folks for a few minutes before taking the truck back to Bob’s house, trading it for the Vibe, and returning to Mother’s house. So we did. Dr. McCray, my first graduate school professor at USF, would have marked that sentence paragraph with all kinds of red ink, but maybe my short story professor at ENMU would have been more generous. Anyway, that’s our story and we’re sticking with it!

When we got back to the house, I sat down to listen to the web broadcast of the Artesia Bulldogs and Hobbs Eagles football game from Hobbs. It was another high scoring affair with Hobbs winning in the last two seconds when Artesia attempted a 2-point conversion for the win, but didn’t make it and came out on the low end of a 48 – 47 score.

While I was busy listening to the football game, Barbara was editing pictures for last week’s journal/blog and catching up on some correspondence.

Saturday, September 4

Today was just a basic housecleaning day, although we did have our exciting moments this morning. I was working in the kitchen when Barbara called me out to the garage to show me that a hummingbird had gotten into the garage and couldn’t find his way out. We had both the main door and the outside door open, but the little feller was so disoriented that all he could do was skitter around the ceiling.

I got a broom and tried to shoo him toward the garage door, but that didn’t work at all and I was afraid I might hurt him. John came over from across the street and tried to scoop the bird with a leaf rake. That worked a couple of times, but we just couldn’t get him close enough to the main door to see his way free.
John had to go back to work at his place, so I grabbed my leaf rake and finally managed to scoop the bird low enough and close enough to the garage door that he “saw the light” and shot out of the garage like a bullet. It made for an interesting way to start the day and between Barbara and me, we got some pretty good close-up shots of the little guy in semi-captivity.

I took Mother to the style shop at 10:30 to get a permanent. Her regular stylist is out of town for a week, so we arranged for Leslie, the girl who cuts our hair, to do the perm. It took until noon to finish, but the result was outstanding. Mother really looked great when I went back to pick her up!
On a sad note, today was Arnold Robbins’ funeral in Lubbock. Our thoughts and prayers are with Rosie and the girls tonight.

Tonight we had Sophie come in to stay with Mother for a couple of hours while we drove out to Holiday Villages for a concert in the clubhouse. Josh Setser’s sister, Amy, was performing an encore concert for the property owners and guests. The first concert was a tremendous success and tonight’s presentation brought just as much satisfaction to those in attendance.
Since it was Labor Day week-end, the Villages had lots of activities going on, not only for the adults but for the kiddos, too. Josh says that they plan to have things similar to the water slide available on all major holidays. We know Abby and Alexander enjoyed the bouncy house while they were with us this summer; so sure other parents/grandparents appreciate the efforts Josh and his crew take to make holidays special around HV.

“The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson." - Tom Bodett, American author and humorist

From Mineola,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

Little Things That Matter

Sunday, August 22 – Saturday, August 28, 2010

Sunday, August 22

Jim: We got up early this morning in order to get a lot of things done before starting our activities.
While Barbara was busy fixing breakfast for Mother and putting lunch together in the crock pot, I was packing clothes and loading things in the car for a trip to Lubbock to be a witness at a sentencing hearing for Jimmy Clint. (refer to April 18-24 entry for background)

We got word this week that there would be a hearing on the 23rd to decide whether Jimmy would have to serve more time or whether he would have a different assignment or probation. His attorney and Barbara both thought it would be good for me to be there.
We left Mother in Sophie’s capable hands for a couple of hours and went to Yantis for the fellowship breakfast. When breakfast was over, I hopped into David’s pickup (with his permission, of course) and headed toward Lubbock. Meanwhile, Barbara went on to Sunday school and the morning worship service and then returned to the house to finish preparing lunch for Mother and her guests for the meal, David, Lorri, Amber, and a friend of Amber’s.

For my part, the day consisted of about 450 miles of travel until I got to downtown Lubbock, checked in at a Super Eight (hereafter known as the Avenue Q Roach Motel), and settled in for a bit before visiting Jimmy Clint for a half hour at the jail and then returning to the motel to get as good a night’s sleep as possible.

Barbara: After lunch was over, Edith and I returned to our respective rooms to take a short nap before I prepared to go back to Yantis for the evening services. Otherwise, the day was spent just keeping in touch with Jim to make certain he arrived safely in Lubbock.

Monday, August 23

Happy Birthday to Cousin Madelyn Thompson in Mineola!!!

Happy Anniversary to Jerry and Nancy Terpening in Artesia, New Mexico!!!

Jim: After grabbing a roll at the motel breakfast nook, I drove to the courthouse, located a 2-hour parking place, and went inside to the fourth floor. Kyle, one of Jimmy’s good friends, joined me around 8:45 and we went into a meeting with Jimmy’s attorney. A few minutes later, Tim, an attorney friend of Jimmy’s who was also a witness, joined us and we got our final instructions before the hearing began.

We were led to believe that we would probably be through by noon, but as it turned out, the prosecution spent so much time with its witnesses that we were dismissed at 5:15 without any of the three of us leaving the witness room (except for lunch) or giving testimony…not only that, there was still one prosecution witness still to be called. And not only that…when I went to the pickup, I had a parking ticket…the end of a perfect day!

Kyle and I did get to visit with Jimmy from 5:30 until 6:00 this evening…they even gave us a “private” visitation center, so we were able to talk without multiple conversations going on all around us. We were all tired from a long day, so we agreed that I wouldn’t return for the regular visiting time tonight; instead, we’d all try to get some rest before meeting again tomorrow morning at 8:30 to continue the session.

Barbara: One reason Jim went to Lubbock and I stayed here with Edith is that it is very difficult now for Edith to get in and out of the shower alone. It is very frustrating to her that her independence has been stripped by the Parkinson’s, but we make the best of it. Today was a shower day and it is quite a lengthy process now. However, once we got that behind us and her ready for this new day, I began working on lunch as TJ was joining us.

Waiting for news from Jim was quite nerve-racking; so I kept busy doing laundry and other chores around the house. At four, Sophie came to spell me a bit so I could do some errands outside the house as well as go out to Carolyn and Gene’s to see the new paint job Carolyn had accomplished in their home. While I was there, I got treated to an accordion concert by Gene. It was so restful to sit and visit with Carolyn all the while hearing the Gene’s accordion music floating all around! I hated to leave the cocoon of peace that I had found there!

Back at Edith’s Sophie and I visited some before she left, and then Edith and I began the nightly routine of preparing for bed.

Also, since it was the first day of school for many of the kiddos, we received some beginning of school photos that we must share. First was one from Cathey of Jaycie, Jimmy’s daughter, who began her seventh grade year at Evans Junior High. Of course, I immediately sent it on to Jim...gotta love computers. Then we talked on the phone, both expressing our disbelief in how tall she is getting even though we just had time with her in July!

Then we received some photos from another granddaughter of Jean’s (this one Jerry/Nancy’s daughter). Amanda sent us photos of Daniel as he started his elementary stint in first grade in Knox City. His younger brother Jonah wasn’t exactly sure what to think about Daniel leaving him behind. (Amanda said to disregard the marquee message...it hadn't been updated when she took photo)

For us retired teachers, the first day of school nowadays just brings a sense of relief that we’re not joining the throngs! We’ll do our part to support and pray for all the students and teachers, but will just stay grateful that our wonderful years in education are behind us!

Tuesday, August 24

Jim: Kyle and I met at the courthouse at 8:30 this morning, planning to be finished with our part of the proceedings by 10:30 or so.

As Murphy so eloquently put it, “If anything can go wrong, it will,” and Murphy was spot on today. Everyone was in place on time except Judge Ladd, and he didn’t show up until after 9:30. Then, the judge decided that he would hear pre-trial motions for other cases before he tackled the continuation of Jimmy Clint’s hearing. At that point, Jimmy’s attorney reminded the judge that it was 9:50 and he (the attorney) had to be at the airport at 10:20 to pick up people involved in a federal case.  Since federal cases usually trump local issues, the judge issued another continuance for Jimmy Clint’s hearing for 10:00 am tomorrow (Wednesday). The attorney then said he was not going to call either Kyle or me as witnesses and told me to return to Mineola and Kyle to get back to his work.

That being said, I headed back to the parking lot, got in David Bagwell’s pickup, and spent the rest of the day driving the 450 or so miles back to Mineola, arriving at the house around 7:30 pm.

Barbara: Knowing that Jim was on the way home to Edith and I and knowing that God is in control of Jimmy, I spent the day doing a whole lot of nothing except fixing lunch for TJ and Edith again. It’s always amazing to me how quickly a day passes and yet it seems like I do nothing!

I did get word that in Victoria, TX, Barbara (Jean’s granddaughter and Susie/James’ daughter) and Warren had become parents of a son, Henry, last night at 10:30ish. Jean is going to be able to field her own basketball team with all the great grandsons she has now! That's pretty exciting!
I spent a lot of the time on the phone with At Home Health Care out of Tyler. They are going to help with a nurse and with home physical therapy for Edith. Just setting up the initial visits is very time consuming. Also, time was spent ordering a wheelchair for Edith to be used in emergencies. Medicine Chest loaned us one before Jim left just in case Edith’s feet and brain didn’t communicate. However, thankfully, that hasn’t happened since Jim left; so we haven’t had to use it; it’s very old and bulky and I have a hard time pushing it.

I did get a call from Michael saying that Kelly got home safely the other day from Pakistan and that she had had a quick check-up with the doctor and all is well with her and the baby. Mike and Kelly are in the planning stages of an overseas mission trip in October so it was exciting to hear some of their plans.
Also, our favorite office manager/secretary (actually, we don’t know her title…just know Holiday Villages couldn’t do without her!), Karen sent an email proudly announcing that she was a grandma of Abigail, who was born today! Congrats!

Jim called and said he was in Sulfur Springs; so I let Edith know that I was going to go pick him up and then we’d both be back shortly!

The rest of the evening was spent catching up with each other and with Jim touching base with Michael.

Wednesday, August 25

While the day started out at its usual slow pace, it did get busy later on. We knew that Jimmy Clint would be back in court this morning and that was in the back of our minds all day, but we never did find out today what, if anything happened.

Highlights of the day included the delivery of a new wheelchair for Mother. The friendly folks at Medicine Chest here in Mineola had loaned us one last week, but now Mother has a new and more streamlined set of wheels and it will spin on a dime!

Also, today we had visit from Jennifer, the nursing supervisor for At Home Healthcare. Jennifer came by to do a nursing evaluation of Mother and her situation. As we have been with all the At Home Healthcare folks, we were very pleased with Jennifer’s friendliness, professionalism, and interaction with Mother and us. There are a lot of healthcare providers around, but we feel that we made the right choice for Mother with At Home Healthcare!

Barbara received an email today from Karla Dailing, Dustin Dailing’s mother. Dustin was a member of the last West Middle School Odyssey of the Mind team that Barbara coached, and graduated from LHS this year. Karla wrote to say that they had taken Dustin to Kansas University this past weekend to begin the new school year as a Jayhawk. While they were there, they did some skydiving together and Karla shared some photos of the experience. (Look at Dustin's smile...he's one happy camper!)
Barbara: Jim was drooling as he checked out the photos of Dustin! He has always expressed the desire to do what Dustin just did; so I told him that the next time we get to go see Whitney and Jim and Little Jimmy in Olathe that we would bite the bullet and let him try his hand at this. I’ll gladly wait below! I will have to find out how Darla got such good photos of Dustin though.

Jim: Now that the Dailing’s have an “empty nest” in Liberal, they are considering doing some traveling, so we invited them to come to Mineola this fall and spend some time out at Big V. Sure hope that they will take us up on the offer!

Thursday, August 26

For whatever reason, the three of us were moving slowly this morning…it was the first time in a long time that we all slept in past 7:00, a very late morning for us.

We made the executive decision, after a particularly nasty fight with the oven door, that we were going to purchase a new electric range for Mother’s kitchen. Mother has spent more in repairs on the range than a new one would cost, and they want another $200 to replace the door that won’t close (or open) properly. We decided that in time the range would have to be replaced anyway, particularly when the time comes to sell the house, and there wasn’t any point in struggling with the broken range just so someone else would have a new one when the moved in.
I called Roger Green, TJ’s handyman, and asked if he’d come by and show me what he could do about reworking the cabinets so we could install a free-standing range. The current appliance is a drop-in model that came with the house, so we know that there will have to be some cutting and shaving to get a new range in place.

Later in the day we drove over to Sears to see if they still had the close-out model that we liked, and they did, so we went ahead and purchased it on the spot, asking if they would hold delivery until at least next Thursday when we would have the kitchen ready to install it.

We did find out today that Jimmy Clint will be transferred to the Lubbock County Rehabilitation Treatment Center as soon as all the paperwork clears. We went online to see what we could find out about the facility and were impressed with what we saw. There will be a lot of intensive instruction as well as group meetings. After 90 days, they will assist him in finding a job and he will be out in the public during the days.

Jimmy will need regular clothes for the duration of his assignment to the center, so we will make a trip to Lubbock this weekend to go through his storage shed and come up with as many things as we can find that are on the approved list for his daily living.

The rest of the day was spent piddling around the house and working on the journal/blog to get the latest edition finished and posted. Since we’d had a late breakfast and an even later lunch, we prepared a light evening snack for Mother and then Barbara and I went out to Sonic for a late meal around 10:00 pm before returning to the house to eat and then close the place down and go to bed.

Friday, August 27

With plans on tap for a flying trip to Lubbock this weekend, we made a list of chores that had to be done before we could leave Sunday and started working our way through the list. First, I took the car to the local GM dealer to be serviced and have the tires rotated and then I stopped off to see Sophie and confirm that she would be able to stay a couple of nights with Mother.

Once Sophie said that everything was okay with her, we whittled away at the list by making some necessary telephone calls to Lubbock, taking a trip to Walmart for the necessities for Mother and Sophie, stopping at the Medicine Chest to get current on prescriptions, driving to Quitman to pick up Gene and Michelle’s mail at the post office, taking care of some business at the local Edward Jones office, Mowing the lot just north of Mother’s house, and other general chores around the place.

In between all of these activities, the medical supply place called and told Barbara that they were bringing a new walker for Mother. Her old walker, like the old wheelchair, was big, bulky, and totally useless in her bathroom area. We were all delighted when it arrived, though Mother is still a little bumfuzzled with the idea that it actually has hand brakes. Go, Mama, go!

By the time we had the list completed, we were tuckered out and the day was gone. While Barbara worked at her computer and watched a little TV tonight, I went online and listened to the opening game for our Artesia Bulldogs. The ‘Dogs were hosting the Lovington Wildcats tonight and in a game that featured three of the top runners in New Mexico high school football, Artesia managed to win the shootout by a score of 63 – 41…can anyone say, “Defense?”

Saturday, August 28

Most of today was spent inside with a major housecleaning operation. Once again we had let things slip away from us and it was time for some serious dusting, sweeping, and mopping, as well as catching up on laundry.

Even with all that, Barbara put together a chicken-fried steak dinner that would have impressed anyone, anywhere. The three of us ate until our eyes glazed over and then had to go lie down to let everything settle.

This evening we gave the puppies their monthly medications. Luckily, they are very good about both procedures, especially since one of the steps is to swallow a pill that is wrapped in cheese; they had no problems at all with that!

Tonight we spent an hour or so packing the things we thought we might need for the trip to Lubbock tomorrow and then headed for bed and a good night’s sleep.

"No one can go back and make a brand new start, but anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." – Doug Hanson

From Mineola,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams