A Little Grandparent Time With Ava


The Journey: A Little Time With Mike, Kelly, and Ava

Sunday, May 13 – Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Sunday, May 13

Happy Mother’s Day!!!!!

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We arrived at Mike and Kelly’s house around 3:30 this afternoon after the long drive from Huntington, West Virginia.  Our original plan was to meet the kids in time to go to Cary Street and the Thai Diner Too for one of our favorite Thai meals, and then Kelly would fly out to Birmingham on a project for the company.  But, Mike found that the Thai place was closed on Sundays, so we all sat around and visited for a couple of hours and got reacquainted (and took lots of pictures of Ava, who has changed immeasurably since we saw her at Christmas).

When Kelly left for the airport, Mike loaded us in his car and we went in search of someplace to eat.  We thought the Mother’s Day crowd would have dissipated by evening, but our first choice, Cracker Barrel, had a waiting list of more than an hour.  We checked out a Mexican food restaurant, but it also had a line longer than we wanted.  Mike’s back-up plan was O’Charley’s, a little farther down the road from the house, but the wait was only 10 minutes, so that was our choice.  We were seated soon and enjoyed a great meal as we continued to get caught up on each other’s lives.
Ava, of course, delighted customers, the wait staff, and us with her chatter and activities before and during the meal.


Once we were back at the house, it was bath time for Ava and soon after, it was bed time for the rest of us!

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Monday, May 14

Once Mike left for work this morning, we became Ava’s full-time daycare providers.  Fortunately, she was very easy to take care of.  Ava wakes up around 6:30, gets up and has breakfast, plays until around 9:00, and then takes a nap for about an hour and a half.  When she gets up again, she gets her morning milk before getting dressed in a play outfit, plays a bit, has lunch, plays some more, and around 1:00, she crawls up the stairs and goes to bed for an afternoon nap.  When she gets up again around 2:30 or 3:00, she gets a bottle of whole milk, plays, has supper, plays some more, takes a bath, and then goes to bed for the night...it’s all a very simple process.
We found that Ava enjoys taking her naps.  All we had to do was say, “Ava, it’s time to go to bed,” and she would stop whatever she was doing, crawl up the stairs, and stand beside her bed until one of us picked her up and put her in it.  She’s the same about her bath, so everything works very methodically and without fuss.

The one thing we found that brought Ava to tears was my trumpet playing.  I thought she might be fascinated by the horn and sound, but after just a minute or so of playing, she made the most awful face and began crying.  I finally gave up and went upstairs to practice, but Barbara said Ava still didn’t care for the sound...guess there’s no accounting for some folks’ taste, huh!  (And I really thought I was getting better at my playing).


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Tuesday, May 15

Mike has a 6:30 am Bible study session on Tuesdays, so this morning he was gone before Ava woke up.  She didn’t seem to be a bit disturbed by finding us taking care of her, and the routine went fairly smoothly.


Mike came back to the house and then took Ava to a doctor appointment for a check-up and to see about the nasty little cough she has been developing.  When they got back, we took over the care and Mike went back to work.  Later, I went to CVS to pick up a couple of prescriptions that Ava’s pediatrician had phoned in.  I was given two sacks and returned to the house, but Barbara could find only one of the prescriptions, and it wasn’t for the cough.  Barbara called the pharmacy and found that although they had said both prescriptions were ready, one of them really wasn’t.  So, I made the trek back down the highway, got the prescription, and then returned to the house to get Ava started on a regimen of something we all hoped would cure the cough and clear up her runny nose.
We took Ava out for a stroll this afternoon when it was nice and warm outside.  The kids’ neighborhood has a really nice system of paved paths throughout the development that are perfect for walking, jogging, and pushing strollers.

Kelly returned from Birmingham today and she and Mike arrived home at the same time, just as we were returning Ava from our walk and her stroll.

Ava was, of course, delighted that her mother was home and latched onto her to the exclusion of the rest of us.

After awhile things got back to normal and we all settled in for a delightful family dinner and quality play time before it was time for Mike and Kelly to give Ava her bath and put her to bed.

After the full day we all had, it didn’t take long for the rest of us to follow Ava’s example and head to our respective rooms for the night.

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Wednesday, May 16

Today was much like the first two days of this week except that Ava had both Mike and Kelly to see her when she woke up.


After Mike and Kelly went to work, we took over the regular routine and had our usual good time spoiling the heck out of Ava.  So much spoiling to do...so little time!!!

This evening we finally got to make our long-awaited trip into Richmond and down to Cary Street for some great food and family entertainment.  Getting to the part of Cary Street we needed was a bit of a challenge because of the traffic, but we eventually found a parking lot and began our adventure.

The first stop this evening was at the Thai Diner Too, our favorite place to eat when in Richmond.  It isn’t very fancy, but it has a wide variety of dishes on the menu and we’ve never found a selection we didn’t like.  Many folks who have lived in Thailand frequent Thai Diner Too because they say it is the most authentic Thai food in the area.



Following our meal, we went for a stroll up and down Cary Street, another favorite place to visit when we are in Richmond.  It’s an old street lined with many different shops, restaurants, and performance venues.  At almost any time of day one can find street performers doing their thing.
We stopped at an ice cream shop and then strolled down the street some more.  While we were waiting for Mike and Kelly to finish a visit with some folks they met in the ice cream shop, a couple of well-dressed young men (one with a microphone and the other with a camera) came up and asked if we’d mind being interviewed.  We said we’d be happy to talk to them.  The guy doing the interview asked what America meant to us.  We talked about patriotism and freedoms that we enjoy.  Then, he asked what we do to support patriotism.  Well, that opened a wide gate!  We told him that we were on our way to Washington, DC to participate in the celebration of the 150th anniversary of Taps and that I would do Taps at Arlington National Cemetery.  He then threw us for a loop when he asked, “So, do you consider yourself a pretty good tap dancer?”  After a brief pause, I explained what we were doing and then we left, bemoaning the current state of journalism and wondering how some folks get (and hold) the jobs they have.



Mike, Kelly, and Ava caught up with us soon afterward and we continued our stroll down Cary Street until we finished our ice cream and decided it was time to get Ava home and in bed for the night.

“If becoming a grandparent was only a matter of choice, I should advise every one of you straight away to become one.  There is no fun for old people like it!” – Hannah Whithall Smith

From Mike and Kelly’s home in Midlothian, Virginia,

Jim/Dad/Gramps and Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little Travel Time Across America


The Adventure: Mineola, Texas to Olathe, Kansas to Richmond, Virginia

Wednesday, May 9 – Sunday, May 13, 2012

Wednesday, May 9

Our grand adventure to Washington, DC began around 3:00 pm today as we closed up the house, double-checked to see that everything we needed was in the car (it wasn’t, as we later discovered, but there was always Walmart), and headed north toward Olathe, Kansas, and a visit with Whitney, Jim, and Little Jimmy.

We knew from the beginning that we would have to spend the night on the road somewhere, so we weren’t in a big enough hurry today to break any speed limits.  We drove to Paris, Texas, and then cruised up the Indian Nation Turnpike through Oklahoma, before catching U.S. 75 at Henrietta for the Tulsa leg of the trip.

Our first unplanned “adventure” began when we tried a new way of getting around Tulsa, not allowing for getting caught in the dark and being unable to see what we were doing.  Barbara was the navigator, striving to keep one eye on the map and the other on the road signs.  We found what we thought was the right exit to Pearl Harbor Memorial Drive, but it was really the exit to Memorial Drive, not the same thing at all.  Memorial Drive has many intersections with traffic lights, and all seemed to be programmed to turn red as we approached them.  Not only that, but when we finally found the end of the street, we were dead-ended at some airport buildings, rather than connecting to U.S. 169 North.

After some prowling around in the dark, we found our way to a convenience store and got the directions we needed.  But, it was so late and we were so tired, that we made it only as far as the Best Western Hotel in Owasso.  We were able to get a room for the night and went straight to it, even foregoing computer time, and crashed until morning.

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Thursday, May 10

We had a nice breakfast at the hotel and then hit the road again, just trucking it on toward Olathe.  We decided it was time for a break when we saw the signs for Chanute, Kansas.  What we didn’t know was that Chanute is actually several miles off the highway, but by the time we figured that out, we were committed to going on.

We made a brief stop at McDonald’s and then the driver decided that there was a better way of getting out of town than backtracking to U.S. 169.  There was, but somehow we missed it big time and after driving 30 minutes toward what the driver thought should be the highway, the navigator convinced him to turn around.  We eventually found what we wanted and got back on the highway headed the right direction.  Getting lost twice within twelve hours was not a good sign.

The rest of the trip into Olathe was unremarkable in any way, but the driver, with a set of directions that Mike had given him at Christmas locked firmly in his brain, got off I-35 at the Santa Fe exit and proceeded toward Whitney and Jim’s house.

We made a quick Walmart stop and continued the search for the street we wanted, but couldn’t find it.  Barbara called Whitney for directions, told her where we were.  I then remembered that the set of directions Mike had given me that night in December was to Cici’s Pizza, NOT the kids’ house.  Whitney got us straightened out and soon we pulled up to the front of the house to find Whitney and Little Jimmy standing at the door and waiting for us.

After unloading the car, we decided that we needed lunch.  Little Jimmy’s recommendation was Panera, so that’s where we headed, and where we had a grand time eating and visiting.

When we finished with our meal, we returned to the house for a bit and Jimmy showed off his dance moves as he played with a Wii program.  We’d never seen such a thing, but soon both Jimmy and Whitney were busting some great moves as they danced to various songs.  Little Jimmy, we found, has more rhythm in his little finger than the two of us have in our whole bodies!  Who knows, maybe we’ll see him on American Idol or Dancing with the Stars someday (that is, if he makes it to one of those shows and someone calls to tell us to watch, since we’ve never seen either of them.

After Jimmy and Whitney had rested from their dance/aerobic session (and we had rested from watching them), we all got into Whitney’s car and she took us to the Deanna Rose Farmstead, a local attraction that gives kids (young and old) opportunities to see farm animals and implements up close.  Jimmy, of course, went immediately to the playground area where he could swing, climb, and slide to his heart’s content.

Jim joined us at the farmstead when he got off work and we all watched Jimmy at play.  We even got a demonstration of cow-milking before we left and learned some new things along the way...guess education never stops, huh!

We returned to the house for dinner and an evening of family fun and fellowship as we all got caught up with each other’s lives and enjoyed Jimmy continuing his play.  Of course, there were plenty of photos taken along the way!



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Friday, May 11

As this was a travel day, we got up early, loaded the car, had another quick photo session with the kids, and headed off into the sunrise with hearts full of joy over the short, but fun-filled visit.

Our goal for the day was to have a leisurely drive across Missouri and then a few miles into Illinois where we had reservations at a Best Western in Nashville.  The “leisurely” part didn’t kick in until we had gotten from the far western side of the Kansas City area to the far eastern side, although the only dicey section was when we left I-35 for the I-435 loop.  There was construction going on for a mile or so on 435, but the traffic soon thinned out and we were able to maintain the speed limit until we got to I-70.

One of our favorite rest stops along I-70 is the Russell Stover outlet store in Boonville.  We first stopped there several years ago when Barbara and I were taking a West Middle School Odyssey of the Mind team from Liberal to the University of Maryland for the World Finals competition.

When I pulled Big Red into the parking lot and the kids got out and went inside, they were met by a very friendly staff.  We explained who we were and where we were going, and by the time we left, the staff had loaded the kids down with bag upon bag of free candies.  We also stopped there on our return trip.  When the kids told the staff that they had placed 2nd in the World Competition, someone grabbed a camera and soon there was a picture of the team on the bulletin board (and more free candy for the kids to take home).

The store is now new and improved and the old staff is gone, but we still enjoy stopping to see if we can find that “just right” gift for someone.

Another of our plans for the trip was to stop at rest areas along the way so I could practice my trumpet.  It was going to be a long haul across the country and hotels and motels are seldom “trumpet friendly,” so we decided we would just serenade truckers and birds along the way.

Our first such stop was about an hour or so east of Columbia.  It should have been a portent that the restrooms were only porta-potties, but not being strong on portents, we pulled in so we could stretch our legs and I could toot my horn for a bit.

While I was playing, Barbara decided to have some fun with the camera.  She took some shots of me and then set the camera on the car to take pictures of herself reacting to my playing (hands over ears, pained expressions, finger twiddling, etc.).  However, the joke backfired when the camera suddenly slid off the top of the car, hit the pavement, and broke what turned out to be a very important corner.  Try as we might, we couldn’t get the camera to turn on again.  Luckily, all the photos were saved on a SD card, but that didn’t help us with taking new photos.

As we continued our route for the day, we looked for a place where we might be able to get a new camera.  We found a Walmart along the way, but discovered that no one in the camera department knew anything about cameras.  Not only that, they weren’t particularly interested in finding anyone in the store who did, so we got back into the car and drove toward St. Louis, hoping to find a replacement camera in that area.

We took the I-64 cutoff as we approached St. Louis and made our way without difficulty through the city and across the river to East St. Louis.  From there it was a hop, skip, and a jump to O’Fallon, Illinois, where we found an Office Max that had just what we needed for a replacement camera.  It wasn’t in the budget, but we just gritted our teeth, bought the camera and a few extras, and headed down the road to Nashville to settle in for the evening.

We found our hotel easily enough, got checked in and unloaded, and then decided that after a long, hot day of driving, a dip in the well-advertised pool would be the perfect thing.  Like many of our thoughts, it was good at the time, but we quickly found that not only was the pool closed, it was pretty well torn apart.  Oh well, so much for believing all the advertising one sees.

The saving grace, other than the nice room and good internet service, was the little restaurant next door.  We checked out the menu, ordered a couple of chef salads to take back to the room, and settled in for a nice, quiet evening and a good night’s sleep.

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Saturday, May 12

We were up and at ‘em fairly early this morning...had a light breakfast at the hotel, gassed up at the station next door, and headed east on I-64.

Our first stop of the morning was at the Indiana Welcome Center.  We got out and stretched our legs for a bit and I managed to get in a few minutes of trumpet practice.  There were very few others in the parking lot at the time, so we think it is safe to say that we didn’t offend anyone very much with the morning musicale.

Barbara suggested that we do some comic shots, so I sat on the curb with my hat turned upside down as if I was playing for donations.  The money in the hat came from my pocket and I thought more than once that someone might come along, take the $5, and put back only $2.  Now THAT would have been embarrassing!  Barbara decided that since I wasn’t wearing the hat and no one was making donations, she’d try it on for size and style.


Moving on down the road, we crossed Indiana without any incidents, stopped on the eastern side of the state for McLunch, and then continued toward the Kentucky state line and Louisville.


After crossing the Ohio River and then skirting Louisville on I-264, we made our way across Kentucky before stopping at a rest area for yet another practice session and some clowning around, not to mention a very necessary break for both of us.
Barbara decided that she had listened to me enough that she could probably play the trumpet, too.  She strikes a good pose, doesn't she?

We ended today’s travels at the Best Western Mall in Huntington, West Virginia.  Luckily for us, there was a Sonic and a gas station right across the street from us.  Since we needed both places, we drove over to fill up the car and get something from Sonic for supper in our room at the hotel.

While we were checking our email in the room, we received the following picture of Jaycie, all dressed up for the 8th Grade banquet for Evans Middle School in Lubbock.  It sure is hard to believe that Jaycie is now 14 and headed for Monterey High School next year.  Where have the years gone?!!! 


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Sunday, May 13

We left Huntington in the rain this morning, but by the time we got to Charleston, all we had was cloudy skies and perfect driving weather.  Charleston is one of our favorite cities to drive through.  Each time we come here, we wish that we could have several days to capture all the scenic views and vistas.  Barbara was busy snapping photos as I kept my eyes on the winding road.

When we got outside of Charleston, we made a decision to try some local food.  We’d seen several signs advertising Biscuit World and made a stop at one of their many locations.  The stop was well worth the time and what little we paid for our breakfast.  Barbara ordered a couple of biscuits, butter, and jelly, but I decided to try the local specialty, a fried bologna, cheese, and egg biscuit.  It was delicious and so big that it took me nearly a half hour to eat the whole thing.  Biscuit World will definitely be on our agenda the next time we come through this part of the country!

Our next stop, after a brief photo op stop at a rest area, was at Tamarack, the West Virginia Arts and Crafts Center.  We’ve visited Tamarack before and loved it every time.  It is so nice to see a state that puts its money where its mouth is to support and fund the arts.  We can think of a couple of unnamed states such as Texas and Kansas that would do well to emulate West Virginia’s example.


When we stopped at Tamarack and I started practicing my trumpet, Barbara spotted a bird perched at the base of a tree.  She tried to get photos, but the bird kept moving around the tree to avoid her.  I told her it might have been the spirit of Jimmy Clint, a notorious photo-avoider.
From Tamarack to the Virginia state line is a long, winding incline that taxes patience and brakes.  While I kept my eyes on the road, Barbara took pictures of the beautiful scenery.  As “they” say, a picture really is worth a thousand words.



We continued driving east on I-64 until we crossed into Virginia...made a quick shopping stop at Covington, and then continued to I-81, breaking away at Staunton to follow I-64 up into the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Shortly after the spot where the Blue Ridge and Skyline Parkways intersect with I-64, we stopped at a scenic turnout overlooking Rockfish Gap.
A commission appointed to select a site for the University of Virginia met in Rockfish Gap August 1-4, 1818 in a nearby tavern.  Among the 21 commissioners present were former presidents Thomas Jefferson and James Madison.  The commissioners chose Charlottesville over Staunton and Lexington for the site of the university.  The tavern where the commission met was owned by Samuel and Walter Leake.  It later was enlarged and became part of the Mountaintop Hotel and Springs, but the popular tavern burned in 1909.

From the Rockfish Gap turnout, we traveled a couple more miles to another of our favorite spots, the Virginia Department of Transportation Memorial.  On the back of the memorial are engraved 131 names of VDOT workers who lost their lives on the job.

This was to be my last trumpet practice stop until we got to Mike and Kelly’s house, so I did some quick warm-ups and then stood behind the memorial and played, “We are Standing on Holy Ground.”

And then it was on to the Richmond area and the kids’ house in Midlothian.  We’d been many miles over the last few days and were ready to stay put for awhile!

"One's destination is never a place, but a different way of seeing things." - Henry Miller

Road-weary but happy to be in Midlothian with Mike, Kelly, and Ava,

Jim/Dad/Gramps and Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little Bit of May


Tuesday, May 1 – Wednesday, May 9, 2012

A “Little” Overview

Because of our plans for May, we decided to do several separate entries for the month.  The first nine days, while very busy for us, were not particularly newsworthy, but did have their moments that we share here with our faithful readers.
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May 1-4 Tuesday-Thursday

Barbara: These days found us scrambling trying to get both houses, Edith’s and Big V, cleaned and ready for company as well as our departure. And, of course, this meant that we also had to do the lawns as well. It seemed as though between the nursing home, Walmart, cooking, cleaning, and yards, the days were over before they began.

May 5 Friday

Jim’s Bugles Across America uniform finally arrived and we went out to his Uncle Harry’s gravesite so he could once again play Taps in his honor. Harry was the recipient of the Purple Heart as well as many other medals for his service during 3 wars. Then it was off to see Edith and give her a glimpse of the “new” bugler, Jim.  Edith and Joe gave Jim his trumpet 54 years ago when he entered high school band. In the bottom left photo, Edith is wearing the TAPS 150 shirt we bought for her so she could participate on the 19th with us.

 Leah and Ryan arrived and after a getting their dog, Princess, and Bonita settled, each agreeing to stay in their own corners, the kids went to see Granny while Jim and I dog sat. Once they returned home, we ate and played a rousing game of 99 before calling it a night.

May 5 Saturday
Heidi, Curt, and the kids were planning to get away from the real world for a while and to do that they were going to stay in Big V. Since we wanted Ryan to see all the improvements we’d made out there, we started the day off with a trip to Big V. (Wonderful way to start any day if you ask us!) I find it hard to believe that we didn’t subject Leah and Ryan to more photos; but we didn’t that day. Wonder if they appreciate that?

These were the best shots of the super moon that Jim could get. 

May 6 Sunday

After warning Edith that we would not be by to see her this morning, we took the kids to church in time for the breakfast. While they went to Sunday school, I had the honor of keeping Jeremiah in the nursery. It was fun as he is now walking and we marched to the song, Onward Christian Soldier as well as several other songs on the children’s DVD. Thought it was interesting that I “taught” Jeremiah the actions to Zacheus and then in church, it was part of David’s sermon...Just interesting. Jim played a medley of Morning Has Broken and This is My Family’s World, and Fairest Lord Jesus.


After church, we quickly ran home, changed clothes, grabbed the meal out of the oven and hustled over to the nursing home to enjoy lunch with Edith. TJ joined us. It was a week early but Leah and I had decided that this was an official “Mother’s Day…Part 1” for Edith.  
Once we returned home, it was time for us to say good-bye to the kids. A wonderful time was had by all!


Well…seems as though I did two collages for this event so I’m going to use them both! Waste not, want not!                         .

May 7 Monday

Jim: Monday nights have been a traditional time for several men from the church to go out on Lake Fork for some fishing, fun, and fellowship.  This afternoon I drove out to Our Little Lot to get my fishing gear from the storage shed before heading to the lake.

On the way to Mary Parker’s house (where the fishermen meet), I got a call from Jeremy saying that he and David would have to cancel this evening.  No problem...there would still be Charlie Duncan, Gary Long, and maybe one or two others.

When I got to Mary’s house, I found only Charlie waiting.  It seems that everyone else had to cancel for tonight.  But, we decided that since it was still early in the afternoon and too hot to do any serious fishing, we’d wait for another hour or so before getting in the boat.

I went back to the lot and raked and seeded a large part of our yard, hoping against hope that we would get enough rain in the near future for the centipede grass to take hold and start spreading.

Later, I went back to Mary’s house and Charlie and I did some serious fishing (but no catching) until a thunderstorm blew up and we had thunder and lightning all around us.  That was enough for us, so we shut things down, returned to Mary’s house for a light snack, and I went back to Big V
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I was going to spend the night at Big V and then go to prayer meeting Tuesday morning, but with the storms raging all around, I buttoned down the place and returned to Mineola, arriving at the house just as the skies broke loose and the rain poured down.

Wednesday, May 9
Today was ultra busy for the Littles.  Not only were we busy doing all the last minute things that needed to be done for our 3-week trip that would begin sometime this afternoon, this was also the day we were having Mother come home for the family “Mother’s Day” dinner.  We try to get Mother home at least once a month, and this was the only day that worked out for everyone.  It was chaos, but more or less planned and semi-organized chaos.

We were fortunate that Wood Memorial was able to transport Mother earlier than usual today.  By 11:00, Mother was at the house and settled in for a few hours and our guests, TJ, Ladd, and Angela began arriving.  We had all decided that a Mexican Fiesta was in order. For various reasons, Barbara and I wound up with KP duty which consisted of refried beans, enchilada casserole, Spanish rice, chips, dips and salsa. As we’ve said many times, we don’t mind the cooking and it’s always a treat to see Mother chow down!

A good time with good food and good company was had by all.  Ronnie was supposed to pick Mother up at 1:00, but it was closer to 2:00 when he finally arrived.  We were getting a little perturbed, since everything was supposed to be working on a schedule, but the late arrival of the transportation van made it possible for a couple of our neighbors, John (across the street) and Addie (next door) to come over and visit with Mother for a few minutes.

When we had said our goodbyes to everyone and Mother was headed back to Wood Memorial Nursing Home, we did the absolute last minute things that needed to be done to close the house for three weeks, double-checked to see that we had everything we needed in the car, and at 3:00 pm we pulled away from the house for a three-week adventure of visiting family and friends and going to Washington, DC and Arlington National Cemetery to participate in the TAPS 150 event commemorating the 150th anniversary of the writing and first sounding of Taps.

"Family means too much, friends are too valuable, and life is too short to put off sharing with people how much they really mean to you." Unknown

From Mineola, Texas,
Jim/Dad/Gramps and Barbara/ Mom/Grams