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Sunday, February 20 – Saturday, February 26

Sunday, February 20

Today was NOT one of our regular Sundays. We knew that we would have to go to Big V this morning to try to find our title to the Vibe, all that was missing in completing our new car purchase. Breakfast at church was definitely out of the question and even Sunday school was on the iffy side.

We got Sophie to come in from 9:00 – 10:15 to help get Mother get ready to go to her church service. As soon as Sophie arrived and we settled on her schedule for the day, Barbara and I lit out for Holiday Villages and Our Little Lot to play detective.

Luckily, we had earlier straightened and organized all our stuff in Big V, but we still had to tear into all the little hiding places to look for the title. It wasn’t in any of the normal places that one would keep something like that, so we then turned our attention to every bin and storage place inside, but all to no avail.

Not only could we not find the title, we did find that we had no water pressure, no doubt resulting from the sub-freezing temperatures of the last few nights. A quick check of the outside faucet showed that water was coming through it, but it wasn’t getting to the motor home, leaving the hose and inlet filters as the natural suspects. But, it was way too cold and we were getting way too late for church, so I turned the faucet off just to play it safe and we headed off to the morning church service, happy to be back after missing last Sunday while we were on our Artesia trip.

After church we returned to the house in Mineola. It was too cold to even think about spending the day at Big V. We had lunch, took our Sunday afternoon naps, and then waited for Sophie to arrive at 4:30 so we could return to Yantis for choir practice and the regular evening service.

Monday, February 21

Today’s activity for Mother and me was a trip to Mother’s eye doctor in Tyler. It was just a follow-up visit following the laser treatment of a couple of weeks ago, and Dr. Wick and his able staff proclaimed Mother’s vision to be as fit as it was likely to be. Our wait was longer than we thought it would be, but it was worth it for the good news we received.

The morning was spent by the time we finished at Eye Associates. We returned to Mineola to find a wonderful meal that Barbara prepared in our absence. We ate, talked about the morning’s activities, and then retired to our rooms for a “little” siesta.

This evening Barbara and I made a Walmart run to replenish the larder that had gone mysteriously empty while we were in Artesia. After we returned to the house and put everything away, we made one more browse through all our files to look for the missing title to the Vibe; once again, we were greatly disappointed, but the more we thought about it, the more we began to think that maybe we’d never seen the title after all.

When we finally gave up on the great title search, we sat back and relaxed a bit and then went to bed for a good night’s sleep.

Tuesday, February 22

I got up at 5:45 this morning to get ready to go to the Tuesday morning prayer service at the church in Yantis. Meanwhile, Barbara stayed behind to help Mother when she got up and to get breakfast ready.

When the prayer service was over, I stopped at Big V on the way home and disassembled our water line to try to find out why we weren’t getting water to the motor home. It wasn’t long until I found that a recent hard freeze must have wrecked the water pressure regulator that was installed between the faucet and the main hose. Once the regulator was pulled out and everything else was connected, we had wonderful water pressure. Once again I put “build an insulated faucet cover” on my to-do list (let’s see…five winters and five lists…you’d think I’d finally get around to doing something that important, wouldn’t you?).

I returned to the house, had breakfast, and then we waited for the At-Home Healthcare nurse to arrive for her weekly visit to check Mother over and make sure she was good for another week.

This afternoon was matinee time as the three of us gathered in the living room to watch Grumpier Old Men, the sequel to Grumpy Old Men. We ate our lunch and laughed our way through the movie, enjoying a wonderful afternoon together.

When the movie was over, the dishes were done, and Mother was back in her room, we settled in for an evening of doing as little as possible.

Wednesday, February 23

This morning we hired Sophie to stay with Mother for a couple of hours so Barbara and I could drive to Longview to visit with the DMV folks about the title to the Vibe. We purchased the Vibe in Kansas, but had it registered and tagged in Lubbock as soon as we retired, so we didn’t think there would be any problem getting a duplicate title. Boy, were we ever wrong! It seems that even though we surrendered our Kansas Title to the Texas DMV, Kansas never relinquished the title to us, which explained why we couldn’t find the one we thought we had (but never really did have). The ladies at the DMV office were very nice and helpful, even going so far as to find the number of the Kansas office so we could call them.

We went back to the parking lot and I called the Kansas office, only to be answered by a very surly woman who obviously wasn’t happy about being at work today. After I explained what I needed and she told me what I needed to do (a fairly simple procedure), I asked how long it might take, since I needed to get the title to the dealership in Artesia. The woman told me that it would take at least three weeks. When I expressed a little amazement that it would take that long, she informed me that Kansas had 50 counties and that things like this just took time. Choosing for once to keep my mouth shut, I didn’t bother to inform the woman that Texas has over 250 counties and was prepared to hand over a title in less than 15 minutes…figured that probably wouldn’t help get the title here sooner.

We got back to Mineola a little after noon, took over the reins from Sophie, had lunch, and then settled in for our afternoon routine. We had planned to watch another movie this afternoon, but none of us felt up to it. I did arrange to fax a form to the Kansas DMV office to get started on the title transfer…sure hope it doesn’t take the full three weeks. I also called the dealership in Artesia to tell them of the situation. I guess I took it a lot harder than they did, because it didn’t seem to be a big problem for them.

Barbara received photos today from Jan, Kelly’s mother, of Ava. Needless to say, they had to be shared in this week’s journal! Thank you, Jan!!
Thursday, February 24

While Barbara took care of the cooking and helping Mother get up and dressed, I tackled the backyard…did some cutting and trimming of the shrubs, raked up a kazillion sweet gum balls, and cleared out Spike’s land mines.

When I finished in the yard and got cleaned up a bit, Barbara and I decided to go to the post office and run a couple of errands, but as we got to the end of the block, a huge thunderstorm hit. A couple of blocks later, the rain was blowing so hard we could hardly see a few feet ahead of us. We were almost to the post office when I realized that the mail box key was in the pants I had just taken off, so we turned around and went back home.

While it was still pouring, I grabbed the camera and got shots of the water rushing down the street past our house and gathering in what we have dubbed, Lake Edith, the lot just to the north of us.
When the rain quit, Barbara started to work on lunch and I went on to the post office (and found nothing worth getting out for).

When I got back to the house, I got Mother up and around and we all gathered in the living room to eat our lunch and watch the matinee special of the day, Mrs. Doubtfire, a movie we’ve all seen several times, but still enjoy.

Oh yes, the rain today totaled nearly an inch, with six-tenths of an inch falling in one 15-minute storm (thus the sudden filling of Lake Edith).

Friday, February 25

Happy Birthday to Cousin Don Sandley in Birmingham, Alabama!!!!

Today was just a plain day…took care of Mother, did some cooking and cleaning, paid bills, and ran errands…nothing exciting.

This evening we met Gene and Michelle at Parades Mexican Restaurant in Quitman for dinner and enjoyed a nice meal and conversation. It had been a bit since we’d seen our friends and we enjoyed this opportunity to get caught up.

When the meal was over, we all drove back to Mother’s house for game night. The game of choice tonight was Chickenfoot and Barbara even noted on the calendar at the end of the evening that, “Gene won a hand!”

Saturday, February 26

Happy Birthday to son John Colwell in San, Antonio, Texas!!!!

We spent the morning cleaning and straightening, particularly in the kitchen. Barbara overhauled the recipe drawers and got every recipe put in a notebook which should make more sense and be easier to find.

Mother got a letter today saying that the local zoning board was going to hold a public hearing on March 7 to discuss re-zoning the property north of Mother’s house. It is a large open field encompassing several square blocks and we really like it just the way it is, but evidently someone has some plans for it. We checked the computer for local zoning definitions, but weren’t very successful at interpreting the intent of the letter…guess we’ll just have to go to the hearing to find out what it’s all about.

It was a good afternoon for staying inside, so we broke out another movie, fixed a lunch that could be eaten in the living room, and had our dinner matinee, watching You’ve Got Mail. All of us swore that we had watched the movie before, but except for a few scenes, it was like watching it for the first time. Still, it was a fun movie and we enjoyed the time together.

Tonight we alternated between relaxing and getting things ready for church tomorrow morning.

“I have always wished that my computer would be as easy to use as my telephone. My wish has come true. I no longer know how to use my telephone." - Bjarne Stroustrup, Danish computer scientist

As a postscript, we add the following pictures of Ava that we received from Mike and Kelly.

A quiet week in Mineola,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little Artesia Time



Friday, February 11 – Saturday, February 19, 2011

Friday, February 11


Happy 88th Birthday to Edith Marie Little Borsberry in Mineola, Texas!!!

Miracle of miracles…we actually slept in this morning! After a good night’s rest, we were up and about, got the Vibe loaded, had a wonderful buffet breakfast, and then hit the road toward Lubbock.

We stopped in Wichita Falls to get gas, take a “personal” break, and look at some arrangements in the floral shop at United Supermarket. Our reason for taking the “northern” route from Mineola to Artesia was so we could stop at Resthaven Cemetery to see Jimmy Clint and Henrys’ new grave marker and leave some flowers. Barbara couldn’t find exactly what she wanted, but she did find a pretty glass vase with an artificial red rose in it. She asked if she could just purchase the rose, but the saleslady said it came as a combination and that’s how they had to sell it. So, we made the purchase, hopped back in the car, and continued our drive to Lubbock, arriving at the cemetery around 1:30 or so (after getting more than a little lost in some of Lubbock’s infamous traffic construction.

We went to the gravesite and Barbara placed the vase next to the marker vase and we took several pictures. When we were finished with the pictures, we realized that we needed to go ahead and take the rose out of the vase, since glass containers aren’t allowed. That’s when we found out how much of a set the florist in Wichita Falls had sold us…the stem of the rose was set in about an inch and a half of acrylic cement in the bottom of the vase…there was NO way of removing that flower. The only thing Barbara could do was tell Jimmy and Henry she was sorry, but she was going to take the flower with us.
From Lubbock we drove to Brownfield and stopped at one of our favorite Sonic drive-ins for something to munch on. It was mid-afternoon and we hadn’t had anything to eat, but we didn’t want to get too much, because we had made arrangements to eat with Jean, Jerry, Nancy, and Becky this evening in Artesia and wanted to have our appetites in good shape.

We made the last half hour of the drive to Artesia staring into the brilliant setting sun, something we don’t see in East Texas…good thing I had my sunglasses with me.

We arrived at Jean’s house to find Jean and Becky waiting for us. We unloaded the Vibe and then sat down to visit until Jerry and Nancy arrived from work. After a few minutes of visiting and catching up with each other, we all crawled into Jean’s car and went back to town for a wonderful Chinese buffet at Kwan Den Restaurant, one of our favorite places to eat and enjoy the companionship of wonderful friends.
When we finished eating we returned to Jean’s house and broke out the electronic version of Catch Phrase that we had bought for the family. For the next hour or so we so we played the game and laughed our silly heads off as we tried to think of suitable clues to name the phrases that popped up on the screen. Since none of us really knew the rules, we also had to take a few breaks to make sure we were doing the right thing, but whatever we were doing, we sure had a lot of fun!

Saturday, February 12

Today we celebrate the birthday of Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States!


And, we also welcome to the world Miss Ava Corinne Little, born today to Mike and Kelly Little of Midlothian, Virginia. Ava weighed in at 7 pounds and 1 ounce and is 20 inches long (and, in case you haven’t guessed it, we are PROUD grandparents)!!!!

The reason for our trip to Artesia is that a week or so ago, Jean was diagnosed with lung cancer. Because Barbara’s and my family has ties with the Terpening family that go back well over 50 years, and Jean’s property is what we called home for the first three years of our retirement, we felt that we needed to go back for a visit before we got into some travel plans that we have coming up in the not-to-distant future.

We started this morning by sitting and visiting with Jean over coffee and breakfast…just catching up on all that has happened to the three of us since we last saw her in November. As we were talking, Barbara and I got almost simultaneous text messages from Mike saying that Kelly had begun contractions (a week early) and he had taken her to the hospital. When they got there and checked Kelly, the nurse said that she was a “keeper,” meaning that she wasn’t going back home today. Mike promised to keep us informed of any breaking developments.

After we had finished talking about this latest development and the talk turned more toward subjects of interest for Barbara and Jean, I excused myself and went outside to see what needed to be done about the pecan harvest.

Jean has 15 large pecan trees on her land and for the last several years, we’ve been involved in the harvest in one way or another. We weren’t here for this year’s work, normally done in the late fall and early winter, and Jean hasn’t found anyone to come do the work, so I thought we’d help out by at least getting things started. I went to the barn, got a rake, and started working the section of property directly behind the kitchen and dining room area. The work isn’t difficult, but it’s very dirty. About the only way to gather the pecans is to rake up piles of whatever is in the yard and then sit down beside the piles and sort through the grass, leaves, weeds, and hulls to pick out the pecans and toss them into large buckets.
Barbara did a lot of raking and I sat down and did the sorting, but both of us took turns using the little pecan catcher when we got tired of sitting. Things were going pretty good and then Nancy showed up on her four-wheeler and offered to take Barbara for a ride. It didn’t take long for Barbara to consider whether raking pecans or four-wheeling was more fun. At least they gave me time to take this picture before they took off on their riding adventure.

I stayed with the harvest and managed to get a pretty good start on a bucketful of pecans, but then the wind got up and we decided we’d all had enough of the outdoor activities. I decided to go back in the house, get cleaned up, and go on a shopping expedition with Jean and Barbara; after all, we’d been in town for nearly 20 hours and hadn’t made it to Walmart yet!

While we were busy doing our activities, we got another call from Mike; Kelly had delivered Ava Corrine and everyone was doing well. We reminded Mike that we now had photo capabilities on our new cell phones and he immediately set about taking pictures to share with us. Actually, the picture on the right is proud papa holding his newborn daughter. The picture on the left was taken later and shows a little more of our new granddaughter; she has to be a natural-born Baptist…look at that bowed head and the praying hands!
When we got back to the house, Jean started working on a salad as our contribution to a big family dinner at Jerry and Nancy’s house this evening. I was going to bake bread, but didn’t have the ingredients and there wasn’t time to go back to the store and get the bread baked before time for dinner, so I just served up good intentions for this meal.
This evening we went over to Jerry and Nancy’s house and joined them, Becky, Susie, and Susie’s friend Rhonda for a wonderful meal of roast with all the trimmings. We all gathered around the formal dining table and had a wonderful time with multiple conversations passing around the table almost as frequently as we passed the serving dishes.
When the meal was over and the table was cleared, we all gathered around the table once more for a rousing game of Catch Phrase. With eight of us at the table, we had four members on each team. One would think that with that many team members, it would be much easier to come up with the phrase, but it didn’t quite work that way. We shared many a laugh over the clues that were given and how they could possibly be linked to the sought-after phrase. Luckily, we’re all friends and the humor was all good-natured. A good time was had by all until we had to say goodbye to Susie and Rhonda when they had to return to Hobbs and then Jean, Barbara, and I returned to Jean’s house for the night.

Sunday, February 13

We had planned to go to First Baptist Church this morning, but found out that instead of Brother Rick preaching, Landry Jones, a graduate of Artesia High School and now the starting quarterback at Oklahoma University, would be the guest speaker. We decided instead to spend the time with Jean, visiting and taking care of some chores.

The three of us had breakfast and then while Jean and Barbara shared “girl talk,” I went outside to do some more pecan gathering for a few hours. I got a large area raked and sorted and in a couple of hours Barbara came out and helped load the trash into Little Red for a trip to the trash pile/critter sanctuary. We did take a little time out to get some pictures of ourselves doing the work we loved to do when we were living on Jean’s property before we moved to Mineola and Mother’s house.
Barbara and I made a Walmart run to buy supplies for baking bread this afternoon (Nancy brought her bread maker over for us to “try out,” and then returned to the house to laze away the afternoon and evening watching basketball games on TV and playing catch-up with our email.

Jean said she’d buy supper for the bunch if Barbara and I would go to town to get it. We thought that sounded like a pretty good deal, so we drove the Vibe into town and went to KFC for a bucket of chicken. We wanted an extra large order of wings, but they were out…can you imagine that…kind of like Dairy Queen being out of ice cream, but that has also happened to us. So, we ordered what we could order and then returned to the house for another enjoyable time of family conversation, picking on Becky, and eating.

When Jerry, Nancy, and Becky left (they all had to go to work tomorrow morning), Barbara and Jean sat at the dining room table and talked while I retired to the living room to hammer out journal entries. “Casual” is definitely a key word in this writer’s vocabulary.

Monday, February 14

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

Jean planned to go to work this morning, so we decided to drive to Roswell to take care of some business and visit Carol (Barbara’s older sister), and Jerry and Jane (my brother and sister-in-law).

Our first stop was at a locksmith/key shop where I had three keys made for the motorcycle. Years ago, while we were still working at Liberal, I somehow lost one of the keys to the Voyager while at the high school. We’ve gotten by with only the one remaining key since then, but have had some close calls with nearly losing it. When we found out from the Kawasaki dealer in Roswell that they farmed out their key-copying to a local shop, we decided we’d better get that taken care of. Now we each have a motorcycle key on our car key rings, one on the motorcycle key set, and the master locked up in a safe place (just hope that if we have to, we’ll remember where that safe place is).

The next stop was Happy Jack’s Used Bookstore and Bead Shop on the Ruidoso highway. Happy Jack’s is one of our all-time favorite bookstores, a place where we can spend hours browsing through all the stacks and selecting a new batch of books to take home. We even brought enough books to trade in that we ended up with store credit in addition to the books we wanted…not a bad deal at all!

We then drove downtown to Target to browse the aisles before heading off to lunch. Mike and Kelly had given Barbara a Target gift card for Christmas, but we don’t have a Target store anywhere close to us in Mineola, so this was the first chance to use it. Barbara found a shirt to purchase and we found a few other odds and ends that we just couldn’t live without.

With the shopping behind us, it was time to cross Main Street and meet Carol at Golden Corral. Carol is a senior volunteer with the Roswell schools and was able to get away for a lunch break today. We didn’t have a lot of time together, but did enjoy getting caught up with each other’s families and having a great lunch together.
When Carol returned to work, we drove to Jerry and Jane’s house to get caught up on the latest news from them. While we were there, we gave them their copy of Mother’s 88th Birthday disc. Since they had a DVD player handy, we popped the disc in and watched the 25-minute presentation, with Barbara explaining some of the pictures and the choices of music to Jane while Jerry and I swapped comments about the photos of ourselves “way back when.”
Our visits ended and goodbye’s said, we headed back to Artesia, stopping first at Sonic to get Barbara a tall cold Diet Coke (extra ice, please).

We got home just after Jean and spent the rest of the evening visiting and talking about Jean’s upcoming procedures for fighting the cancer the doctors had found.

Tuesday, February 15

When Jean went to work this morning, we decided to grab the camera and drive around town to take pictures of some of the changes that have occurred over the past few years.

One of the largest projects currently underway is the multi-million dollar law enforcement complex between Jean’s property and town. Located on the north side of U.S. Highway 82 west, the new facility will house the Artesia Police Department, Artesia Fire Department, offices of the Eddy County Sheriff’s Department, the New Mexico State Police, the Artesia jail, and courtroom facilities. Inmates will no longer be transported between the jail and a separate courthouse; instead, they will leave the jail, and be escorted through a tunnel into the adjoining courtroom facility. Completion of the complex is scheduled in a few months, but the project is far enough along that the pictures we took indicate its size. Interestingly enough, the old county road that once ran past the property and connected to the highway is now named “Paddy Wagon Way.” We guess someone on the planning board had a sense of humor.
Another relatively recent project was the construction of a new Hotel Artesia. When I was growing up in Artesia, the hotel was located on the east side of East First Street, next to the railroad station. The hotel has been closed for a number of years, and the new facility was built across First Street from the old structure. The new building is much more modern in design and reflects the progressive nature of new construction in the city.
Located outside the hotel in a traffic circle at the intersection of East Second Street and Texas Avenue is one of several large sculptures that the Artesia Main Street organization has commissioned over the past several years, all of which reflect the founding of the city as a center of ranching and oil and gas interests.

It was such a pretty day that we were also able to get some clear shots of part of the refinery complex on the east side of First Street. With minimal traffic in the way, we were able to get pictures of some of the refinery structures and flares against a clear blue New Mexico sky.
When we were finished with our photo sessions, we went to Guy Chevrolet to ask if they could help us locate a 2010 Vibe. Our 2005 Vibe has nearly 140,000 miles on it, but also has cost almost nothing for maintenance and repairs.

Since GMC dropped the Pontiac Division and Vibes are no longer being built, we have talked about locating a 2010 model (the last model built) to replace out current car. Unfortunately, the salesman we talked to had exactly the same attitude as the salesman we recently talked to in Mineola…he wanted to sell us what was on the lot, not what we wanted. He, like the man in Mineola, said that if we wanted another Vibe, we’d just need to drive to a large city and see what we could find, but he wasn’t going to help us find it.

We weren’t particularly surprised by the answer we got, since it was the same one we received before, but we were disappointed that we probably weren’t going to get another Vibe…there was no way we would have the time to search the Dallas/Fort Worth or Albuquerque areas in hopes of locating a new 2010 Vibe still on a dealer’s lot.

Barbara had asked earlier if we wanted to drive by Mother’s old house while we were in town, just to take a look at how it and the neighborhood were faring. I initially said I didn’t think we wanted to do that, but since it was such a pretty day and it wouldn’t be that far out of our way, I said let’s run by there, look at it, and maybe take a picture.

On the way down First Street, we passed Tate-Brown, the local Dodge, Chrysler, Jeep dealership. Barbara suggested that we turn around and walk through their lot just to see what they might have. I was very skeptical, since all I could see was high-dollar pickups and Jeeps, but I decided to humor Barbara. After all, we weren’t in a hurry and it was a nice day to be out.

We saw a couple of SUVs that we liked, but which were larger than what we needed or wanted. Before I realized it, I was standing in the lot asking questions of a salesman who came out to see if he could help us. I explained what we were looking for (something akin to the Vibe), and he said he didn’t think they had anything like that.

A couple of minutes later I heard Barbara calling my name. When I finally located her, she was sitting in a dark colored car on the back of the lot. She said that she kind of liked it and that it even had a sunroof (one of our requirements). Another salesman, Bill, came out and started talking to us. Then, another man came out and showed us some of the features and apologized that all the cars were dirty (they had been through a recent rain shower that was followed by a sandstorm…typical Pecos Valley weather). One thing led to another and the next thing we knew, we were going on a test drive of a 2011 Dodge Caliber Mainstreet.

Without using high pressure techniques, Bill and Perry (Perry Troublefield…I was a couple of years behind his father and uncle all through my school years in Artesia) convinced us to fill out some preliminary paperwork…just in case.

We finally got away from the dealership, drove out to Mother’s old house and took some pictures (and decided that Mother had sold at just the right time), and then drove back to Jean’s house for lunch. We told Jean about what we were looking at and then I called the Dodge dealership in Mineola to see if they had something comparable. We don’t know if it says anything about the dealerships or the communities they serve, but the Mineola dealership had only the high-dollar and fully tricked out models of the Caliber (and none with a sunroof). With that information at hand, we drove back down to Tate-Brown, did some more talking, struck a deal that we thought was fair for the Vibe as a trade-in, and finished filling out some paperwork.

The rest of the afternoon is a blur, but we sat and waited and read lots of pages in out books. At nearly 6:00 p.m., the deal was sealed. As we transferred our “stuff” from the Vibe to the Caliber, we thought that we should have had our ever-present camera with us to record this auspicious occasion; then I realized that our new cell phones could also take pictures, so Barbara got hers out and took a couple of shots as I moved from the old to the new.
Bill and Perry filled the new car with gas, handed over the keys, and we drove away in our new investment. Buying a new car was the last thing on our minds when we got up this morning, but at the end of the day our faithful Vibe, with 138,832 miles on it, was now the property of Tate-Brown and we were the proud owners of an American-made, Blackberry Pearl colored, Dodge Caliber with only 15 miles showing on the odometer (not to mention a 5-year payment plan…sure hope we don’t get fired from retirement!).

Wednesday, February 16

Jerry was able to get away from work today to take Jean to a doctor appointment in Hobbs to learn about her upcoming radiation treatments. Since they were going that direction, we decided we take part of the day and drive the Caliber on its maiden run up to Ruidoso to look at the mountains. It’s been a long time…well over a year and a half…since we went to Ruidoso. Nothing much has changed, but the sight of snow on the mountainsides and the cool, crisp mountain air felt fresh and invigorating. On the way out of Roswell we stopped at a rest area to shoot some of the scenery and (of course) the new car.


We spent an hour or so at the Apache Travel Center and then drove up to the Inn of the Mountain Gods. The road to the inn has several places where one can see magnificent vistas; unfortunately, there are very few places to pull over and take pictures. We did manage to get a picture of Old Baldy standing proudly behind the inn and golf course, but even that view was not the best available, just the most accessible.
We enjoyed our outing, but had to end it all too soon and head back down the mountain so we could be back at Jean’s house before dark. Our days of driving in the dark as a matter of course have ended as our eye sight and reactions have diminished, even if ever so slightly.

Tonight we just shared a lazy night with Jean as we swapped stories about our activities of the day.

Thursday, February 17

Happy Birthday to brother Ernie Little in Harrison, Arkansas!!!!


We got up fairly early this morning and began sorting and packing our things for the trip back to Mineola. Jean was going to Hobbs to meet up with Susie and then on to Lubbock to have a chemo port implanted tomorrow morning. Jerry is unable to get away from the funeral home, so we planned to finish up our business in Artesia, drive to Lubbock tonight, and be at the surgical center tomorrow morning with Jean and Susie.

We did get to see one of our favorite people, Lydia, when she came to do some housecleaning for Jean this morning before we left. Lydia is a very sweet lady who also cleaned Mother’s house in Artesia when Mother was still living by herself. Lydia also makes some of the most mouth-watering tamales we have ever eaten; and, if you choose to sample her “hot” tamales, be assured that they are truly hot, even by my standards, which are fairly high.

We finally said our goodbyes to Jean and Lydia and drove back to Tate-Brown to await the delivery and installation of a tow package for the new car. We always wanted one for the Vibe, but because of the engine size and type of transmission, Pontiac wouldn’t approve any after-market tow packages. The new car is rated for towing up to 1,500 pounds, perfect for pulling either the motorcycle cargo trailer or our utility trailer that we purchased several years ago for hauling the motorcycle.

We ordered the tow package Tuesday when we bought the car and were more or less promised delivery and installation today. Before going to the dealership, I called to see if the equipment was going to come in and they told me that UPS records indicated it should be there by the normal delivery time of 11:00 – 11:30. We got to the dealership at 11:00 and waited, and waited, and waited. Finally, at nearly 1:30, the UPS truck arrived. Our package was on it, thank goodness, and Perry and the shop crew assured us that they would begin the installation immediately.

True to their word, the service crew got on the job as soon as the tow package was out of the box and three hours later it was installed on the car and we were ready to go. We said goodbye and thank you to everyone who had helped us through the process (they really were a great group to work with) and headed east through Lovington, New Mexico, and Plains, Texas, until we arrived in Brownfield, Texas, well after dark, where we decided to take our chances on a Best Western motel and call it a day.

Friday, February 18

After a great night’s sleep and a good breakfast at the motel, we made the 40-minute trip to Lubbock in time to go see Cathey and Jaycie for a few minutes and then take Jaycie to get some breakfast at Chick-Fil-A before driving her to her school. We were still early, so we made a side trip to a convenience store so Jaycie could buy a fresh package of gum and then went back to the school and waited until it was time for her to go in and start her school day.
We then drove across town to the Covenant Hospital complex where Jean would undergo her procedure. We got there at the same time as Jean and Susie and went inside to visit until they called for Jean.

When they finally came and got Jean, Susie went in with her and we said we’d just stay in the waiting room. Then, Susie said it would be at least another hour or so before they began the procedure, so we left and went out to run a couple of errands, chief among which was a trip to the Sprint Store to get a “holster” for my new cell phone. It seems that the keys and buttons on our new phones are very sensitive and every time I put the phone in my pocket, I manage to inadvertently call someone. The first store we went to didn’t have pouches to fit our phones, but we finally found what we needed at the store on 82nd and Slide Road.

With that bit of business taken care of, we returned to the surgical center in time for Jean to begin her procedure. Susie came out and sat with us until they were done and then we all trooped back to see Jean (no matter that the sign said only 2 visitors at a time in the room…the nurse was very nice and very helpful).

Just as a side note, when the doctor came out to the waiting room to tell us that the procedure had gone well and that Jean was doing just fine, both Barbara’s and Susie’s eyes lit up and I could almost hear angelic music ringing throughout the room. It seems that I was the only one paying attention to what the doctor was saying…Barbara and Susie were sizing him up and when he turned and left, they voted unanimously that he was “really hot.” Susie was very disappointed when the doctor said that she’d get a call in the next few days to come back for a follow-up visit, but that it really wouldn’t be necessary…just a standard thing they tell their patients in case they think something is wrong. After meeting the doctor, Susie was ready to drive from Hobbs to Lubbock five times a week!

When Jean was finally released, we all drove out to Cracker Barrel for lunch (Jean’s first time ever at a Cracker Barrel), where we talked and ate for the next hour or so before saying goodbye and going our separate directions. Susie was taking Jean back to Artesia and we were going to drive U.S. 82 East as far as we could before stopping.

Our day ended at Gainesville where every motel was booked because of a huge concert nearby. We finally got lucky and got the last available room at the Hampton Inn near the outlet mall north of town. It seems that room had been sold, but there was a cancellation just before we arrived.

Saturday, February 19

Tired from all our travels, we took our time getting around, spending a lazy morning before leaving Gainesville and returning to Mineola around 2:00. We went to the post office to pick up a week’s worth of mail and then went to the house where we unloaded the car, unpacked our luggage and put things away, loaded and started the washing machine, and began life where we left off ten days ago.

Mother and Sophie got along famously and Mother looked bright-eyed and fresh after all of Sophie’s care. We are so blessed and grateful that God provided someone like Sophie to look after Mother in our absences.

During the week we received pictures of extended family great-nephews.  On the 12th we have a picture of Daniel Duke, son of Zeke and Amanda and grandson of Jerry and Nancy Terpening.  Daniel (jersey #24) is now playing basketball and we got this shot from his mother.

On the 14th we received this special Valentine's Day picture featuring Henry Yehl, son of Warren and Barbara Yehl and grandson of James and Susie (Terpening) Francis...thanks to those who shared.

"What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?" - George Eliot

Back home in Mineola,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little Birthday Week

Sunday, February 6 – Thursday, February 10, 2011

Sunday, February 6

It’s Super Bowl Sunday! Are you a Steeler or Packer fan (or is your team watching from home)?

It was a typical Sunday morning for us except that we didn’t get away from the house as early as we usually do. The weather was a little dicey, so Mother and TJ decided to not go to church today. Barbara and I decided to forego the fellowship breakfast and Sunday school and stay home to help Mother get ready for Sophie’s arrival.

When we did get away, we drove out to Our Little Lot to check on Big V and turn the water off. Our predicted warmer weather for the week has been re-predicted to extremely low temperatures for a few nights, so we thought we’d better just shut everything but the furnace off. While we were, we thought we might as well take some photos of our lot with a relatively fresh blanket of snow on the ground. As we were scouting out the places we wanted to shoot, we discovered that one of the trees in the gully had fallen during the most recent storm. It was a good-sized tree that was rooted very close to where the stream runs through the gully and the combination of super-saturated ground, heavy snow, and strong winds managed to uproot it and bring it down.
Before we left the property we stopped at the sales office to tell Josh about the tree, only to find out that he had taken the day off in honor of Super Bowl Sunday. Oh well, as Mother says, “If all you need is an excuse, then any old excuse will do.” Even though Josh wasn’t there, we were delighted to see two of our favorite office folks on duty. Brittani, Josh’s sister (and a member of the sales staff) and Karen, the office manager, were there to give us hugs and spend a few minutes catching up.

Our Sunday morning service at Yantis was another very informative lesson from the book of Nehemiah, with David giving us new insight and perspective on a series that he preached/taught when we were in the church in Liberal.

We were going to get the MP3 player from Lisa so we could go home and burn CDs of Wednesday’s Bible study lesson, but Lisa told us they had to cancel the group on Wednesday because of heavy snow in the Yantis area. That was news to us because we didn’t have snow in Mineola until later in the week and figured Yantis was the same. In any case, that did free up our afternoon (we thought).

As we returned to Mineola from Yantis, Barbara took advantage of the bright sunlight and the blue sky to take some pictures of Lake Fork as we drove over the bridge. That area of the lake never fails to provide a “Kodak moment.”
We stopped at Walmart in Mineola to buy some groceries and snacks for tonight’s Super Bowl game. Since choir practice and the evening service had been cancelled for the church Super Bowl chili cook-off, we decided we’d just stay in Mineola and be available for Mother if she needed us.

As I was getting ready to pull into Mother’s driveway, Barbara yelled for me to stop. I didn’t know what it was I was stopping for…I was pretty sure there was nothing in the way that was going to damage the car, but then she directed my attention to the lot next to Mother’s property and a squirrel that was making itself at home, completely oblivious to the humans who were driving up close to it…just another “Kodak moment.”

After unloading and putting away the groceries and other items we had bought, we had a quick lunch and then a little nap to warm up for the big evening.

TJ and her granddaughter Arriana came over later in the afternoon to visit. While we were there, we got Mother to the kitchen and spent about an hour going over family history, particularly medical history, to complete a set of forms for the new neurologist that Mother will be seeing on February 28. We’re hoping that Dr. Plotkin, who has a reputation for aggressively treating Parkinsonism, will have some new strategies and methods for helping Mother get through the current stage of the disease.

By the time we finished the paperwork and TJ and Arianna had left, we had missed the first quarter of the football game (and the butchering of the National Anthem). We had a few phone calls along the way so I ended up seeing only about six plays of the first half and almost none of the third quarter (I had already decided that no matter what, I would miss the halftime show).

During the course of the evening we also received and sent several text messages to family and friends. Whitney and John, mindful of the fact that we are technically capable of receiving pictures on our phones (even if we aren’t technically savvy about what to do with them) sent pictures of John and Carols’ grandson Rhett and Whitney and Jim’s son Little Jimmy as they watched the Super Bowl game (Jimmy a wearing a shirt that we sent him this week). Since we don’t have a way to download the pictures directly to our computer files, Barbara figured out a way to go through Sprint online to get them and then added the clever voice balloons before saving them to our photo files and posting them on our Facebook pages.

And yes, John, we now know the proper way to spell Poppie…just didn’t have the time to go back through the whole process necessary to correct our error.
I did get to watch most of the fourth quarter of the game, especially the last six or seven minutes, and saw the Packers triumph over the Steelers. Since my favorite team, the Patriots, were watching the game from their homes, it didn’t really matter who won, but I did have a little favoritism toward the Packers…maybe just an NFC thing.

Monday, February 7

Last night was not for sleeping. Mother was up several times during the night and once I get up with her, I’m awake for another hour. Barbara and I were both up with her a couple of times, so it was nearly 5:30 this morning before all three of us were sleeping soundly.

When Mother woke up for the day, we quickly swung into our daily routine of getting her meds taken, newspaper and coffee ready, and waiting an hour until she could have breakfast.

While Barbara was figuring out what to do for breakfast, I wrapped several packages that we wanted to get mailed today and then made copies of all the paperwork that needed to be mailed to Dr. Plotkin.

As we were going through our Facebook pages this morning, Barbara found several pictures of Randi and worked them into a collage. It’s hard to believe that Randi is now 16, a high school sophomore, and a soon-to-be high school junior. Our kids and grandkids are making old folks out of us!

Sometime during the morning our friends Gene and Michelle came by. They were in town to run errands and just wanted to visit for a bit. After our flurry of activity, we were also ready for some adult conversation, so their visit was a welcome break from our Monday morning madness.

When Barbara went to Mother’s room to give Mother a shower, I went to the post office to send out the packages and other assorted pieces of mail; then I stopped by Dr. Bankhead’s office to see about getting a shot for a sore arm. My left arm has been bothering me for several weeks and I just can’t seem to get any relief from it. It took an hour of waiting, but Dr. Bankhead diagnosed it as tennis elbow and ordered steroid shot and some pills.

By the time I got home, Barbara had lunch ready for the three of us…Pedro’s tamales and assorted chips, cheeses, and my world famous refried beans. Keith, Mother’s physical therapist, came by as we were finishing our meal. We talked Keith into trying some of the tamales and he agreed that they were very good.

As soon as we were all finished eating, Keith took Mother out of the room to begin her physical therapy and Barbara and I cleaned the living room and kitchen and got the dishwasher going.

The evening was quiet and uneventful…just time spent taking care of the regular business of keeping up with the house and the motorhome.

Tuesday, February 8

Happy Birthday to brother-in-law Tom Hargrave in Cleburne, Texas!!!

We did get some pretty good sleep last night, so I was able to wake up this morning and drive to Yantis for prayer meeting. On the way back from Yantis I stopped to check on Big V and make sure everything was ready for the arctic blasts that were predicted to come in tonight and linger for a few days.

When I got home, I had a bite of breakfast and then went to a meeting with Mother’s Edward Jones representative and a CPA to discuss the status of some of Mother’s investments.

Barbara and I decided we had to go to the salon to see if Leslie could do anything about our shaggy hair styles. Luckily, Leslie worked us into her schedule and we each felt we were five pounds lighter when we left the shop.

While Barbara was in the chair, I went to Pizza Hut and ordered pizza and breadsticks for our special night for Mother tonight. Then, when Leslie started on me, Barbara went over and picked up our pizza order. When we were finished getting our hair done, we went across the street to Brookshire’s to pick up an ice cream cake for Mother’s 88th birthday celebration.

At 5:00, Gene and Michelle came to the house, we heated up the pizzas (they brought one yesterday and we got another today) and breadsticks, rearranged the living room furniture so we could all see the TV, and then brought Mother in to eat pizza and ice cream cake and watch The Bucket List. Mother, Gene, and Michelle had not seen the movie before, but they thoroughly enjoyed it and Barbara and I saw some things that we had either missed or just did not remember from the last time we saw it.

Of course, no celebration of any kind is complete without lots of pictures, so we kept the camera ready to record the events of this evening as we began the almost week-long celebration of Mother’s birthday.

By the time the movie was over, Mother was ready for bed, so we got her to her room, Barbara got her dressed and in bed, and then we retired to the living room for more conversation and visiting with Gene and Michelle until they had to call it a night and return to Holiday Villages.

Wednesday, February 9

This morning was just business as usual as we took care of regular chores around the house and saw that Mother was up and around for the day.

Barbara started on lunch while I went downtown for a meeting with Leon, Mother’s Edward Jones representative, to finalize some investment opportunity plans. I got the mail and ran a couple of other little chores while I was out and then returned home for Birthday Celebration, Part 2.

This afternoon we ate our lunch and then retired to the living room for our Wednesday matinee featuring Grumpy Old Men, one of our favorite movies. When we were finished with the movie, we told Mother that she had to stick around for another 25 minutes for a special showing and then put on the birthday DVD that we have been working on.

Some time back we decided that we wanted to do something special for Mother’s 88th birthday. She said she didn’t want a party like we had last year. Instead, we sorted through over a hundred years of photographs to give a retrospective of Mother’s family and her life up through this month. We don’t know how many photographs we combed through to find 25 minutes worth, but there were a bunch.

When we had the photos scanned and saved in the right order (Mother and her family, Daddy and his family, courting days, boys in their early years, and boys in their later years, grandchildren and great grand children, etc.), we started putting the background music together. Without telling Mother what we were doing, Barbara asked her if she was to have to watch a 25 minute presentation, what kind of music she would want to listen to. Mother said she’d prefer music from the World War II years, which suited many of the photos perfectly.

Once the DVD started, Mother started asking where we found those photos. We told her we just had to dig through boxes and envelopes and there they were. Then, we noticed that her feet were tapping away in time to the music. When the section with In the Mood for background music came along, she commented that she had “danced many a mile to that song.”

We had a lot of fun putting the whole show together, but the real fun and excitement was in watching Mother view the old photos, listen to some of her favorite music, and relive the highlights of 88 years. To say she was appreciative of our efforts and their results would be an understatement, and that pleased us no end.

Tonight Barbara and I did a couple of loads of laundry and some ironing as we began planning and packing for a trip to Artesia.

Thursday, February 10

Today was a whirlwind of activity as we did more laundry, cleaned house, and prepared several of Mother’s birthday DVDs to mail to my brothers, and our children and grandchildren.

We also had all the last minute errands to take care of before leaving for several days, but after a busy 8 or 9 hours, we had the car packed, Sophie in place to take care of Mother in our absence, and everything else squared away. We pulled away from the house at 4:00, made a stop at Our Little Lot in Holiday Villages to get some things from Big V, and then headed out to Artesia via the Wichita Falls and Lubbock route, stopping in Gainesville for the night when it got too dark to see where we were going.

“The miracle of God is seen in every sunrise.” – Unknown (we found this saying on a cross plaque we gave a former student whose husband gave up his life in Afghanistan for the cause of freedom.)

On the road again…Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little Touch of Winter

Sunday, January 30 – Saturday, February 5, 2011

Sunday, January 30

This was about as typical Sunday as we could have. Sophie came to the house at 8:30 and helped Mother get ready for church while Barbara and I left for Yantis and our usual schedule of activities…fellowship breakfast, Sunday school, and another wonderful sermon/lesson from David, still leading us through the Book of Nehemiah.

After church we stopped at Big V to unload some things from the car and put them away. We had originally thought of staying at Big V this afternoon, but the weather was turning wet and cold, so we decided to go on back to Mineola, have some lunch with Mother, and then take our Sunday nap while the rain showers came down all around us.

This evening we went back to Yantis for choir practice (Barbara went to the Dollar General to do some shopping while I was helping other make a joyful noise) and then we went to the evening service where David is teaching and preaching from Paul’s epistle to the Romans.

We returned to the house at 7:30 and settled in for a quiet evening of working at our computers and putting finishing touches on last week’s journal.

Barbara: During our computer time, I received an email that someone sent with all these props around their baby. I was so taken by the creativity that I knew I needed to share the idea! The Odyssey of the Mind coach must still be in me because I could visualize others tweaking and making their own ideas come alive; so I chose to share it to with Barbara, Jean’s granddaughter in Victoria, who is always doing something cool and interesting with her precious Henry. Sometime, later in the week, I received these photos which brightened our day!
Monday, January 31

This was a busy morning for both of us. We got up fairly early and hit the deck running. While Barbara stayed home to take care of all the early morning routines for Mother…get her up to the bathroom, get her back to bed, give morning meds, start TV (Fox News, of course), eye drops, nasal spray, newspaper, etc, I took the Vibe to Walmart for a long overdue service procedure and ended up buying a couple of new tires also.

By the time I finished my running around and taking care of errands, Barbara had Mother dressed and ready to go for an outing with TJ. TJ needed to go to Big Sandy and thought she’d take Mother along for a ride through the Piney Woods and into some of the areas that Mother had grown up in.

Barbara told me that while I was gone, Mother was so excited about her outing that she got out of bed on her own, hunted through the closet for what she wanted to wear, and just propelled herself all over that room until she found everything she wanted! It was exciting to watch!

While Mother and TJ were out doing their thing, Barbara and I took advantage of the time off to go to Lindale and take care of some business. We did some shop-looking at Cracker Barrel…didn’t find what we wanted, unfortunately, but had a good time anyway…and then went to the RV place to buy a couple of things for Big V and check on some future repair work.

On the way back to the house we stopped at the GMC place in Mineola to look at cars, but couldn’t find what we wanted or anyone who would help us find what we wanted to look at, so we left.

We got back to the house shortly after Mother did. No one was hungry, so we took early naps today and then got busy again. I worked on the journal/blog while Barbara set up a Facebook page for her sister Carol.

When Barbara was finished at the computer she turned her attention to calling florists to find out how to care for a plant that Jerry and Nancy Terpening gave us at Jimmy Clint’s funeral. It is supposed to be indestructible, but it wasn’t working out for us. Barbara called the florist in Lubbock to find out what it was (a Peace Lily) and how to give it the love and respect it needs.

This evening we went to Walmart to find a new pot for the plant (it was too root bound and needed more space), but we didn’t have enough potting soil at the house to transplant it tonight…besides, it was miserably cold and we didn’t want to disturb the plant more than necessary, so we put that job off until I can get out to Big V and pick up a couple of bags of soil we have there.

Wow…this is the last day of January…2011 is barreling right along!

Tuesday, February 1

I had a rough night last night…got up with Mother at 1:30 and although she went right back to sleep, I tossed and turned until after 3:00 before dropping off. When the alarm went off at 5:45, I found that Barbara was already up and in the dining room. I went ahead and started the coffee pot, but decided that because it was raining so hard we could barely see across the street, and the temperatures were steadily dropping below freezing, I’d not go to Yantis this morning for the prayer meeting. Instead, I had a cup of coffee and then returned to bed and fell asleep again.

When I woke up at 8:00, Barbara had already gotten Mother up and going on her morning routine and was fixing breakfast. Barbara served Mother in bed and then we went to the kitchen to eat.

After eating, Barbara took her shower while I waited to see if Mother was going to need anything and then we all waited for the speech therapist and the physical therapy evaluator to come in and do their bit.

When Mary and Becky got here, Barbara stayed with them and I drove out to Our Little Lot to pick up a few things we needed and to turn off the water. The arctic blast that was dropping snow everywhere else was mainly dropping temperatures in our region and we weren’t supposed to get back up to 32 degrees for a couple more days, so we figured we’d better do all we could to protect Big V.

The rest of the day was pretty lazy. Barbara fixed her chicken crock pot pie for lunch, but we didn’t eat until nearly 3:30…no one seemed to be in a hurry for much of anything.

Michelle and Gene Young came by around 5:00 and we spent the next hour and a half visiting, eating, and playing Chickenfoot. We always have a lot of fun when we have visitors here and tonight was no different…very little talk about schools (which is what we did when we first met Gene and Michelle) and a lot more about what is going on in our lives now.

We didn’t have time for a complete round of Chickenfoot, so we made our own arbitrary quitting point (The Youngs needed to return to Holiday Villages to take care of their hunting dogs) and then we took time for the winner (Barbara) to take a picture of the three losers in tonight’s contest; and, no, the band aid on Gene’s face wasn’t from a particularly rough game of Chickenfoot. We get verbal, but not very physical.
The rest of the evening was spent in doing nothing of importance.

Wednesday, February 2

It’s Groundhog Day…How much more winter will YOU have?!!

Depending on when our local groundhog got up and around, we may or may not have an extended winter. It was cloudy early, but the clouds didn’t stick around for long. So, if the groundhog slept in this morning that could be good news for us.

We spent the morning getting ready for a date day and an overnight trip. We first thought we’d get away around 10:30 or 11:00, but nothing seemed to go on schedule, so it was noon before we finally got errands run, the car packed, and had Sophie in place to spend the day and night with Mother.

Our first stop, after checking at the Mineola post office, was in Longview, where we have a favorite country store. It is a part of a chain in which we have found some of our favorite gift items. Today we were looking for a house-warming gift for a special friend and, luckily, found something we liked. We were going to mail it from Longview, but didn’t have our packaging materials with us, so we just boxed it up and left it in the car for another day.

From Longview we got back onto I-20 East and drove to downtown Bossier City for a few hours and then to our hotel. We’ve been needing some new pictures for the blog posting and to share with family members and were able to set the camera for a few shots before we went out again.
Tonight we went to a buffet where I almost ate my weight in some of the best boiled shrimp I’ve had in a long time. We both sampled other goodies, but for me the shrimp was the best item in the place.

Thursday, February 3

Happy Chinese New Year…The Year of the Rabbit!

We took our own sweet time getting around this morning…even had a little fun with the camera as Barbara was putting on her makeup before we went to the lobby to build our own breakfast. We were staying at one of the Marriott properties, one that we especially enjoy, and the breakfast buffet suits us just fine.
After eating breakfast and finishing our packing, Barbara took the cart full of luggage to the front of the hotel while I started the car and drove it around. It was miserably cold, so we moved as quickly as possible to keep from freezing.

We then spent a couple of hours in downtown Bossier City before leaving to return to Mineola. We stopped on the outskirts of Shreveport to gas up the Vibe and grab a couple of burgers at Sonic and then pointed the car west on I-20.

On the way home we stopped at the Sprint store in Longview to see about upgrading our phones and wireless card for the computers. The last time we got new phones we were in Tennessee and decided, for some really dumb reason, to go simple. We haven’t been pleased with our phones since then, and decided we’d go as high-tech as we could afford this time around.

The store was full when we went in and we were about to give up and leave when one of the salesmen, Todd, called our name. We explained what we were looking for and asked what was available for an upgrade. Todd showed us a couple of units they had and we decided on a couple of Sprint LG phones with the slide-out keyboards for easier texting. By the time Todd finished with us, I was signed up for texting (Barbara had added that feature to her phone last year), we had two new phones, and a remarkable new wi-fi hotspot that will handle up to five computers simultaneously. Boy…did we make a quantum leap into the 21st century today!

We got back to the house around 4:30, got squared away with Sophie, and then unpacked the car and put everything away. Most of the evening was spent trying to figure out our new phones and the wi-fi set-up, but by bedtime we were up and running with all the new equipment, even if we weren’t sure which direction we were running.

Friday, February 4

Happy Birthday today to son-in-law Andy Dondis in Richardson, Texas!!!!

I woke up at 5:00 this morning when I received a call from John in San Antonio…seems that when I was programming the new phone last night I accidently called John’s cell number, but he didn’t see it until he woke up. John said it was snowing in San Antonio and they were locked in at the house for the day. He also said that the storm was headed our direction.

When I finished with John, I found that Barbara woke up at 4:30 and she told me the storm was already here in Mineola…I looked out the front windows, and sure enough, the ground was covered with snow and there was plenty more falling. The beauty of it was that except for rare small wind gusts, it was a vertical snow, rather than the horizontal snowstorms that folks out west were experiencing.

We made the decision that we would just hunker down for the day and see what happened, but that we definitely would not go to Yantis to pick up the MP3 recorder at the church so we could burn discs of this week’s Bible study lesson; nor would we venture out to the post office…whatever is there will be there tomorrow.

Barbara decided that I needed a Facebook page of my own, so she spent most of the morning building one for me while I turned my attention to the cooking duties for the day. With a cold, snowy day outside, I worked on a breakfast of bacon, eggs, biscuits, and grits which the three of us enjoyed around 9:30. Then, while Barbara continued working through the complications of setting up the Facebook page (nothing is ever as easy as it should be), I started building a pot of beef stew and some homemade jalapeno bread for lunch whenever we got around to it.

We took breaks from time to time to go out to the garage to watch the snowfall and take pictures of the neighborhood. In order to preserve the blanket of snow in front of the house, I put on my boots and walked out through the back yard and the lot next to us so I could get across the street and take pictures of the front of the house. We also got some good shots of Addie’s house next door and John and Wanda’s house across the street. Maybe on a hot day in July they will want to remember some of the cool weather we are having now.



By noon we were pretty well tired out from being up so long and decided to take an early nap before Keith arrived for his rescheduled physical therapy session with Mother.

When we got back up, Barbara put the finishing touches on my new Facebook page and I took it for a test drive…still don’t know much about it, but Barbara is a good coach and I’m sure she’ll be able to talk me through the intricacies of the thing.

We gathered around the table at 3:30 for stew and bread and some mealtime conversation. When we were finished and Mother was back in her recliner in her room, I took some stew and bread to John and Wanda and to Addie. None of them had gotten out either, so all of us finally got to see someone outside our own homes today.

During the course of the day we got a message from the church that our special speaker who was scheduled for Sunday services is unable to get here because of the weather. Sunday morning activities will go ahead as usual and there will be no formal service Sunday night…just the Super Bowl and chili cook-off fellowship.

This evening Barbara started building a new recipe that she learned from Mary at Bible study last week. It’s a breakfast casserole that’s made of slices of bread covered with a sausage, egg, and cheese mixture. She fried up some sweet Italian sausage (one of our favorite sausages), mixed the eggs, milk, and cheese and poured them over the bread, and put the pan in the refrigerator so everything could set up overnight. The baking will begin tomorrow morning.

Tonight we made a few phone calls, worked on the journal/blog, read and wrote on Facebook, and played computer games. There wasn’t anything interesting on TV, so we just turned on some background music and chilled (literally and figuratively) for the evening.

Saturday, February 5

Wow…the sun finally came out this morning! It’s the first time since Wednesday that we’ve seen it here.

Barbara and I were both up with Mother at 1:00 this morning and then Mother and I were up at 3:00. After all of us getting back to sleep, Mother was up again at 6:45 and ready to start her day, so we hit the deck running. Barbara started the oven and got the casserole that she built last night going.

The casserole was a big hit and is sure to become a part of our breakfast menu rotation…fairly easy to make, and since it sits overnight in the refrigerator, it’s perfect for mornings when all we need is time to bake and serve it.

Mother decided after she ate that she’d just nap a while longer, so Barbara and I used the time to get caught up on our journal writing and Facebook interactions.

Around 11:30 we ventured into the world around us to go to the pharmacy, bank, post office, and to pay some bills. The temperature came up enough that it felt comfortable outside and the radiant heat was clearing the roads quite nicely.

When we got back to the house, Barbara started to work designing and arranging the photo collages and adding her part of the text or this week’s entry. We hadn’t done a whole lot, but the trip to Shreveport and the snowstorm gave us lots of pictures to choose from.

Barbara fixed some rice and meatballs and we heated up the leftover stew and bread from yesterday and had a nice lunch and conversation time with Mother before taking a little time for an afternoon nap…the “early morning” start was starting to wear on all of us.

This afternoon I went out to check the mail and decided that I could get a good “day after the blizzard” shot with the camera. Our rain gauge indicated a little over 1 ¼ inches of water out of the snow, which we estimated at 6 inches at one time yesterday. It was some heavy, wet snow, so we got lots of good moisture out of it. I was just sorry that I hadn’t gotten the winterizer put down on the lawn before this storm showed up.

This evening we just kicked back and relaxed…nowhere to go and not much to do except finish the journal for the week and catch up with folks on Facebook.

“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment and learn again to exercise his will - his personal responsibility." - Albert Schweitzer, German philosopher, musician, theologian and physician

A quiet Saturday night in Mineola,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams



A Slice of Little Life

Sunday, January 23 – Saturday, January 29, 2011

Sunday, January 23

Happy Birthday to extended family nephew Paul Francis!!!

Barbara and Mother were both feeling a little puny and complaining of flu or allergy-like symptoms this morning, so they decided to stay home instead of going to church. Barbara called Sophie to cancel her out for the day and then fixed Mother’s breakfast and saw to getting her comfortable for the morning.

I went on to church, stopping first at Big V to turn on all the systems so I could work around the lot this afternoon. We’ve kept Big V pretty well buttoned up the last couple of months, but since I was planning to spend some time, I turned on the water and the water heater, turned on the ice maker, and cranked up the thermostat so it would be warm when I returned.

It was another good morning at Yantis First Baptist Church…fellowship breakfast, Sunday school, and a really good sermon as David continued preaching and teaching from Nehemiah, Chapter 2. This morning’s lesson was on how to expect and handle the criticism and derision that will surely come when one is doing the Lord’s work.

I waited around for a few minutes after church to pick up a CD of the service for Barbara and then drove back to Holiday Villages. By the time I got there, the sky was turning black, the temperature was dropping, the wind was blowing, and it was beginning to sprinkle…so much for getting any outdoor work done.

I made the executive decision to shut everything off again and then returned to Mineola for the afternoon. I thought I’d watch one of the NFL playoff games, but it was obvious that the Bears weren’t going to shut down the Packers, so Barbara and I took a nap instead.

We got up around 3:00 and Barbara fixed lunch for the three of us before we sat down to watching a little TV and working at the computers.

Barbara stayed home again this evening to keep an eye on Mother and I returned to Yantis for choir practice and the monthly business meeting. During the course of the meeting I was nominated and elected to serve on the nominating committee. I don’t know what that’s going to entail, but I’m sure it will be interesting.

Back at home tonight I decided to have a bowl of cereal for supper and Barbara went out to Taco Bell for some tacos. We then sat and watched TV for a while until she got up to play computer games with some friends and I watched the Steelers and Jets while I reviewed the latest blog posting that Barbara had worked on while I was at church and then sent out the notice that we were posted on time for the first time in ages.

We recognized another anniversary of sorts today. It was exactly one year ago, January 23, 2010, that we became fulltime caregivers for Mother and moved into her house here in Mineola. Our lifestyle has certainly changed during that time as we changed from an RV couple on the go to life in a “sticks and bricks” setting.

Monday, January 24

Happy 82nd Birthday to our dear friend Jesse Fairfax in Woodstock, Georgia!!!

Retired or not, some days are just days, and this was one of them. I got up early and went to Dr. Bankhead’s office to have blood drawn for some tests. When that was done, and I had visited with the doctor, I went by the donut shop to pick up an apple fritter for Barbara, then to the post office to check the mail, Edward Jones office to see about having a fax sent to their number for us, the pharmacy to get some prescriptions for Mother, and then back to the house.

Meanwhile, Barbara had taken care of getting Mother up, fed, clothed, and generally underway with her daily routine. Bonita (the Chihuahua) and Spike (The Boston Terrier) were both especially well-behaved this morning and were so relaxed that Barbara felt compelled to take a picture of them in one of Bonita’s rare good moods. Spike is easy going and loving all the time, but Bonita has some pretty wild mood swings, and we’re never sure which one of her we’re going to see at a given moment.

The rest of the morning was all about taking care of business as we kept the phone lines hot with calls to the medical examiner’s office and Lake Ridge Chapel in Lubbock, and to Dr. Drew, Mother’s neurologist, in Tyler.

Today Barbara received a call from Jimmy Young, the Resthaven Cemetery employee who helped us when we were making plans for Jimmy Clint’s burial service. Jimmy called to say that the new marker had been laid. Barbara asked him if there was any way he could take a picture of it and send it to us and he said he thought he could do that.

After talking to Mr. Young, Barbara called Cathey to let her know the marker was in place. Cathey was excited to hear it and drove out to Resthaven to look and take a picture that she sent to us. Cathey’s aunts had placed flowers at Jimmy’s grave; so Cathey moved them to the vase. Really looks nice, we think; and we really appreciated Cathey taking the photo for us since we can’t see it in person.

When we weren’t on the phone today we were taking care of the routine chores around the house…just the daily business of living. Tonight I wrote a letter to Mr. Young thanking him for calling us today and for taking the time to get a picture and emailing it to us. In December I wrote a blistering letter to Resthaven about the shoddy service we had received from them, but we did appreciate Mr. Young’s efforts on our behalf today and wanted him and his boss to know that.

Tuesday, January 25

I was going to go to Yantis for the weekly prayer session this morning, but Mother was up three times during the night with some intestinal problems. At 4:30 I finally gave sleep up as a lost cause, started the coffee, and read my morning internet journals and newspapers.

Since Barbara got up at 4:30 to help with the last session with Mother, we were both up for a while and then she said she’d stay up in case Mother needed something and I went back to bed to grab some shut-eye before officially starting the day.

Mary, Mother’s speech therapist came to the house around 9:45 for her weekly session and shared some good ideas with us.

TJ offered to cook lunch for us at her place today, but we worked a deal for Barbara to take me over there to install a couple of software programs on TJ’s new computer and then help TJ bring the food back to Mother’s house so Mother didn’t have to get out twice today (which proved, in the end, to be a wise move).

TJ and I brought a pot of meatballs and sauce to the house to go along with the spaghetti Barbara was cooking while I was installing the computer programs. We all sat down to a nice meal and a few minutes of conversation and then got some rest before starting the next part of the day.

For my part, the rest of the day involved driving Mother and TJ to the Eye Associates clinic in Tyler for their appointments. Mother was to have a laser procedure to remove the film that was building up in her right eye, and TJ was having a closer examination of one of her eyes that had some internal bleeding.

Mother’s procedure went rather quickly and she was out and ready to go by 3:45, but TJ was in a large crowd waiting to see her doctor. Time passed and then passed some more. I kept checking to see how much longer it might be, but it was 5:30 before they even took TJ in to have her eye dilated…and then we waited some more. Finally, at 7:00 p.m. we left the building and drove back to Mineola, returning to Mother’s house at 8:00 after a long, long afternoon.

Mother immediately went to bed and fell asleep and Barbara and I weren’t too far behind.

Barbara reported that her day after we left consisted mainly of watching Spike and Bonita and listening to Bonita’s incessant crying and barking while Mother was out of the house. Spike, on the other hand, took Mother’s absence in stride, but at one point he climbed up on one of the living room chairs and then onto a coffee table to look out the window to see if his mama was coming home. To say that Mother’s puppies are spoiled rotten would be the understatement of the century! Otherwise, Barbara’s day was actually restful though at times she did consider what her punishment would be if Bonita was hanging from the fan as a living room decoration. However, upon careful consideration, she decided that might not be a decoration Edith approved of!

Wednesday, January 26

Happy Birthday to son-in-law Jim Farnham in Olathe, Kansas!!!

Sophie came over to watch Mother for a couple of hours while we went north…Barbara to drop me off at Our Little Lot and then go on to Yantis for the weekly ladies Bible study. As a lead-up to Easter, the ladies are involved in a study of He Chose the Nails: What God Did to Win Your Heart, by Max Lucado.

While Barbara was at church, I dug out the cleaning supplies and started scrubbing down the inside of Big V. Unfortunately, we haven’t been doing any deep cleaning out there in the last few months and Big V was starting to look kind of shabby inside. Not only that, we’ve just been piling things inside wherever they would fit, so it was both messy and dirty. It took about 2 ½ hours of hard work, but by the time Barbara came to get me, I had the bedroom and bathroom areas scrubbed and everything put away where it belonged. I even removed the bedroom TV from its case so I could hook up a digital converter, but didn’t have one of the cables I needed to finish the job, so I left the TV out until I could get back to it.

Barbara picked me up about 12:15 and we returned to Mineola for a light lunch and a short nap.

I went back out to Yantis at 5:30 to pick up the MP3 recorder from Lisa Apel so we could get back into production mode copying and burning the Bible studies to CD’s. When I returned to the house, our friends Gene and Michelle and Gene and Carolyn were waiting for us to go out for a “friends’ night.”

We enjoyed the meal at the new Chinese restaurant so much last week that we decided to try it again tonight. Gene and Carolyn hadn’t been to it yet, so we introduced them to the town’s latest taste sensation. The six of us thoroughly enjoyed making multiple trips through the buffet lines and keeping several threads of conversation going, depending on who out of the six were at the table at that time.

After our meal, we returned to the house. Barbara and I got Mother settled in bed and then the six of us broke out Gene and Michelle’s game of Catch Phrase and enjoyed an hour or so of lively game-playing, joking, and laughing at and with each other. When we played the game with Gene and Michelle last week, Gene and I trounced the ladies (so they say, but we really didn’t write anything down; so not certain we can trust their memories!), but tonight the girls got their revenge on us by eking out a victorious set with a win in the third game.
The night was so much fun that we’ve decided to have “friend nights” more often; at least every other week if one or more couples are available.

Thursday, January 27

This was just a plain day around our place…chores to do and business to take care of. We had Mary, the speech therapist come in to work with Mother this morning and this afternoon Keith, the physical therapist, came by for his session.

We asked Keith to do an evaluation of Mother’s bathroom to see if we might need to do some remodeling. It is getting more and more difficult to help Mother in that room, particularly for Barbara to help her with her showers. Keith took a close look and then after listening to Barbara talk about what she had to do to help Mother, suggested some different strategies for where Mother sits in the shower stall and how to get her there. He then used part of his time to work with Mother in getting into and out of the shower stall. What he suggested was a simple change in the way Barbara has gotten Mother lined up to get into the stall and made a world of difference. We’re even going to apply the same principal to helping her get to her recliner and her dining room and living room chairs…should make a world of difference in everyone’s comfort. There is still so much for us to learn about this care-giving bit!

Barbara and Mother did some catalog shopping this morning and came up with some new outfits and shoes for Mother and for me to order online. When that was completed, we ordered a new program that will allow us to produce our own DVDs. Well, it’s really a replacement for a program that Barbara installed on her Dell a couple of years ago. The problem was that she installed it as a download and then we lost the instructions for backing it up. When the Dell crashed last year, we didn’t have the program anymore and are finally getting around to buying a hard copy so we can install it on both computers that we now use.

While Barbara stayed at the house this evening to fix supper for Mother, I took an hour and a half to go out to Big V to reinstall the TV system in the bedroom. Now we have TV (still just the antenna system, but better than nothing) and the VCR/DVD player hookup. We just need to be out there sometime to enjoy it.

Friday, January 28

Today was a really different “date day” for us. Instead of one of our junkets to an exotic East Texas locale, we hired Sophie to watch Mother for a few hours while we went to Our Little Lot and worked in Big V.

Before we got to Holiday Villages of Lake Fork, we drove on across the lake and down a county road to catch up with one of our friends from church, Mary Parker. Mary had sent a catalog of jewelry items to Barbara yesterday and Barbara decided she wanted to make some purchases, so we drove out to Mary’s house to write the check and return the catalog.

It was the first time for us to drive into that particular neighborhood and the first person we saw was another of the ladies from church, Aline Coker. Aline was out raking leaves, so we spoke to her for a few minutes before going across the street to see Mary.
When we finished at Mary’s house, we drove back to Holiday Villages and Our Little Lot and began a massive housecleaning. Unfortunately, Big V has become more of a storeroom than a home since we moved in with Mother, and we wanted to change that. So, we began going through closets and cabinets, throwing away things we packed 4 ½ years ago, but haven’t used since, packing up some things to take to the house in Mineola, and rearranging what was left. Once everything was squared away, Big V looked like she did when we first moved in June of 2006…homey and loved.
Before tackling some of the outside work, we walked over to the clubhouse and ordered some takeout food for lunch…even saw our next door neighbors Wes and Linda while we were there and chatted with them a bit while we waited on our order.

We went back to Big V and ate our lunch on our “porch” while enjoying a beautiful 70-degree afternoon. Then, it was back to work to clean off and rearrange the passenger side of our concrete pad. Leaves and dirt had accumulated, so we got them off the pad and then put the furniture back in order so it looked like someone not only lived there, but was proud of the place.
All that work finally wore us down and we decided to take a nap for about half an hour before loading things in the Vibe, shutting down Big V, and returning to the house in Mineola via our local Walmart.

Tonight was just a quiet night on Heritage Drive as we worked on projects at the house.

Saturday, January 29

Happy 4th Birthday today to step great-grandson, Rhett Johnson, grandson of John and Carol Colwell in San Antonio, Texas.

John sent us this picture of Rhett on his new bicycle.

Today was just another day at the house in Mineola…nothing particularly exciting. Mother slept off and on for most of the morning and we did our part to keep things quiet for her.

Barbara did laundry and unpacked things from the big tub that we filled at Big V yesterday while I tackled the job of going through the stacks of paper on our little desk in the bedroom closet. That’s a job I do once every three or four months, whether it needs it or not. When I got everything organized, filed, and put away, Barbara helped with the reorganization of the closet. We moved some things to a hutch in the dining room, since that’s where we conduct most of our business, and shifted a few other things to a different closet. We’ve learned that in an RV or a sticks and bricks home, “stuff” expands to overfill all available space.

For lunch Barbara fixed smothered pork chops (so tender they fall apart when you look at them) and I cooked some of the turnips that I got from Ladd the other day. Barbara is an expert at the pork chops, but this was the first time in my life that I’ve done anything with turnips. I treated them just like potatoes…skinned them, cut them into small pieces, boiled them until they were soft, and then mashed them with a stick of butter. I thought they were okay and they passed Mother’s taste test, so I guess we now have another menu item for the future.

While Barbara worked in the dining room taking care of bills this afternoon, I sat in the living room to work on the journal and watch basketball…saw bits and pieces of both the Baylor/Colorado and the Texas Tech/Oklahoma State games.

After feeding Mother and getting her settled in bed, we went to Brookshire’s to pick up a few items and then stopped off at Pizza Hut to order a pizza for our supper. When the pizza was ready, I went back to pick it up (no pizza delivery in Mineola) and I spent the rest of the evening working on the journal and watching TV while Barbara played online Family Feud and Scrabble with her friend Dandy in Abilene.

This week we have a couple of photos that we’ve received. One is of Jaycie and a couple of her friends, copied from Jaycie’s Facebook Page.

The other is a collage of photos that were taken of us on my birthday. We met Heather, Andy, Alexander, and Abby at Cracker Barrel in Greenville for a nice birthday lunch. Those of you who know us well will wonder how in the world we didn’t have our camera with us for the occasion, but we didn’t. We used Andy’s camera for a few of the shots and then one of the waitresses took a couple of family photos in front of the restaurant’s fireplace. Andy emailed a link to the photos, but it took until today for “technology challenged” me to figure out how to save the pictures to a file.
“Fatigue makes cowards of us all.” – Vince Lombardi, legendary football coach

Just chilling in Mineola,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams