More Than a Little Sadness

Wednesday, December 8 – Tuesday, December 14

Wednesday, December 8

Today started simply enough…just another day in Mineola as we woke up from a somewhat sleepless night for both of us; that is, until the phone rang at 7:45 and we began what was to become a downward spiral that rocked us to the core.

Jaycie called at 7:45 to ask if we had talked to her daddy lately. Barbara told her that we had talked to him Saturday night and had tried to call him last night, but he hadn’t answered and hadn’t returned the call. Then Jaycie said that she had been trying four times a day for the last two days to contact Jimmy, but he hadn’t answered. Barbara told her that we would check into it and let her know what we found out.

We spent the next couple of hours texting, calling, and sending email messages, but to no avail. Then, we began calling Jimmy’s friends to see if they had heard anything from him. When that didn’t give us any information, I called UMC to see if by any chance Jimmy had been admitted through the emergency room, something that has happened several times in the last year and a half.

Time was passing and we weren’t hearing anything, so around 11:00 I called the Lubbock Police Department, explained the situation and the fact that Jimmy had been quite ill, and asked if someone could go to the house and check. The lady I spoke to said that those kinds of checks were handled by EMS and transferred my call there. Once again I explained the situation and was told that a supervisor would go to the house and check. Meanwhile, I called Jimmy’s friend Kyle and asked if he could go be the house to see what he could find out. Kyle was tied up at work at the time, but promised to go to the house as soon as possible.

When we still hadn’t heard anything by noon, I again called LPD, got patched through to EMS, and learned that someone had gone to the house to check, but after looking through the uncovered windows and knocking on doors, left because they couldn’t do a forced entry unless they saw someone in distress.

At that point I called Kyle again and he said he was on his way to the house. Meanwhile, he was trying to contact Roger, Jimmy’s boss and the owner of the house to get permission to make a forced entry. When Kyle called to let me know he was at the house, I told him that there were no keys, but that he could get through the back door more easily than the others, and to go ahead and kick it in if necessary and I would pay for the replacement.

As it turned out, a side door leading into a converted garage space was unlocked. Kyle entered there and talked to me as he went through the house. I heard him calling, “Jimmy…Jimmy, are you here,” and then, “Oh, my God…Jimmy, Jimmy…he’s blue.” And then began our descent into a nightmare that no parent should ever experience as I went outside to tell Barbara what Kyle had found.

Kyle immediately called LPD and EMS and then stayed in touch with us as they arrived and began doing their work. When Kyle again confirmed that Jimmy was dead, we immediately went to Mother and told her what had happened and that we had to go to Lubbock. Mother was shocked by the news and immediately said, “Of course you must go.”

The next several hours were a blur as we began contacting the kids and others that needed to know what was happening. My first call was to Pastor David to tell him about Jimmy and let him know that I would not be able to sing with the choir when they presented the cantata Sunday; and, I asked him to let some of the other church members know what we were doing.

While Barbara handled things here at the house…calling Sophie to make arrangements to stay with Mother, getting clothes ready, etc., I drove out to Our Little Lot at Holiday Villages to get some things we would need for the trip and make sure that Big V was buttoned down for the cold spell that the weatherman was promising.

By the time I had shared the news with our neighbors Gary and Linda Fox and Wes and Linda Mann and returned to the house, David was waiting at the house to visit and pray with us. (Our friend Heidi had also come by while I was gone. Though Heidi came for an entirely different reason, we are convinced that God led her to Barbara at a time when she needed her the most!) When David left, we continued getting everything put together and packed in the Vibe and were finally ready to leave Mineola at 5:30, secure in the knowledge that Mother would be taken well care of, but totally unaware of what we would find or do when we arrived in Lubbock.

One of the first people Barbara called was Dandy, our friend who lives in Abilene. Dandy immediately told us that we were welcome to stay at her house tonight if we could make it that far. We told her that we would aim for Abilene to night, but that we were running on adrenaline and would stop earlier if necessary.

As it was, the adrenaline held out as we drove the five hours out I-20 with phones ringing and multiple conversations taking place as we explained to the best of our ability what had happened and what we were doing.

We stopped briefly along the way to get some fast food and then trucked on across Texas, arriving at Dandy’s house at 10:45. None of us got much sleep during the night, but at least we were off the highway and with a good friend who provided much comfort for us.

Thursday, December 9

We were up early this morning and on the road by 8:00, a little rested, but still in a state of shock from all that has transpired in the last 20 or so hours. We said our thanks and goodbyes to Dandy and drove down the road to a Flying J truck stop to gas up the Vibe and call Cathey to let her know we were on the way and make sure we were all on the same page with what we were doing today.

Our first stop, when we arrived in Lubbock around 10:15, was at the medical examiners office. We weren’t even sure of what our questions were, but the ladies who greeted us were kind and compassionate and explained that we needed to find the funeral home we wanted to us and the funeral home would contact the ME office to get Jimmy’s body and any information the ME might have. They couldn’t give us a time of release, but were very understanding of our circumstances.

We got back into the Vibe and immediately called Jerry Terpening in Artesia to get some information about funeral homes in Lubbock. Since Jerry is a mortician and very familiar with several of the Lubbock mortuaries, we thought he’d be our natural source of information.

Jerry first recommended a place but then said that they only worked with funeral homes and not the public. He did caution us that Resthaven was the most expensive mortuary and that we should probably look elsewhere. We had also been told about a mortuary out on 82nd Street and asked if he knew anything about it. Jerry, being the computer guru that he is, immediately looked it up, checked services and prices, and told us that Lake Ridge offered the same services he did and that the pricing was comparable. He was impressed enough with the web page and the information there that he recommended we check it out.

Before doing anything else, we drove to Jimmy’s house on 40th street to go through his things and pick out items that we had given or loaned him when he set up his previous apartment and this house. Fortunately, we had been able to loan him quite a few things from Big V and Cathey told us to go ahead and get them before she went to the house to sort through Jimmy’s things.

As a side note, we had assumed that once again we were going to have to go through all Jimmy’s things, sort them out, and dispose of them in one way or another. However, we learned that legally, Jaycie was Jimmy’s sole heir and that as Jaycie’s parent and guardian, Cathey was entitled to receive and keep or dispose of all of Jimmy’s possessions. Cathey told us this morning that she and Jaycie would be going through everything except what belonged to us, relieving us of the burden of going through it one more time.

With our hearts heavy at the thought of the chores ahead of us, we made it out to 82nd Street and the Lake Ridge Chapel, where we were greeted with love, compassion, and a great deal more understanding than we expected.

LeeAnn Malone worked with us for the next several hours as we told her about Jimmy and what had happened to him and how, as much as we hated to put a price tag on something of this nature, we were operating on a shoestring budget from the burial policy that Barbara had purchased for each of her children many years ago. LeeAnn, it turned out, was one of several angels that we encountered during this sad and hectic time. She answered every question and walked through every possible scenario with us, explaining all along what they could do and how they would handle each phase of the process. We hadn’t been talking very long when we both decided that Lake Ridge was the place that we wanted to handle all the arrangements. As soon as we told LeeAnn that, she contacted the medical examiner’s office and started that part of the business.

After weighing all options, we decided that the only practical thing to do would be to have a cremation and a memorial service, to be followed with a burial of the cremains either on Monday or at a time in the future when the family could gather again for a private service. It wasn’t what we wanted, but it was all that made sense when we considered all the circumstances.

We finished hashing out the details and then called Cathey to see if she and Jaycie could meet with LeeAnn and us around 4:00 to go over all the plans and answer any questions. We then asked LeeAnn if there were any motels close by, as we hadn’t made any lodging arrangements for the night. She recommended a couple of places to check out and gave us some general directions, but when we went to look for them, we got totally lost in the Lubbock traffic and construction and found ourselves at the intersection of Slide Road and the Loop, where we noticed that the old Barcelona Inn was now an Embassy Suites hotel. I asked Barbara if she wanted me to check rates and availability. She said go ahead, but even if there were rooms available, they would be way more than our budget would allow.

So, I parked in the lot, left Barbara to her thoughts, and went inside the Embassy Suites to ask my questions. The girl at the desk said that they did have suites available. She also said that the rate for the night would be $139 and asked if we were there for the LCU graduation. I said, “No, we’re in town to bury our son.”

Without even looking up, the girl asked me to wait a minute, turned and went into the manager’s office, and returned in a minute to tell me that the rate for the night would be $89, and the rooms for the weekend (which I had also asked about) would be $77. I made the reservations for tonight, Saturday, and Sunday (we were planning to go to Artesia as soon as we finished meeting with Cathey and Jaycie), and returned to the car to tell Barbara that I had met yet another angel.

We decided that since we hadn’t eaten lately, we would go to a nearby Chick-Filet (something we almost never get to do) to rest a bit and get something in our stomachs. Then, it was back to the funeral home to await our meeting.

When Cathey, her brother David, and Jaycie arrived, we sat down with LeeAnn and discussed the arrangements we had made. Cathey and Jaycie were understandably upset about the cremation, but after tears and talking, Cathey agreed that it was all we could do. Cathey then asked about a viewing during the visitation, and we said that hadn’t been included in the arrangements because when we told LeeAnn this morning that Jimmy probably died on Sunday and wasn’t found until Wednesday noon, she said there would be no way he could be prepared for viewing.

LeeAnn then told us all that she had received Jimmy’s body from the medical examiner just a few minutes before we arrived for the meeting and he was remarkably well preserved; well enough, that she could prepare him for viewing, but he would have to be embalmed, something we hadn’t discussed in this morning’s plans.

We quickly agreed that we could include the embalming cost with the available insurance money if it meant that there could be a viewing when Jimmy’s friends and family came to pay their last respects.

From there we moved through all the other details and arrangements, eventually reaching consensus, if not total agreement. None of us wanted to be doing this, but all of us wanted to do the best we could.

By the time we finished the meeting and left the funeral home, we decided that as much as we wanted to be with our Artesia family, the Terpenings, tomorrow night, there was way too much to do in Lubbock, so we returned to Embassy Suites, added Friday night to our reservations, carted in our luggage, and set up our room as a headquarters for family and friends to meet during the coming days.

As we were bringing everything in, we noticed that there was a Manager’s Special hospitality area for all guests of the hotel. We checked it out and found a table full of delicious food ready to eat in the atrium or be taken to our room. We chose to load our plates and take the food to the room where we could eat in comfort while we made telephone calls to family and friends around the country.

Friday, December 10

I awoke this morning to hear Barbara talking on the telephone and finally figured out that she was talking to a Sprint customer service representative. Barbara had realized during the night that we were only halfway through our billing cycle and were nearly out of our minutes for the month with about a kazillion more calls to make in the next few days and after we return to Mineola. I can’t remember who she talked to, but after explaining out situation, the service rep added an additional 300 free minutes to tide us over…yet another of the many angels we were to meet during this time. Now when we hear someone speak of problems with Sprint, we speak right up and tell them how Sprint has helped us through several troublesome situations in the past year…Sprint is tops in our book!

We just kind of piddled around for a while before we realized that we were supposed to be at St. Luke’s United Methodist church at 9:00 to meet with Cathey and the minister to discuss the funeral service. So, we quickly finished preparations for the day, hopped in the Vibe, and drove across town as quickly as we could to try to find the church. We had a general idea, but got generally lost before getting back in the right neighborhood.

We got to the church in time to introduce ourselves to Pastor Matt Wolfington and visit with him a bit before Cathey arrived with a couple of friends of hers and Jimmy. Kyle and Chris had been real rocks for us during the 14 months and we were more than pleased to have them with us to plan the service.

While Matt had had several very personal meetings with Jimmy (Jimmy had told us of meeting with Matt and how he was helping Jimmy to grow spiritually), he needed additional background information and stories to share with family and friends at the service. Each of us shared stories about our relationship with Jimmy and we found that for the first time since Wednesday at noon, we were able to talk about Jimmy’s life, and not just make plans for his funeral. We laughed and we cried together as we remembered special times and events and by the time we were finished, Matt had more than enough information to round out what he had already learned from his relationship with Jimmy.

As we were leaving the church, Barbara realized that she didn’t have her cell phone with her inside and she was supposed to call LeeAnn at the funeral home about finalizing some arrangements there. As soon as we got in the car she checked her phone and found several voice mails from LeeAnn, each more urgent than the previous one.

When she got through to LeeAnn, she was told that there was a huge problem in the arrangements, not with them, but with Resthaven Cemetery, and we all needed to meet as soon as possible. We called Cathey to let her know that we needed to meet and then headed out to Lake Ridge to see what had gone wrong now.

What had gone wrong was that we had forgotten that the double plot that Barbara and the kids had picked out many years ago for Henry was an “apartment” plot instead of side-by-side. That meant that even though we only needed to bury an urn, the cemetery would have to do all the work of uncovering the entire grave at a cost of more than $1,500 more than we anticipated. LeeAnn told us that since the cemetery cost was going to be so much higher, if we wanted, we could change from a cremation to a standard burial and she would sell us the casket and make the change in services for only $500 more than what she had quoted for the cremation.

When Cathey arrived, we told her the news, which was a welcome change for all of us. No one really wanted the cremation in the first place; it was a financial decision. We told Cathey we could handle the additional charge through the burial insurance, but we would have to change nearly all the plans that had been made but not, fortunately, published anywhere. Instead of a viewing on Saturday, a cremation on Sunday, and a burial on Monday, we would be able to move the viewing to Sunday (giving more family and friends time to get to Lubbock), a family graveside service Monday at 10:00, and a memorial service at the church immediately following the graveside service; all in all, a much more satisfactory set of arrangements for all of us.

With a new set of plans in mind, Barbara and I drove back to Jimmy’s house to locate sports memorabilia and a few other special items to place in the viewing room in lieu of a family casket spray. Anyone who knew Jimmy knew he wasn’t a flower kind of guy, and all who came to the visitation would appreciate seeing the sports items (including the autographed jersey worn by Pete Rose, Jimmy’s all-time favorite baseball player.)

Cathey had a couple of other errands to run and then met us at the house and we went through box after box to find just what we all thought would be appropriate. When we had found everything we wanted, Barbara and I loaded the items in the Vibe and took them back to the funeral home while Cathey took the pictures she and Barbara found so she could organize them and give them to LeeAnn for a slide show.

LeeAnn told us she had set a 4:30 appointment for Barbara and me at Resthaven to make the arrangements for the burial service. We had a little time to go back to Embassy Suites and rest and then made the trip around the Loop to meet with Jimmy Young, the Resthaven representative who worked with us to plan the graveside service and design the marker.

About the marker…When Henry died, Barbara picked out a bronze marker that had both Henry’s and her name on it. She asked today about just rubbing out her name and replacing it with Jimmy Clint’s name, but we were told that it was a cast marker and it had to be completely replaced if another name was to be on it. When we asked the cost, Jimmy gave us what we thought was an exorbitant amount. I asked why it was so high and he said we would also have to purchase a new granite slab. That didn’t make a bit of sense to me so I asked him if they didn’t just need to pull the marker out of the slab…after all, it had to be set in the granite to begin with. He looked at me, then consulted his book, and allowed that that was all they needed to do after all and we only needed to order the new marker. We then rode out to the gravesite to confirm that was the place we wanted to bury Jimmy Clint and then returned to the office to finish the necessary paperwork and design the marker

We finally got away from Resthaven around 6:00 and made our way back across Lubbock with stops at Walmart to gas up the Vibe and at What-a-Burger to get a couple of burgers and some fries for our evening meal. Then it was back to Embassy suites to settle in for the night, make more phone calls, and send emails to get folks caught up on the developments of the day.

Saturday, December 11

For once this week we had a semi-leisurely morning to start the day. We decided to take advantage of the breakfast specials in hotel, and were glad we did. They had everything anyone could possible want for breakfast, including omelets cooked to order. It was the first real breakfast we’d had since Tuesday, and we were ready for it.

When breakfast was over, Barbara called Cathey to visit a bit and ended up talking for nearly an hour…there was a lot of ground to cover and arrangements to be made.

After the call, we went upstairs to get cleaned up and dressed for the day and then went to Cathey and Jaycie’s house to visit for about an hour and a half. (This was not a time for cameras or pictures so we have none!) Most of the work and preparations for the visitation and services was completed and for the first time this week we could just sit down and visit, and that was a good thing for all of us.

Barbara and I then drove out to the funeral home to see the visitation room before heading back to the hotel for the afternoon. We had thought about doing some shopping, but the idea of getting out in all the pre-Christmas rush didn’t appeal to us, so we just returned to the hotel to await the arrival of other family members.

Leah and Ryan were the first to arrive and get settled in their room. They were followed a little later by John, Carol, and Randi. John, Ryan, and I left the ladies behind for a while and went to Jo Ann and Johnny’s house to pick up some things that we would need in the hotel tonight.
Barbara’s sister Carol arrived with Teresa and Tamra shortly after we guys got back and then we all went to the atrium to sit and visit. When I joined the group, I found John and Ryan talking to a man who was sitting with them. The man introduced himself as Richard from Seminole. Richard was there for a family wedding but ended up spending enough time talking with us that we declared him to be an honorary family member. (small pic in above collage)

For our evening meal tonight Jo Ann and Johnny brought out several boxes and sacks of food from Orlando’s, a great Italian restaurant and take-out place. We can’t remember what all was included in the meal, but we do know that it was all delicious and no one went away hungry! April and Stacey, Jo Ann’s daughters, brought stuff that night to; but everything is a blur!
While we were gathering in and around our room, Barbara’s younger sister Nancy and her husband Tom came in. They had driven in from Cleburne and were staying in another motel, but came out to spend the evening with family.
Among the highlights of the evening was a visit by one of Barbara’s former elementary school students, Justin Herzog, his wife Candace, and their son London. Barbara and Justin had connected earlier after good friend and former teacher, Arnold Robbins, died and now keep up with each other through email and occasionally facebook. Tonight she got to see him in person after all these years and to meet his lovely family.

Another visitor tonight was Dennis Kinman, a long time friend and former swim team member of John. John and Dennis had a grand time discussing and reliving their earlier exploits.

In the midst of great heartache, tonight showed the healing power of God through family and special friends as we gathered to renew friendships, share love, and remember how much Jimmy Clint meant to those around him.

Sunday, December 12

We had really considered trying to go to church this morning, but after the excitement of last night and not much sleep for either of us, we decided to do what sleeping in we could and then have breakfast with the family members who were staying in the hotel.

We’ve already mentioned the quality (if not the quantity) of the breakfasts; all that remains to be said is that no one in our group was disappointed in the food or service this morning as we gathered in a semi-private area of the atrium/courtyard. While the purpose of our being in Lubbock was sad, we did enjoy being together as family and sharing friendly banter as we ate.

A little before 11:00 we all went to Lake Ridge Chapel for a family viewing and to see how nicely LeeAnn had arranged the room. We met a couple of other members of the Lake Ridge staff this morning and, while we don’t remember their names at this writing, we were again impressed at their friendliness and professionalism, once again reminding us that we had made the right choice in having Lake Ridge handle our arrangements for Jimmy.

While we were visiting last night, Justin said he’d like to prepare a family lunch for us today. We told him that wasn’t necessary, but his insistence won out over our reticence, and shortly after we arrived back at the hotel, Justin showed up with a brisket and all the trimmings. We invited him to join us for the meal, but he said he had to hurry back to the house to prepare food for a family gathering…what a wonderful and thoughtful young man he is and what a pleasure it was to get to meet him and his family… more angels for us just when we needed them!

Our meal was pretty much a come-and-go affair as it was “hosted” in sister Carol’s room and there was limited seating. In addition to the brisket that Justin prepared, we dragged out the leftovers from the food that Jo Ann and Johnny brought last night, so there was no danger of anyone in the group going hungry. At one time or another during that hour or so we had John, Carol, Randi, Carol’s brother Charlie, Leah, Ryan, Tom, Nancy, sister Carol, Teresa, Tamra, Barbara, and me in the room…quite a gathering.
Between the time we finished eating (and cleaning up the mess) and time to go to the chapel for the visitation, we had yet another visitor, Bobby Olson, the son of Barbara and Henry’s next door neighbor for many years. It was good to meet another of the Olson “boys” and to watch as John, Leah, and Barbara reconnected with another family friend. Unfortunately, Bobby’s visit was rather short as he needed to return to the Dallas area this evening and we had to finish getting ready to go to Lake Ridge Chapel for the afternoon.
From 4:00 until a little after 6:00 we met with family and friends who gathered at the funeral home to honor Jimmy and his family and share stories of the times they had spent with various family members. For Barbara, it was a bittersweet time as we gathered in the visitation room to see Jimmy for the last time and then mixed and mingled with her friends and former students that she hadn’t seen in years. To name them all would be impossible, as it would be to put a value on what their presence meant during this sad and difficult time. As we visited, there were several TV monitors above us that played a montage of photographs taken throughout Jimmy’s life that Cathey had gathered and given to LeeAnn to set to music for the occasion.

When the visitation and viewing was over, we returned to the hotel to share the evening with family and friends and once again tackle remaining piles of food that had been so graciously provided to us during our stay. In addition to the food, we even received a gift basket from Embassy Suites, just one among many thoughtful gestures made by the management and staff of the hotel.

A huge comfort to us during the week has been the presence of Jo Ann’s family. Her brother, Charlie, and her daughters, April and Stacy, have been with us throughout the time to offer comfort and friendship and sometimes to just be there and share our grief.

Our friends Gary and Joyce from Houston drove in this evening. They arrived too late for the viewing and visitation at the chapel, but in plenty of time to share the later hours of the evening talking with us and getting us caught up on the latest events in their lives. Barbara and I were worn out relatively early, so the rest of the group retired to John and Carols’ room to while away the nighttime hours while we tried to get some sleep before another hard day.

Monday, December 13

We arose early this morning to join the family for breakfast in the courtyard and then finish packing, clearing out the room, and loading the car. Joining us for breakfast were Carol’s daughters, Connie and Lynette and grandson Barney, who had driven straight through from Phoenix, nearly 800 miles and 29 hours, to join the family this morning. The sacrifice and perseverance of these young ladies to make such a trip brought floods of tears and joy to Barbara.
It was beautiful, but cold outside when Barbara and I left a little after 9:00 to join the Monday morning traffic commute around the Loop to 19th Street and Resthaven Cemetery. The graveside service for Jimmy wasn’t scheduled until 10:00, but we wanted to be early to visit with LeeAnn, who had graciously donated her services to bring the casket to the cemetery this morning.

After visiting with LeeAnn and reviewing the arrangements for the morning, we returned to the Vibe to wait for family and special friends to arrive. We were still in the car at 9:40 when we got a call from Gary and Joyce wanting to know where they were supposed to be. They left the hotel a few minutes before we did, stopped at a drug store, and then came out to the cemetery. Because they weren’t sure where the gravesite was, they stopped at the main office to ask for directions. Instead of getting directions, they were told that everything was being handled by Lake Ridge Chapel. Gary pointed to the sign that indicated a graveside service for Jimmy Colwell at Resthaven, but was again told they would have to go across town to Lake Ridge. So, they left the cemetery and headed back across town, but did call to find out what was going on. Barbara told them to turn around and get back as soon as possible. After all, they are just like family to us and they had driven all the way in from Houston for this service.

About the time Barbara ended that call, I saw the minister’s car pull up. It was getting late, so I went to him and explained what had just happened to Gary and Joyce and to see if we could maybe delay the start of the graveside service for a bit in hopes they could get to the cemetery. When I finished talking, the minister said the same thing had happened to him…he stopped in the office to find out which area of the memorial park he needed to go to and was told by the people up front that he would just have to go to Lake Ridge. Luckily, Matt knew he was supposed to be at Resthaven, so he just drove through the park until he found us.

Just a few minutes before the service started, a representative to Resthaven (not the one we had talked to on Friday) arrived with the computer generation of the new marker that Jimmy Young promised to bring us this morning. He knew nothing of the situation that had occurred in the office this morning, but he did catch the brunt of our anger and frustration over the outrageous mistake and misdirection of the office staff.

Luckily, Gary and Joyce did arrive as we pallbearers gathered to carry the casket to the tent and family members and special friends stood by to make their way to the graveside.

Matt delivered a beautiful short service at the graveside, reminding us of Jimmy’s love and loyalty to his family and friends, and the fact that Jimmy’s life was not defined by his earthly relationships and shortcomings, but by his relationship with his savior, Jesus Christ.

When the service was over and we had said our goodbyes to Jimmy Clint, Barbara finally got a chance to approve and sign off on the computer generation of the new marker.

Barbara did apologize to the gentleman who was out there, but we also reminded him that it was a huge error on the part of someone in the front office.

(Henry always called Jimmy Clint, Plug, since he was built like a fire plug and just as tough as one!)

From the cemetery we drove back across town to St. Luke’s United Methodist Church for the memorial service. It was a last opportunity to meet with special friends and to hear a beautiful service as Matt and Andy Hurst delivered a beautiful message to remind us about many beautiful and meaningful aspects of Jimmy’s life. For us, the service brought great comfort because it was obvious that not only did Matt know about Jimmy, he KNEW Jimmy and was convinced, as we were, that Jimmy had turned his life around and simply ran out of time before he could become the man he wanted to be.

After the service was over and friends had departed, we shared a brief family time as we gathered the flowers and sports memorabilia, loaded them in the cars, and then prepared to leave the church and return to our homes. We said our goodbyes to our family members, got in the Vibe, and drove away, headed to Abilene for the afternoon and evening.

We arrived in Abilene around 3:30 and spent the rest of the day visiting with Dandy, filling her in on the events of the week and basking in her love and friendship as we completed what had to be one of the worst days of our life.

Tuesday, December 14

We got around fairly early this morning, trying to get away from Dandy’s house by 8:00. We almost made it on time, but when we were almost to the interstate, we realized that we’d left Barbara’s cell phone at the house, so she used my phone to call Dandy and tell her we were returning.

After picking up the phone and saying our goodbyes once again, we headed back toward the interstate, but also stopped to get gasoline and maybe save a stop down the highway.

The return trip to Mineola was generally uneventful. We spent the time reviewing and rehashing the last several days and fielding phone calls from family and friends who wanted to check on us. The Dallas/Fort Worth traffic was very cooperative and we sailed through with minimal lane and speed changing, stopping only after we reached Belt Line Road on the east side of Dallas. There’s a really neat store there that we like to shop in as we take a break from driving all those miles.

We arrived back in Mineola just before 3:00, stopped at the post office to pick up a week’s worth of mail, and then went to the house to unload the car, move everything inside and put it away, and restart our lives.

The afternoon and evening were spent getting settled in and talking to friends and family to let them know we were safely home.

"Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy." - Eskimo proverb

Back home in Mineola, our lives changed forever,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

Thoughts from Barbara: Even as I read what Jim so lovingly and painstakingly wrote in this journal and I type this note, it all seems so surreal. It’s as though I have fallen in a hole and can’t seem to work my way out. Jim and I have said so many times, “It’s just not the natural order of things” but even that is stupid to say since we know that God is in control so we have to back up and say, “To us humans, it’s not the natural order of things.”

I know that many of you have sent cards and emails, but I confess that I haven’t really read any of them…I just couldn’t when we got home (but I have saved each and will read later) because I needed strength to go back into the caregiver mode and to prepare Christmas for our other children. There just was no time to allow myself to be “weak.” With that being said, I want you to know that I do appreciate each thoughtful gesture and though I may not have contacted you, I do know that you cared.

While Jim worked on the journal, my responsibility was to make the collages and both the writing and the collages took much more time than normal as we would find ourselves stopping to just get a grip! But…since our journals are our legacy, our gift, our history for our children and grandchildren, we had to persevere. We hope and pray that through our lives others will find a glimmer of something that will enrich their lives and maybe make them understand that without God, one cannot get through the rough times or enjoy the mountain tops.

My last act of love I could do for Jimmy Clint was to make a collage of favorite shots that we had taken within the last year and a half. I love you, Son!

A Short Little Week?

Sunday, December 5 – Tuesday, December 7, 2010


Sunday, December 5

We set the alarm early this morning to allow us plenty of time to get everyone ready for church, but Mother and I both woke up at 5:00, so the alarm wasn’t all that necessary. Mother went back to asleep, but I was wide awake after I’d helped her get up to go to the bathroom and then back in bed, so I got up and puttered around the kitchen for a while.
When Barbara got up at 6:30, we finally got going with all that had to be done. Things were a little different this morning because Mother and TJ were able to go to their church after an absence of several weeks. We did get a little behind schedule, but Sophie came in at 8:30, and by 8:45 we had all of our regular stuff plus a crock pot full of sweet potato soup loaded in the car and we were headed off to Holiday Villages to transfer food and afternoon work clothes to Big V before going to Yantis for church.
After arriving at the church, we went to the main building to deliver the CDs of last week’s Bible study presentation we’d edited and burned, I checked on what we were doing for special music (since I wasn’t at choir rehearsal last Sunday night) and then we went to the Family Life Center to mix and mingle for the last few minutes of the weekly fellowship breakfast.

We’ve discovered that one of our points of service is to help wash dishes between the end of breakfast and the beginning of the Sunday school lesson…don’t know how that came about initially, but it is a job that needs doing, and this morning they seemed to be short on kitchen help, so we pitched in and helped a couple of other folks get the place straightened up.

The choir sounded especially good this morning as we presented the opening selection of our Christmas cantata as a prelude to that coming event. There was also a baptismal service with five of our young people being baptized and then David preached a whale of a sermon, rounding out a beautiful morning service.

When we returned to Big V we had some leftover stroganoff for lunch and then lay down for an afternoon nap before tackling anything serious. Sunday afternoons are the only time we get to sleep in what we consider to be our own bed, and it was particularly comfortable today…so comfortable in fact, that when the phone started ringing, I couldn’t figure out where I was or where it was.
I finally got to the telephone to find out that Mike was calling us from Virginia just to check up on us and let us know what was going on there. He is batching it this weekend while Kelly is with a crew doing a video shot in West Virginia.

As soon as we finished our conversation (Barbara was awake by then so we both got to share a few words with Mike), I got dressed and went outside to spend an hour or so cutting down more briar vines along the gully and hauling them off to the burn pile in the lot behind us. That is slow and tedious work, but something very necessary to saving the beautiful trees, especially the young ones that line our property.

Around 3:00 I stopped working and we walked over to visit our neighbors, Gary and Linda, to see how they were doing. We heard last night at bingo that Linda had fallen and hurt her knee, so we wanted to check on her. While we were there catching up on their latest news and views, we dropped off a container of the sweet potato soup that had been simmering in the crock pot all afternoon.
From there, we went over to visit our newest neighbors, Wes and Linda, who have now moved into their new mobile home. We met Wes and Linda the last week before we finally moved Big V onto Our Little Lot a year and a half ago. We were all staying in the RV park and they were looking at property to buy. After a couple days of searching, they decided to buy the lot next to ours and soon had a pad put in for their motor home. After going through some serious medical situations, they were finally able to sell their home in Texarkana and have recently moved to a new house that they had relocated to their lot.
With the visiting completed, we changed clothes and headed back to church so I could join in the choir rehearsal, the final one before we present out cantata next Sunday night. We worked hard for an hour and a half before finishing and retiring to the Family Life Center for the church’s annual Christmas dinner.

What we, as relative newcomers to the church, found out was that the Christmas dinner is a huge event for the church. Instead of a committee decorating the room for dinner, several ladies of the church each select a table that they decorate, and we don’t mean just putting down a table cloth and a few springs of greenery. The entire room looked as if decorating crews from Neiman-Marcus and Macy’s had spent the day there…some of the most beautiful table settings we’ve ever seen for any dinner, anywhere!
We had been asked earlier in the day to help judge the tables for the annual competition and had agreed, but that was before I found that the choir rehearsal was going to last until the dinner began, so Barbara served as one of the three judges, selecting two of the tables for not only their beauty, but also their creativity.
And then, there was the meal! We have some of the finest cooks in the state attending Yantis First Baptist Church, and their specialties were laid out before us on the serving tables. In addition to the ham and turkey that were provided by the church, there was every conceivable side dish available. If anyone there went hungry tonight, it was his or her own fault! Mother always said that growing boys needed to eat; and, I guess, the same holds true for a growing church.
After eating and visiting with folks around us, we packed up what little was left over of our sweet potato soup and returned to Mineola, well fed, spiritually and physically, from the activities of the day.

Monday, December 6

Wow…Mother slept nearly 11 hours last night! She usually goes to bed somewhere between 9:00 and 10:00 and wakes up at least once around 2:00 – 3:30 to go to the bathroom, but last night she went to bed at 8:00, dropped off to sleep immediately, and slept through until 7:00 this morning.

With a little later start than usual for all of us, Barbara and I started ginning around the place to get breakfast ready and then spent the morning doing regular household chores…sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, washing the laundry, etc. In fact, we got so busy that we completely forgot about even going to the post office until tonight, and that’s one of the key constant points of each day for us.

When we finally took a “break” from work, Barbara whipped up her famous Mexican casserole for lunch. It’s a very simple and easy recipe, but is always well-received around this house. When it was ready to eat, we got Mother up from her TV-watching and we all gathered around the table to enjoy another meal.

We like to share different emails and stories with Mother after lunch and today we had some particularly interesting You Tube videos that had been forwarded by friends. We watched them together and then I read a really thoughtful story that someone had forwarded to Barbara. We all enjoy that time together when we take a short break from the daily routines to share time and laughs with each other.

After finishing with the housework and lunch, we spent much of our time working at the computers. I was working on the text for last week’s journal, trying desperately to get it ready to send out today, and Barbara was busy editing and cropping photos and creating collages to show pictorially what we did during the past seven days. By 4:00 pm our task was completed as we pushed the “send” key and sent the journal/blog notice off to friends and family around the country.

TJ came over this afternoon to visit and share a spot of tea and let us know that she will be going to the doctor tomorrow in Tyler to have her wrist X-rayed and reevaluated. Her friend Marge would be taking her and they’d be getting out and about for the morning.

When TJ left, we turned out thoughts to what we would be having for lunch tomorrow, trying to get things lined out so we’d have a clue about what we were doing. We finally decided that I’d grill some country-style pork ribs and Barbara would fix a big bowl of Puerto Rican potato salad, one of our favorite dishes. Talking of that then led us into remembering our good friends, Margarita, Maria, and Francisco, who opened their home, and more importantly, their hearts to us when we visited them in Puerto Rico a few years ago.

Before we could fix the potato salad (we’ve found that it tastes best after it has set up overnight in the refrigerator), I had to go to Brookshire’s for some of the ingredients. While I was out shopping, I made the daily post office run, just a few hours later than usual. Once back at the house, we worked together on the slicing and dicing of the onions, apples, and sweet red peppers that are at the heart of the potato salad recipe and before long we had a bowl full of the delicious concoction chilling in the refrigerator, just waiting to satisfy our hunger tomorrow.

When the kitchen work was all finished, we got Mother into bed and then spent the rest of the evening working on projects for Christmas while I watched the Patriots demolish the Jets on Monday Night Football.

Tuesday, December 7

It was on this day in 1941 that Japanese bombers attacked Pearl Harbor. On the morning of December 7th, soldiers at Pearl Harbor were learning how to use a new device called radar, and they detected a large number of planes heading toward them. They telephoned an officer, who said they must be American B-17s, and not to worry about it.


Because it was Sunday, there was a bonus ration of milk to go along with breakfast that morning. There was a sailor named James Jones in the mess hall, who later wrote From Here to Eternity (1951). He said, "It was not till the first low-flying fighter came whammering overhead with his MGs going that we ran outside, still clutching our half-pints of milk to keep them from being stolen.”


The Japanese planes dropped bombs and torpedoes, and ships started capsizing and sinking. Altogether, 2,390 Americans were killed. President Roosevelt got on the radio, talked for less than 10 minutes, and said that December 7th was a day that would "live in infamy." Congress declared war the following morning and the United States officially entered WWII. (From Garrison Keillor’s “The Writer’s Almanac”

We asked Mother where she was when she heard the news abut Pearl Harbor. Mother was 18 years old at the time and her family was living in Tyler. They had gone to church that morning and then, as was her custom, she and several girls went driving around downtown Tyler, circling the courthouse square and looking for other young people (translated that means guys!) to visit, when they heard the news on the radio. She said that everyone was so shocked by the news that they didn’t even know what to think.

Daddy was later drafted into the Army Air Force as an aircraft mechanic, serving in El Paso and then at Hunter Field in Savannah, Georgia, where he was preparing to be sent overseas, but the war ended before he was deployed and he returned to El Paso.

I got up early this morning to get ready for our weekly prayer meeting at the church in Yantis. Because Barbara can’t lift Mother back into place in the bed when she wants to sit up (we can hardly wait for the new mechanical bed to get here!!), I woke Mother at 6:30, got her propped up, and took her the morning paper and her coffee.

I was going to work at Our Little Lot this morning, but it was 28 degrees and I just didn’t care that much about crawling around under trees and cutting vines, so I trucked it on back to Mineola, stopped at the donut shop for an apple fritter for Barbara, and then returned to the house to find that Barbara had been busy getting Mother her breakfast and then wrapping Christmas presents that we had purchased. With the presents stacked around our little tree in the living room, it really was beginning to look a lot like Christmas!

After Barbara got Mother dressed and sitting in her chair, I went in and put Mother through her daily exercises. We lost electricity for about a half hour this morning and without electricity and the TV to distract her, Mother made it through the entire range of exercises in record time. I’ve been telling her that we guessed we’d have to do like she did to us boys when we were growing up…if the TV was distracting us from doing our homework, then the TV just had to go. After this morning, I think there may be some validity to that.

We stayed around until the power was back on and then while Mother took a mid-morning nap, Barbara and I went downtown to do some more Christmas shopping. Mineola has a number of specialty stores in the downtown area, and we always like to check them out for unique gifts. Unfortunately for us, some of the shops we like to frequent were closed again today…still don’t know why, but we did manage to find some really nice things for some of the folks on our gift list.

When we were finished downtown we returned to the house to check on Mother and then went to Walmart for a few things for Christmas, the house, and Big V, and then returned to the house where we went to work getting lunch ready. Barbara worked in the kitchen and I went outside to grill a batch of country-style pork ribs as my contribution to the dinner.

TJ came over at 2:00 and we had lunch…pork ribs, baked beans, and Puerto Rican potato salad…yum-yum…just can’t beat a meal like that!

After we ate, cleaned the kitchen, and got Mother squared away in her room, I drove out to Holiday Villages to do some work around Big V. When we got the cover put over Big V, I just snaked the water and sewer hoses and the shore line down the inside edge of the wall, around the back, and then down the outside of the wall to the hookups. That worked temporarily, but wasted a lot of space and was a giant pain when it came time to mow and trim around the edge of the pad.

Today I cut a six inch square hole in the base of the wall and ran all the lines through it directly to the utility hookups, reducing all the lines and cables by about 12 feet. That’s the Reader’s Digest condensed version. I borrowed a saw from Gary, our neighbor, to cut through the steel siding, but the siding was too flexible and it just didn’t work the way it should. So, I used my power drill to punch a series of holes all around the cutout area and then took my trusty hammer and screwdriver to chisel down and across the line of holes to open the space for the lines to go through. It took about an hour longer than it should have, but by 5:00 I had the lines reconnected and the water hose insulated, with everything ready for the projected cold snap and possible snowfall tonight. I still have to trim out frame the opening I cut but we don’t have the mess back there that we’ve had since summer.

When I got back to the house I was going to start work on the text for this week’s journal (Barbara has already been working on the pictures and collages), but I was exhausted for some reason and, after watching some of the Kansas/Memphis basketball game, I went to bed and fell asleep at 8:00…very early for me.

I slept until a little after 11:00, woke up somewhat refreshed, and came back to the kitchen to find Barbara, who had also slept for a while and then woke up again. We quickly reconstructed the events of the last three days and then I settled in hammering away at the keyboard, trying to get current with the journal/blog…ah, the lives of aspiring authors! And so, constant readers, if you’ve made it this far in our writings and ramblings, you should know that it is 1:19 AM on Wednesday, December 8, as we finish the entry for this day.

Little did we know what the morning light would bring…

From Mineola, Texas,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

Just A Little Like Christmas

Sunday, November 28 – Saturday, December 4, 2010

Sunday, November 28

Happy Birthday today to Barbara Colwell Little!!! Question: What do Barbara Little and the Mother Road (that famous east-west highway) have in common? Answer: They’re both 66!

Barbara: Carol and I were up and stirring fairly early since Connie Sue was to come over at 8:00 to get her mother packed up and ready to head back to New Mexico. Carol went down to bring some breakfast back to the room as I continued to play the part of a lady of leisure! I knew Jim and I would eat an early lunch so I had decided to forego the morning meal. After checking that Carol hadn’t forgotten anything, we sat down to await her ride. Only problem was…Connie forgot to wake up! However, after a little prompting through the phone, she made it over to the hotel only about 30 minutes later than expected. Since they (Carol, Connie, Tonya, and Tamara) were headed back to Gary’s to say their good-byes to them and get the rest of their passengers, I took a couple of quick photos and waved my farewell.
Then, it was back to the room to play a couple of rounds of Wheel on facebook, write some emails, and accept some birthday wishes phone calls as I awaited the arrival of Jim.

Jim: I was up fairly early this morning to make sure everything in the house was ready for Sophie to come and spend time with Mother.

Sophie arrived at 8:30 and by 9:00 I had the car packed and was on the way to Shreveport and Bossier City for a birthday edition of Date Day with Barbara. After a couple of stops here in town, I hit the road, taking U.S. 80 east to Gladewater and then cutting down to I-20 for the rest of the trip, and finally arriving at the SpringHill Suites at Louisiana Downs.

I met up with Barbara and we went over to Harrah’s to play for a bit before taking in a great buffet, one in which I was able to eat all the “peel and eat” shrimp I could handle…I also sampled some great Cajun gumbo and prime rib, but the shrimp definitely made the meal!

After eating, we decided we’d go to downtown Shreveport for a while. We tried to call Gary, Carol’s son, to see about dropping by for a short visit, but no one answered the phone, so we went down to the Horseshoe to enjoy the entertainment there for a couple of hours before returning to Harrah’s and then the SpringHill Suites for the evening.

Monday, November 29

We took our time getting up and around this morning. While Barbara was going through her morning routine, I took advantage of the hotel’s complimentary breakfast buffet to get my morning nourishment. I always enjoy eating there…lots of good food and no reason to rush through it.

Once we checked out, we drove back down to the Horseshoe to play some more. Our enjoyment was greatly enhanced when Barbara hit for a nearly $800 jackpot on a penny machine, allowing us a little more time to play, but leaving us with enough of our senses to get the heck out of there while we were far ahead.

We got away from Shreveport around 12:30, stopped for gas and lunch along the way, and then drove through a stretch of bad rain for a bit before hitting clear skies and dry pavement for the rest of the trip back to Mineola. We arrived at the house just a few minutes before 3:00, visited with Sophie for a few minutes before she went home, and then began unpacking and putting things away.

Barbara: One of the first things I noticed when we walked into Edith’s was that there was a chocolate pie sitting on the kitchen bar…I had told TJ that I’d love to have a chocolate pie for my birthday since her pies taste exactly like I remember my mother making! They are sooooooo yummy! Boy, we could sure drag out this birthday thing! While Jim was taking a pic of me and my pie, he also took another one of me in my Emergency Numbers shirt from Carol. What an awesome 66th I had!
Jim: This evening we started digging out Christmas decorations and spent some time working on the Thanksgiving week edition of the journal…nothing at all exciting, but that was fine with us.

Tuesday, November 30

I got up early this morning to go to prayer meeting out at Yantis. Mother woke up about the same time I did, so I helped her get set up for the morning…propped in bed with coffee, newspaper, and the TV remote.

I was hoping to work around Big V for two or three hours after prayer meeting, but it was 39 degrees out and the wind was blowing, so I decided I’d just have to wait until another day to work outside. I took time to do some measurements for my next project and then returned to Mineola, where I found Barbara moving Christmas decorations into the house.

We spent several hours combing through all the decorations and deciding what we could use and where we could use it. By the time we got through, we had the living room and dining room tastefully decorated…nothing that was in-your-face Christmas, but enough set out and arranged that we were very comfortable with our efforts.
This evening we went to Walmart to do some shopping and a little shop-looking. While we were there, we checked in the electronics department and noticed that the Vizio 32” flat-screen TVs were reduced in price. They were still higher than the TVs we looked at last Friday morning, but I had a chance to compare the two models side-by-side, and there was a lot more contrast than comparison; there was no doubt that the Vizio, even at a slightly higher price, had a far superior picture…well worth the difference in costs.

We debated whether to go ahead and buy a set tonight. After all, there were quite a few of that model on the racks, and we could surely come back next week and get one. We walked around for a bit and looked at other items before I said that we might ought to go ahead and get the TV we wanted for Mother instead of taking any chances. So, I got another cart, loaded the TV into it, and we finished our looking and shopping and headed home.

Once we got back to the house, we decided that it was foolish to hide the TV in the garage for the next 25 days when Mother could be enjoying it, so we called TJ and invited her to a special Christmas brunch for Mother tomorrow morning. That would give us tonight to unpack the set and figure out how it worked.

When we got Mother settled in for the evening, we disconnected the little TV in the living room, moved it to the garage, moved the new set into the living room, unpacked it, and then started the hookup process. Even following the directions, it took longer than I thought it would to figure out how to get the CD/DVD player hooked up, and all the different functions figured out. Once we did, though, we were just blown away by the quality of the picture and sound…there was no doubt in our minds that Mother was going to love this thing!

We spent the rest of the evening working at our computers and watching the new TV (and trying to figure out how we were going to hide it from Mother and TJ tomorrow morning.

Wednesday, December 1

Today was the First Day of Christmas, at least at Mother’s house. We got up fairly early and started to work on the day’s agenda.

While Barbara started gathering the ingredients for her sausage quiche, I made a quick Walmart run to get a few things we needed for groceries and a set of component cables to finish the hookup of the new TV.

Once back at the house, I hid the new TV behind one of the couches and put the old one back in place and then went to the kitchen to help Barbara get breakfast ready.

TJ came over around 9:30 and we sat down to a delightful brunch of Italian sweet sausage quiche, fresh grapes, and toasted homemade Russian rye bread…you can believe us when we say that no one waddled away hungry!
When the meal was finished and the table cleared, we walked Mother and TJ into the living room and had them sit down. Then, we told them to close their eyes until we told them to open them. While Barbara watched to make sure no one cheated, I went behind the couch, took the little TV down from the table, and replaced it with the new TV. Barbara then read a little poem we had written earlier in the morning and told Mother and TJ to open their eyes and picture the new TV in Mother’s room…to say that Mother and TJ were surprised would be an understatement.

We ran through some of the channels to see what a great picture Mother would be receiving, and then TJ had to leave to go to a doctor appointment. We had already told Mother that we would be watching Forrest Gump this morning…just didn’t tell her that we would be watching it on a new TV.

Mother told us she had never seen Forrest Gump, (we were lucky enough to borrow a copy of it from Becky when we were in New Mexico) so this morning we just sat in the living room, closed the blinds to keep out the glare of the bright sun, and enjoyed ourselves as we watched the show. Mother enjoyed the movie and Barbara and I were amazed at how much of the movie we had forgotten.

After the movie, we got Mother back to the recliner in her room and we set about removing the old TV (which seemed to weigh about 900 pounds today) and replacing it with her new TV. Since I had already hooked all the components together (and because the new TV weighs only 20 pounds), it didn’t take long until we had Mother’s entertainment center up and running for her viewing pleasure.
We then left Mother to enjoy the new TV while we moved the old one to the living room, switched out a couple of tables so their would be a large enough base for Mother’s old unit, and hooked in the cable box and DVD player. Now we have a TV that we can actually watch in the living room…how exciting!

Kendra, Mother’s nurse from At-Home Healthcare, came to the house a little after 1:00 and spent about an hour visiting with Mother while we tried to clean up and straighten all the little messes we made throughout the day.

Later in the afternoon I went to the vet’s office to get pet meds for the puppies and a case of canned dog food for Spike. Since moving in with Mother last January, we’ve learned that a lot of what we do revolves around fixed routines…for example, Spike and Bonita each take a pill and have a flea and tick medication rubbed into their necks once a month…those days are marked on the calendar and we follow them about as religiously as possible. To add to the routine, I change out the furnace/air conditioner filter once a month, so we’ve established the 1st of each month as the day to do all that.

To top it all off, since today is Wednesday and the garbage man will come tomorrow, we went through our regular Wednesday routine of gathering and bagging all the trash and setting it out on the front sidewalk for pickup early tomorrow morning. Whew…doctor the puppies, change the filter, bag and take out the trash…how much more fulfilling could our lives be?!!!
TJ came over this evening with a couple of boxes of Christmas ornaments that have been in the family since I was very young. Most of them are showing their age and are worn from as many as sixty years of hangings, packings, and unpackings, but still have a special beauty about them, surely the result of “memory sheen.” We selected quite a few of them and Barbara organized them in a basket so that now the indoor decorations reflect everything from the very old memories to the very new hopes and dreams.
Thursday, December 2

Jim: I had an appointment with the dermatologist this morning. Luckily, I was able to get this appointment in Quitman, saving the hassle of driving to and through Tyler. In case our constant readers haven’t figured it out, we do not like going to Tyler or driving through it and will avoid those activities whenever possible. So, instead of a half day of misery, I had only to drive ten minutes to the office in Quitman where Mr. Gautier, the PA for Dermatology Associates of Tyler, examined my face and scalp, picked up his magic freezing machine, and hit me with about 15 shots of liquid nitrogen (or whatever he is now using to inflict great pain on a small area). After that treatment, Mr. Gautier declared me good to go and said he’d see me in another six months.

When I was finished at the clinic, I drove to Yantis to get the MP3 player and Lisa’s presentation from yesterday’s Bible study, visited with Pastor David and Missy, our church secretary, for a few minutes, went across the street and bought another large box of sweet potatoes to carry us through the next month or so, swung by Holiday Villages to get some things that Barbara needed from Big V, and then returned to the house in Mineola to “start” the day.

I got home to find that Barbara had already tackled the morning chores…getting Mother up and around, fixing breakfast, starting the laundry, straightening the kitchen, etc. There’s always something that needs doing around here, especially in the mornings, and fortunately for me, Barbara had nearly all of it handled by the time I arrived.

After we had a chance to talk a bit and I filled Barbara in on what Mr. Gautier had done and said, we went to Walmart to see what we could find in the way of outdoor Christmas decorations. We’d been told by the neighbors that our neighborhood really dresses itself up for Christmas and we didn’t want to be the only Grinch House on the block.

We had already decided that outdoor lights on the house were out of the question for this year, but we did find some things to add color and Christmas decoration to the front porch and took them back to the house to see what we could do with them. Barbara, who has a much finer eye for decorations than I do, worked her magic with some odds and ends she found in the old boxes of decorations, and soon we had the porch looking a lot like Christmas…new flower arrangements in the hanging pots, and the new decorations placed just the way we wanted. As with the inside, we wanted sense of the season without a full-blown, in-your-face shout-out.
Satisfied with what we had accomplished, we had Mother come outside to see what we had done with her house and then, when TJ arrived, we all sat down to lunch and conversation.

We spent the afternoon and evening doing not much of anything significant…just reading, watching a little TV, and listening to seasonal background music…just a nice, quiet time at home with the three of us.

Friday, December 3

Today was another quiet day around the place. We got the usual morning chores and activities out of the way and then Barbara started “building” a pot of sweet potato soup for lunch. It’s a recipe that takes several hours, but is worth every minute of the time it takes.

While Barbara was slaving in the kitchen, I went to Walmart to find one more outdoor decoration to balance the display on the porch. On the way back to the house, I stopped at the pharmacy to visit with an insurance representative to see if there might be a better prescription plan for Mother for next year. Mother is now in that infamous “Donut Hole” in her prescription plan and with the number of high-dollar meds she takes for Parkinsonism, the last two months have added some interesting expenses.

I visited with Dennis, the representative, for a few minutes, explained Mother’s situation and gave him a list of her meds, and then set an appointment for 11:00 tomorrow morning to come back and see if, like Ford Motor Company, he had a better idea.

Back at the house we waited for the sweet potato soup to finish cooking while Barbara tackled the monthly bills and I did some odd jobs around the place. TJ came over and joined us for a late lunch…soup and grilled cheese sandwiches made with my homemade Russian rye bread.

We had another quiet evening. Since the sun goes down so early now, we seem to be settled down by 6:00, watching TV, playing or working at the computers, or tackling the odd chores that we missed during the day.

Saturday, December 4

Happy Birthday to Susie Francis in Hobbs, New Mexico!!!

As Saturdays go, this was a fairly quiet one for us. Mother woke up at 5:00 this morning, but went back to sleep, so we were a little slower than usual getting the morning activities accomplished.

While Barbara took care of the laundry chores, I went back to the pharmacy to visit with the prescription insurance representative. Unfortunately for Mother, Barbara’s work was much more successful than mine. The rep told me that he had checked everything as carefully as he could and decided that as much as he’d like to sell us a plan, he couldn’t do any better than what Mother already has…so, we’ll just continue with the plan and hope that drug costs will somehow decrease next year.

During lunch we listened to part of the webcast of Artesia’s football game with Aztec. When we finished eating and I got Mother up from the table to go back to her room, she surprised us by going to the living room and saying that she wanted to sit and listen to the game. So, we just sat here with the computer feeding us the audio (because it was a championship game there wasn’t a video feed) and cheering on our hometown Bulldogs.

Artesia held a narrow 23 – 21 lead at halftime and the game remained nip and tuck until Aztec made a couple of mistakes, turning the ball over to the Bulldogs, but still fighting hard to the end. When the game was finished, Artesia had outscored the Tigers and earned their 27th New Mexico High School Activities Association state football championship…what a game…what a victory…and what a record!

I was an eighth grader at Artesia Junior High when the Bulldogs won their first ever football state championship in 1957 and after that, it became a local tradition to spend most Thanksgiving days at a championship game. Times have changed and the playoffs have extended past the Thanksgiving holidays, but the tradition of excellence has continued since one of the sons of our high school football coach took over the reins years ago.

This afternoon Barbara started another large pot of sweet potato soup for us to take to the church Christmas dinner tomorrow. While that was going, we finished labeling and packaging this week’s Bible study lesson on Psalm 23. We’ll take the discs to church tomorrow morning for distribution.

This evening we had Sophie come over and watch Mother for a couple of hours while we went to Holiday Villages for the monthly bingo night. Tonight we sat at a table with our neighbors, Bubba and Margaret, Preacher Elton and his wife Wanda (Elton conducts the non-denominational worship service in the clubhouse each Sunday morning), and Joan, another neighbor. This was the first time for all of us to sit together as a group, and we found that we kept each other in stitches all night. Sandy, the caller, wondered what was so funny at our table that we weren’t focusing on the games. I even got so caught up in what we were laughing about that I almost missed seeing that I won a game, and barely had time to yell, “Bingo!” before Sandy called the next number. It was a fun way to finish out the week, and we even got a $10.00 Walmart card out of the deal because of my win. (Bubba & Margaret in bottom 2 photos while Elton and Wanda are on the bottom right) Somehow we missed Joan’s pic…that will be a must for next time!
We returned to Mineola after bingo and took care of the nighttime business of getting Mother ready for bed, putting away the sweet potato soup that had been cooking all evening, and doing another of the Saturday “routine” chores, sorting out all of Mother’s meds for next week and putting them in the meds box compartments.

John surprised us pleasantly this week by sending us a photo of granddaughter Randi on her 16th birthday which meant of course that we have to include it…this is a grandparent rule one learns early…display those grandkids any time you can!

"If you can put yourself in other people's shoes and wish other people the shoes that you like best yourself, we have a recipe for better relationships with each other." - Zlata Filipovic’, author of Stolen Voices: Young Peoples’ War Diaries from WWI to Iraq

From Mineola with love,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

More Than a Little Thankful!

Sunday, November 21 – Saturday, November 27, 2010

Sunday, November 21

Happy Birthday to Fred Epperly, our illustrious Sunday school teacher!!!

Sophie got here early enough this morning that we had time to feed Mother and still run by Big V to drop off some things and then get to the church in time for the fellowship breakfast. We haven’t been to the breakfast for several weeks and have missed getting to eat and visit with our friends out there, so this was a real bonus.

At the start of Sunday school, the class started singing Happy Birthday to Fred before we got the muffin, candle, card, and camera ready, so we staged a second “surprise” greeting for him.

David delivered one of the best Thanksgiving sermons I’ve ever heard, a very clear and concise description of thanksgiving based on Psalm 100. If a person couldn’t find a reason to be thankful after hearing that message, he or she will just have to remain an ungrateful grump!

When the service was over, Barbara and I drove back to Holiday Villages for the afternoon, stopping first at the clubhouse to see if we could meet with a family that has recently moved to the park from Artesia. They contacted us through a Facebook posting that we had shared with the Holiday Villages staff and Barbara sent a note back that we would probably be in the clubhouse for lunch today if they had time to come meet us. I recognized the family name, but don’t know yet whether they are from the same tribe that I knew growing up in Artesia.

The family wasn’t there, but we did get to visit with Josh and Jackie a bit and get caught up on some of the latest news out there. Since nearly all of our time is spent in Mineola now, we are well behind the learning curve at the park.

After taking a brief nap in Big V, I got out and started clearing more briar vines. We haven’t been out there enough since January to stay on top of the “vine harvest,” so it was slow going to get some of them out of the trees. Still, it wasn’t as difficult as the first clearing efforts last year.

When Barbara got up, she got out the leaf blower and tackled the job of cleaning out around Big V. Even with the south side enclosed, we are getting a lot of leaves blowing through from the front to the back of the covered area, so the cleaning will be a constant job as long as leaves are still falling and the wind continues to blow.

Around 3:30 Barbara went back to the clubhouse and ordered lunch for us and I began putting tools away and getting myself cleaned up. By the time Barbara got back, I was showered and dressed in my church clothes, ready to eat and then return to Yantis for choir practice and another inspiring message delivered by David.

Monday, November 22

Today was just a basic workday around the house. After having breakfast and getting Mother settled in for her daily routine, I did yard work (mowing, trimming, raking, etc. while Barbara tackled the garage, doing some cleaning and straightening. It’s getting close to time to do something with Christmas decorations, and we will need some space to go through them before bringing them inside.

We spent time going over the menu for Wednesday’s family feast (Thanksgiving for the local family will be Wednesday since Cousin Angela has to work at the hospital on Thursday and intends to do some serious shopping on Friday).

After checking the list, we made another list of things we needed to complete the meal and trundled off to Walmart for our daily dose of painful experience. We could get the same amount of discomfort and frustration by staying home and shooting staples into our legs, but then we’d still have to go to Walmart for bandages (and they’d still be out of them), so we just suck it up and join the throngs to try to find what we need.

Tuesday, November 23

A week or so ago Alexander called us to as if we could attend the Grandparents Day program at his and Heather’s school in Dallas today. We checked the calendar and saw that it is clear, and told him we’d be happy to be there.

Heather explained that it would be a music program, with each grade level and the specialty choirs singing one selection each, with an hour or so allotted to the whole program.

So, we set about planning the trip, even to the point of dropping hints to Mother that it sure would be a nice surprise for Abby and Alexander if she came along to see them. After all, it’s only an hour or so over there and would get her out of the house for a bit.

After lots of hints and suggestions over several days, Mother and TJ both said they would join us for the excursion. We told Heather what we were planning and asked that she not tell Alexander and Abby so it would be a surprise when we all showed up together.

TJ’s wrist is still giving her fits, so she begged off yesterday to stay home and bake a couple of pies for tomorrow’s feast. She said we could take her car so Mother would be more comfortable, but we said we’d just take the Vibe because it’s much easier to get the wheelchair in and out of it. Besides, for that short a trip, the Vibe was comfortable enough.

We set the alarm and got up at 5:00 this morning, got ourselves ready and then got Mother dressed and ready to go by 7:15. All went smoothly for the first six blocks. It was then that Mother asked if anyone had picked up her purse, Evidently none of us had gotten the purse, so I turned around and went back to the house, got the purse, and we started off again.
The traffic was not nearly as bad as we had expected and we made good time, arriving at Heather’s the Lakehill Preparatory School a little after 8:30. Thank goodness for Barbara’s set of driving instructions from Mapquest and our new GPS!

Once we were inside, Heather and Abby met us in the auditorium where she had reserved seats for us. Abby was beside herself at seeing us, especially since Granny was along. We spent most of the time until 9:30 entertaining and being entertained by Abby. Abby is no stranger to cameras, so we got a lot of good shots of her; and, she even took some of us…another thing she likes to do when she’s with Grams and Gramps.

At 9:30 all was quiet in the auditorium as the program began and we began listening to each of the choirs perform. Now, I’ve got to say (and this may seem like sacrilege) that I’ve never been a big fan of concerts or programs that included everyone in the school, but this was undoubtedly the best rehearsed and behaved group of groups that we’ve ever seen or heard. Each grade level or specialty choir moved quickly to the stage, performed their song admirably, and then left the stage while the next group came up. When the kindergarten classes sang their number, Abby let us know that next year SHE would be up there singing. It was an absolute delight to hear the groups performing, especially knowing from our 35+ years of doing that sort of thing. The high school choirs just blew me away…they were better than most high school choirs I’ve heard or worked with…what a pleasure to watch those young people performing such marvelous music for their parents, grandparents, and classmates!

Of course, we have to admit that the choir we most admired was the first grade group with grandson Alexander. Alexander was all decked out in his concert finery and did a beautiful job of singing and presenting choreography as his group sang, “Super Turkey,” complete with hand motions and lots of expressions!
When the program was over, Heather gave us a short tour of the building, taking us to Alexander’s classroom to pick him up and then to her office, where she serves as the college admissions counselor for the high school.

We then drove to a restaurant and met Heather and the kids for lunch before they returned home to finish packing for a family trip to Boston for the holidays and we started our return trip to Mineola.
All went well and we were cruising right along until about a mile outside of Terrell when I noticed a group of people picking up something around a truck that was parked in the breakdown lane. About the time I saw them, I heard a terrible noise from under the car…never did see anything on the pavement, but whatever I ran over sure bounced around under the car for a couple of seconds.

As we got into town I noticed that the car was handling strange, so I pulled into a parking lot and got out to find that one of my brand new rear tires was quickly losing all its air. I had thoughts of trying to drive a block or so back to Walmart on it, but before I could finish the thought, the tire was completely flat.

There was nothing for Barbara and me to do except pull the wheelchair out of the back of the Vibe, uncover the compartment that holds the jack, tire iron, and the “donut” spare tire. I jacked the car up beside the flat tire and was working on the third lug nut when one of the store employees came out with a much better lug wrench and offered to finish the job. Within a few minutes we had the flat tire and wheelchair back in the car and the donut on the ground. The spare was way low, but that was to be expected…this was the first time since we bought the car in late 2004 that we had even opened that compartment.

As we looked around, we spotted a tire store right across the street, so we drove over there and ended up purchasing a used tire at a good price to get us back to Mineola, where I could return the damaged tire to the store where I purchased it. The folks at the tire store were wonderful, assisting me with getting everything out of and then back in the Vibe, mounting the spare tire, checking all the other tires for possible damage and air pressure, and then getting us back on the road, all under 30 minutes. The man who helped me said that they tried to do their best and I told him that if he did any better, I’d have to nominate him for sainthood!

The rest of the trip was uneventful, thank goodness, and we returned to the house around 4:00, happy that we went to see the kids, but very glad to be back home where we could rest and relax for the evening.

Wednesday, November 24

Today was family Thanksgiving Day at our place. We decided a couple of months ago that it would be much easier on everyone if we hosted the dinner here and prepared the turkey and ham and everyone else could bring some side dishes or desserts. We were prepared to have a sit down meal in the garage if enough people showed up, but when it was obvious that the count would max out at 9, we decided to just crowd around the table for the feast part of the day.

Barbara and I were up early this morning to get things underway for the 3:00 pm meal. While Barbara put together a schedule of when we would start each of our dishes, I put together the ingredients for a loaf of jalapeno bread and got the trusty bread maker fired up.

Our assembly line approach to cooking and baking worked beautifully, giving us enough time between dishes that we were also able to scrub the bathroom, dust the living room and hallway furniture, vacuum the living room, and sweep and mop the kitchen and dining room (a couple of times, as it turned out).

Barbara is great at planning this sort of event. She suggested that we set up a serving table for all the food, and another little table for dishes and silverware, leaving the tabletop for “eatin’ dishes.” The only thing wrong with the ideas was that there were so many serving dishes that there wasn’t room for all of them in the table, so some went on top of the kitchen bar, along with the desserts. Now understand, that was not a complaint…it became very obvious very soon that this family had a lot to be thankful for this year!
Our guests started arriving around 2:30. Joining us this year were Aunt TJ, Cousins Ladd and Angela and their daughter Madelyn and son Logan who was home on leave from the U.S. Air Force, and our delightful next door neighbor, Addie, who is an honorary family member.

Angela’s family had deliberately coordinated their attire so that Barbara could take a photo of them that they will use on their Christmas cards this year. So…taking a break from the kitchen duties, Barbara took the Thompson’s to Edith’s backyard where this photo was taken. Barbara was very honored to be asked to take the family photo. Ladd, Angela, Logan, and Madelyn are naturally photogenic and we’ve enjoyed taking casual pictures of them in different settings, so it was nice that they put their confidence in Barbara for their annual Christmas portrait.

Since we didn’t have a centerpiece for the table, Barbara decided to scatter Scrabble pieces in the center and after each person filled their plate, they spelled out something they were thankful for…it was a simple way to focus our attention on the things we had to be thankful for. Initially, there were some basic rules, like no repetitions, but there was so much confusion as we moved through the line and found our places, that we just forgot the rules and enjoyed expressing our gratitude in this unique way.
With 9 of us crowded around the dining room table and food all around us, we enjoyed a culinary bounty along with multiple conversations about what is going on in everyone’s lives. And, with no football games on tap for the afternoon, we were able to focus on each other the entire time.
The worst part of this kind of gathering is usually the cleanup, but Angela and Madelyn jumped right in and helped rinse dishes and get them ready for the dishwasher while Ladd and Logan helped sort out the different foods so they could carry all the cold things back to their house. We kept all the things that needed to be reheated here so that when we do this all over again tomorrow, no one will have to carry hot dishes…we’ll have them all cooked and ready to serve.

By 5:30 we had the kitchen and dining room all cleaned and straightened and were emptying the dishwasher and preparing to put another load in it (there would be yet another load later tonight).

With the kitchen back in order and our guests gone, we settled in for a quiet evening, weary with well-doing, but with warm hearts from sharing a special day with family and friends.

Thursday, November 25

Happy Birthday to son Jimmy Clint Colwell in Lubbock, Texas!!!

Happy Birthday to daughter-in-law Carol Colwell in San Antonio, Texas!!!

Happy Thanksgiving, One and All!!!

“Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. Worship the Lord with Gladness; come before Him with Joyful songs. Know that the Lord is God. It is He who made us and we are His; we are His people, the sheep of His pasture. Enter His gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to Him and praise His name. For the Lord is good and His love endures forever; His faithfulness continues through all generations.” – Psalm 100, a psalm for giving thanks

For us, this was Thanksgiving II, The Sequel. The difference was that we didn’t have a whole lot to do this morning, just do a little minor cleaning and straightening, but for the most part we just took it easy…had a good breakfast around mid-morning and then Barbara and I worked on getting the latest blog/journal ready for posting. Believe it or not, we are almost caught up after being so far behind for so long. Now that’s something to be thankful about!

Believe it or not, I’ve never been a fan of parades, so we didn’t turn the TV on until after noon, and then just to find a channel with some good background music.

We started putting dishes in the oven at 1:00 to slowly get them heated to a serving temperature without drying them out and by 2:30 we were ready to start the feast all over again.

We had only seven in the group today…Angela was on duty birthing babies at Trinity Saint Francis Hospital in Tyler and Addie went to Quitman today to have Thanksgiving with her cousin. The rest of us decided we could take up the slack and that was important, because one look at the serving table showed that we had hardly made a dent in all the food that was prepared for yesterday!

Again we spent an hour or so just enjoying each other’s company, sharing stories about various family members, and chowing down on delicious food…much of what Thanksgiving is all about.

The cleanup went smoothly as we divided up all the food and sent some home with each person. It had been good both times, but it was definitely time to get as much of it out of the house and spread the joy.

By 5:00 the house was cleared out and cleaned up and once again we spent an evening doing mostly nothing. Barbara played computer games and I watched football games…neither of us interested in doing anything of consequence.

Friday, November 26

Happy Birthday to son Mike Little in Richmond, Virginia!!!

We started our day by doing one of the dumbest things we’ve ever done (and have already promised ourselves that we’ll never even consider doing it again). We set the alarm for 4:15 and then drove over to Walmart to see what the Black Friday bit was all about.

In a little town like Mineola, I thought there might be 20 – 25 cars in the lot at 4:30. Imagine our surprise and dismay when we arrive to find a packed parking lot and long lines just inside the store.

Our goal was to get one of the 32” flat screen TVs that were advertised for Black Friday. Well, the line for the electronics department was wrapped all the way around the store and it was obvious that if even 5 % of the people wanted a TV, there would be no way that one would be available when we moved forward.

Barbara did a little scouting farther up the line and heard one of the store employees say that she didn’t understand why all those people were in line when they were already out of the Television specials. A couple of minutes later someone made the official announcement that the televisions were indeed, all gone (it didn’t make much sense at the time because the sale hadn’t even started, but the numbers did tell the story…6-8 TV sets and 400 people wanting them…I’d say it was a classic “bait and switch” deal, but there wasn’t much bait and there wasn’t anything to switch to.

We walked over to the electronics section just to see if anything else might grab our attention, but there wasn’t anything we even wanted to look closely at, so we returned to the car and drove back home, stopping first at the donut shop for a couple of fresh, hot apple fritters for breakfast.

We ate our breakfast and then napped until Mother woke and we officially started our day, ginning around to get all the “morning things” taken care of.

Sophie came over around 10:00 to stay with Mother and Barbara and I drove to Longview to look at a new bed for Mother. We’ve talked for quite a while about finding a bed that has electronic controls to raise and lower the head and foot sections. We had talked to Mother about how this could be much more comfortable for her than the 30-year old bed she’s now sleeping in. Another consideration is that with a new bed, I won’t have to strain my back to pick her up to get her seated correctly when she wants to sit in bed and enjoy her morning coffee and newspaper. We had explained that we got a flyer in one of the newspapers and just wanted to get information, and she said that was a good idea.

We drove straight to The Mattress Firm in Longview and were warmly greeted by their employees (actually, by one of the owners, we later found) who gave us the grand tour of the selection of beds. We explained about Mother’s age and the Parkinsonism, and then took a close look at one of the Temper-Pedic double beds. (She has to have a double bed so there’s room for the puppies to sleep with her!) We were told to lie down on the bed and the lady ran it through it’s range of positions…it wasn’t long before we were sold on it. I wanted to give it a 24-hour sleep test right then and there, but we had other things on the agenda.

After getting the full spiel, we asked the price and were pleasantly surprised that the mattress setup, bed frame, pads, sheets, and pillows were about half the price we expected. We called TJ (who just happened to be at Mother’s house at the time) and told her about the deal. She quickly conferred with Mother and then told us to seal the deal, which we did as soon as possible. It will take a week to ten days to get everything in and delivered, but we feel certain Mother is going to be enjoying a wonderful new sleep experience!

TJ told us later that she mentioned to Mother that not only would this be much more comfortable for her, but it would also help save Jim’s back, to which Mother replied, “Well, he’s not going to be sleeping in it!”

When we left the store, I drove Barbara to one of the I-20 exits to Longview and dropped her off to join her sister Carol and Connie, one of Carols’ daughters. Carol came to Shreveport for the holidays since her son Gary and his family live there. She and Barbara decided that by Friday, Carol could leave all the kids (bunches of hers came to LA, too) and take advantage of a free room at the SpringHill Suites and enjoy a sister’s weekend. We switched all of Barbara’s things to Connie’s car, said our hellos and goodbyes all around, and then I returned to Mineola while the girls headed east to Shreveport and Bossier City.
For my part, I spent the evening working on the journal, watching a little TV, and taking care of a few basic housecleaning chores until it was time for Mother to go to bed and me to call it a night.

Barbara: The trip to Louisiana with Carol and Connie was really great because we found lots of things to talk about and the time just flew by!

Once in Bossier City, Connie drove us to Gary’s where I grabbed my trusty camera and began shooting away. The first collage I made shows Gary and Tish and their family. The little one in the middle photo is their granddaughter, Lexy.
Once I captured that group, I tried rounding up the family members who had also driven in from New Mexico…just in separate cars than Carol and Connie. While I was doing that, Carol was packing her bags for what she’d need at the motel. Well…that was the general idea…just didn’t turn out that way. Because later we found that she left her medicine (very important for a diabetic and she had to return to get it.)
Once everything was in the car, Connie Sue took us over to the motel where I went inside to check in. However, I found that they had put us on the 3rd floor far away from the elevators; but when I explained that my sister had a hard time walking, the girl graciously found us a room on the 1st floor right by the side door. Now, how nice was that!

After unpacking the car and claiming our territory in the room and a little photo taking, the 3 of us decided to go over to the casino to try our luck for 30 minutes. After 30 minutes of play, one can get tickets for a free buffet which sounded like a deal to us since we were going to play anyway.
After the buffet and stuffing ourselves with the various selections, Carol left to take Connie back to Gary’s and to pick up her medicine while I ventured back to the casino until she returned.

Eventually, we called it an early night and went to the room to kick back, check email, etc., etc., etc.

Saturday, November 27

Jim: For my part, this was a pretty lazy day. I started by getting out all the ingredients for a loaf of homemade Russian rye bread. I’ve been planning for today’s lunch – grilled beer brats on dark rye bread…my mouth has been watering all week just thinking about it!

Once the mixture was in the machine and churning around, I started in with some minor cleaning. The house was in good shape, so it didn’t take much to touch it up for the weekend.

When the cleaning and straightening were done, I spent an hour or so shaping up my part of this edition of the journal/blog. Since Barbara would have to fill in with her activities for yesterday and today, I knew this wouldn’t be the week that we got totally caught up on our production schedule, but I wanted to be as close as possible.

About 1:45 I fired up the grill and when the coals were just right, I set the brats out to slowly smoke and simmer…what a great aroma! While the brats were grilling, I heated up a batch of red beans that TJ brought over this morning…added in some chunks of ham left over from Thanksgiving dinner…wow, we were going to eat like royalty today!

TJ came over a little after 3:00 and before we got Mother to the kitchen we watched al little of the webcast of the Artesia Bulldogs and Goddard Rockets semi-final playoff football game. Goddard has knocked Artesia out of the playoffs the past two years and was heavily favored to win today’s game and the state championship game next week, but someone forgot to tell the Bulldogs that their season was over. After playing to a 21-21 tie at the half, Artesia came out with a fired-up defense and a hot offense and ended up beating the so far undefeated Rockets to earn a home field advantage for the New Mexico AAAA state championship game next week against Aztec.

Unfortunately, the weekend was not so kind to our other orange and white teams as Texas went down with a resounding thud and the local Mineola Yellowjackets took a thumping from New Boston, ending their playoff run.

After lunch, I got the kitchen leaned up and then settled in for an afternoon and evening of football on TV until it was time to get Mother ready for bed and then go iron some shirts and slacks in preparation for my trip to Shreveport tomorrow morning.

Barbara: Carol and I were both stunned to find that we slept til 8 AM this morning, even though we had gone to sleep around 9:30 the night before. Go figure…we must have been tired! Anyway, neither one of us were in a hurry to get moving though we did want to make it to breakfast before it shut down. Also, Carol wanted to do some laundry so while she headed to the wash room, I stood in line to fix our waffles. This place does a stunning business and no one wants to miss out on their waffles, sausage, eggs, etc., etc., etc. breakfast. Just about the time I made it to the waffle machines and poured in our batter, Carol joined me which was great since trying to fight the crowd with two plates could be hazardous!

After breakfast, we both took turns handling the camera…Carol had given me a shirt for my birthday tomorrow that I absolutely love…it’s emergency numbers to call when one is feeling a certain way. For example, “If you are worried…call John: 14.”
Finally around 11:30 or so (time really meant nothing to us today…except…that we had to be at Sierra’s birthday party at 3:00), we were ready to go out into the wide, wide world. We had decided that since another casino sent me free buffet coupons, we would go there to play and then have lunch before going shopping.

After eating, we headed for the car and the store so we could find Gary’s youngest, Sierra, who turned 5 in the middle of the month, a birthday gift. Sierra informed everyone in her family that they would celebrate her birthday this year during Thanksgiving when Grandma (Carol) and all of her NM family were there!

When we arrived at the house at 3:00, we found that Sierra had been confined to her room until all party preparations could be handled.
But…finally the big moment arrived...So…that’s exactly what we did. Celebrate… complete with gifts, cake, piƱata, and cook-out.



Eventually, I gave up the ghost and asked Connie to take me back to the room where I could play on the computer, talk with Jim and rest a while.

Before calling it a night though, Connie, Carol and I once again tried our hand at the games. Since they were leaving tomorrow morning though, we once again called it an early night.

“There is one day that is ours. There is one day when all we Americans who are not self-made go back to the old home to eat saleratus (baking soda) biscuits and marvel how much nearer to the porch the old pump looks than it used to. ... Thanksgiving Day ... is the one day that is purely American." - O. Henry, American writer, quoted for Thanksgiving in the U.S., Nov. 25, 2010

Hoping that you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams