Just Another Little Week

Sunday, April 25 – Saturday, May 1, 2010

Sunday, April 25

We were back on the road again today as we continued our trip from Lubbock back to Mineola. We both had a thousand questions but no answers about what had just happened and what the future would bring. We only had the belief that with God anything is possible and He is in control...not us.

We had heard from Bob and Mary that there had been a bad storm at the lake and there was some damage. Although Linda and Gary checked on our lot and said there was no damage to Big V, we stopped late in the afternoon to see for ourselves. There were a few broken tree branches and some scattered small limbs and leaves, but for the most part, we came out of the storm in great shape. We were glad though that we had closed all three slide outs a few days ago.

We continued the trip to Mother’s house, unloaded the car and unpacked our luggage and whatever else we had in the car and then settled in for the evening. We were both wrung out emotionally and physically from the trip and all we had gone through, so we decided we wouldn’t try to drive back out to Yantis for choir practice and church. Instead, we filled Mother in on the details of the trip, let the puppies welcome us home, and then went to bed and crashed.

Monday, April, 26

Whether working or retired, there is still business to take care of, and that’s what today was about. The internet has made some things easier, but sometimes one just has to deal with others either in person or on the telephone. Today we spent close to six hours talking on the phone to question bills and make sure all our accounts were in order. We both felt like we had cauliflower ears after the marathon session of paging through web displays and asking service representatives about what we were seeing. It was probably all worth it in the end, but it didn’t do anything to raise our spirits, except that the agents we talked to all seemed to be the angels we needed to walk us through banking, Big V insurance, and telephone account problems. In fact, after taking care of Jimmy and Jaycie’s telephone account in a very manageable fashion, Jason, the phone rep said, “Would you please convey this message to Jimmy. I was sitting where he is 12 years ago and know that he can hold his head high. There are better things to come.” His words proved as a reminder once again God’s grace and mercy are available to each of us!

This afternoon I tackled the little desk in our bedroom closet. When we were living fulltime in Big V, there just wasn’t any space to let paperwork pile up, so we got in the habit of (most of the time) filing away statements, receipts, etc. as soon as we were through with them. Now, with the luxury of a desk hidden out of view in the closet, it has become way too easy to just let things pile up…guess we’d better work on that aspect of our lives.

Since we (I) tore up the lawnmower out at the lot last week, and because we normally mow Mother’s yard on Tuesdays (and it was looking today as if it wouldn’t hurt to go ahead and get it done now), we went to Walmart tonight to buy a new mower. We use the mower at both places, and Mother agreed to go “halfies” on a new mower, so we just got that job over with and took a few minutes away from the house.

Once we returned from Walmart, we checked our email, started working on the journal for last week (it quickly became evident that we would have to collaborate more than usual), made a few phone calls, and then called it a day.

Tuesday, April 27

After all the excitement of the last few days, we all three ended up sleeping in later than usual this morning.

While Barbara worked on our brunch (way too late to call it a breakfast), I took the new lawnmower out of the Vive, unpacked it, and got it assembled and fueled.

When breakfast was ready, we called Mother in and fortified ourselves for the day before tackling other chores. Mother finished reading her newspaper and then spent a large part of the day straightening her room so it would be ready when Maria comes to clean it tomorrow.

I tackled the journal/blog writing and Barbara went outside to break in the new lawnmower by mowing the front yard. I usually use the weed eater to trim, but everything was looking good and besides, the weed eater and most of the other equipment was locked in the shed on our lot at the lake.

After doing some cleaning and straightening in the garage, it was time for a late lunch and then a short nap (still trying to catch up on sleep we missed last week).

When we were refreshed and ready to go again, we drove out to Gray’s Nursery, about a mile north of town toward Quitman, to look for more plants for Mother’s yard. Mother had mentioned the other day that she would like some Hydrangea plants for somewhere in the yard as well as other colorful small plants. When we got to the nursery, we found three Hydrangea plants that we liked…not yet flowering, but good, healthy plants. We also found some Persian Shields (never heard of them before). They have dark purple leaves and can be kept in the sunroom during winter. We were also impressed with several pots of Hibiscus and finally bit the bullet and bought a medium-sized plant to set in the big black pot (once we finally decide where we are going to put the pot).

We came back to the house and set out the Hibiscus and the Persian Shields, but couldn’t decide on a place for the Hydrangeas. The places we thought of putting them in front don’t receive enough sun, so we’ll just have to find somewhere in the back yard for them.

After setting out the plants, I took my turn at the lawnmower and mowed the backyard (first removing all of Spike’s little landmines…Spike, Mother’s Boston terrier, must have been an ordnance specialist in a previous life. He is an expert at setting one of his landmines in plain sight, while hiding another one where it will be stepped on while I maneuver to get in position to pick up and disarm the first one. Now, if Spike could only learn to remove and disarm the landmines himself, Mother would have a kinder and gentler backyard).

With the backyard cleared and mowed, I turned my attention to the vacant lot to the north of Mother’s house. We’ve cleared an area about 60 feet by 120 feet and keep it mowed to try to keep critters large and small from encroaching on Mother’s property. It takes time and effort to do that extra lot, but it really improves the overall appearance of the property. Our across-the-street neighbor, John, does the same thing on his side of the street so each of us has a great view as we come outside and look at our lots.

One really exciting thing that happened while I was mowing and Barbara was talking on the phone to Cousin Cindy in Tallahassee was that Mother came outside to see her new plants and find out what we were doing. I didn’t know it until later, but she stood out there for about thirty minutes watching me mow and talking a bit with Cindy. That was at least the fifth trip to the front of the house for Mother today, so we KNOW that she got plenty of exercise today!

Wednesday, April 28

We had a lot going on this morning, so we all got up early and hit the deck running. While Barbara was outside and I was inside getting my first cup of coffee, she called for me to come outside. I grabbed my coffee and went through the garage and she told me she had just seen our first hummingbird of the season. We’ve had feeders set out since the first of the month, but haven’t seen any hummingbirds. Maybe the word will get out that this is the place for sweet treats and sustenance…sure hope so!

Mother had an appointment for a perm at her beauty shop this morning. Since Barbara goes to Bible study and I work on the lot on Wednesday mornings, TJ agreed to take Mother to the beauty shop while she was running some errands of her own; then, they would go out to lunch.

Barbara dropped me off at our lot so I could unload the lawnmower and my tool kit (never know when something is going to need fixing) and then she headed off to the church in Yantis.

I fired up the lawnmower and mowed the entire lot before firing up the electric weed eater and doing the trimming. I even had to resort to using old-fashioned grass clippers to trim around our solar lamps and some of the smaller plants, but the time and effort were well worth it. When all that was done, I cleaned off the concrete pad and then watered all the plants we set out recently.

The place was looking really great when Barbara called to say she was late getting out of Bible study but would be back at the lot in just a few minutes. We had planned to stay and do some more work in the gully, but I was hot, tired, and very sweaty, and Barbara was feeling that it was too late to start another project, so we put all the lawn tools in the Vibe, close up Big V, and left the park.

Instead of coming right back to Mother’s house, we drove north a mile or so to check out the produce at a little roadside shed called The Tomato Shack. The lady who ran the stand was very pleasant and the produce was really fresh, so we ended up leaving with yellow squash, zucchini, tomatoes, jalapenos, and some fresh roasted Virginia peanuts. If the produce is on the shelves, can summer be far behind?

From the produce stand we drove to the other side of the lake to check out the progress on Gene and Michelle Young’s new house. Workers were busy inside and out, installing door and window trim inside and setting bricks and stonework outside. It is really taking shape and is going to be a beautiful home one of these days. Barbara called Michelle to let her know we were taking pictures and going on a self-guided tour of the place. Gene and Michelle were still in Kansas, but will return to East Texas early next week.
We returned to Mineola and just whiled away the afternoon and evening, doing very little of significance.

Thursday, April 29

Happy Birthday to Stephanie Francis in Lewisville, Texas!!!

This was another “up ‘n’ at ‘em” day around our place. Mother was scheduled for some tests at Tyler Cardio-Vascular clinic and we were told to be there by 9:45. TJ came over to the house and then she and I took Mother to Tyler while Barbara took care of the puppies and planned the lunch menu. Usually when we go to Tyler for one of these things, we stop and have lunch on the way back, but since the appointment was so early, we figured it would be easier to just return to the house for a home-cooked meal.

When we got to the clinic and checked in, we found that they wanted Mother there for the test at 9:45, but her appointment with the doctor wasn’t until 11:15, so I called Barbara and told her we’d be later than we had planned, but to just delay getting everything into the oven and we’d eat when we got there…surely we could be back in Mineola by 12:30.

The staff at the clinic must have had on their best running shoes, because it didn’t take nearly as long to do and read the tests and then get us into another room where they ran an EKG on Mother. When the doctor came in he asked if Mother was still having the dizzy spells and falling that she was suffering from this time last year. She said that she wasn’t, and then he read off the results of the tests, which showed everything about Mother’s cardio-vascular system was in great shape. The doctor even said that Mother had the heart of a 50-year old; she just had 87,000 miles on her odometer.

Before he left and we got ready to go, the doctor told Mother that whatever she was doing, she should keep it up and that he didn’t think he needed to see her again until next year’s checkup…good news for all of us.

We made the trip back to Mineola without incident (unless we count the six cars that pulled out in front of us as if we were invisible) and found that Barbara had a great meal waiting for us…leftover roast and meatloaf, mixed vegetables, and a new recipe for squash casserole using the yellow squash we bought yesterday at The Tomato Shack…yum-yum!

While we were eating, Barbara shared that she had visited a bit with neighbor John this morning. He told her that Wanda had been out looking at a birdhouse just over the fence from their yard when she called for John to come out there. When he got there, he found a 5-foot chicken snake waiting for lunch to come home. John got a hoe and chopped the snake’s head off and then carried the remains out to the adjoining field. When he returned to the bird feeder, he found a SIX-foot snake that he dispatched in the same manner. He didn’t say whether he went back to look again.

When the meal was over, TJ was gone, and Mother was settled into her easy chair with Bonita, we retired to our room for a short nap before getting back up to start a new round of yard work in the backyard.

The backyard has gotten short shrift so far this season. Other than retrieving and disposing of Spike’s landmines and mowing and trimming, we haven’t done very much with it. That was about to change, as e decided we would set the Hydrangeas back there.

After checking several likely places for good sun, we decided to set two of the plants in line with the back fence and the third in an existing flower bed that is wildly overgrown with weeds, new tree saplings, and various other growths. The two plants along the fence were simple to set; with all the rain we’ve had this spring, it took only a minute or so to dig each hole and not much more than that to set the plants in place and pack the dirt around them.

The flower bed was another story. We finally decided that the best plan of attack was to just pull out everything in the immediate area of where we wanted to set the Hydrangea. That included a lot of bending and stooping to grab all the saplings as low as possible and pull them out by the roots; off course, there was a multitude of different grasses and weeds that also had to be pulled out by hand.

After 20 minutes or so, I dug the hole and we set the third plant in place and then I went back and set mounds of pine bark mulch around each of the new plants.

Next, we turned our attention to the hedge and overgrown flowerbed that is against the wall of our room. Barbara and I decided that the area between the hedge and the sidewalk would be a good place to plant Zinnia seeds, so we cleared out all the existing growth and then I got the trusty hedge shears and trimmed the top and front of all the bushes…also cut off dead limbs of a large bush/small tree that is growing in the corner by the fence.

When that was done, Barbara asked Mother if she’d like to come out and help plant the seeds. I had already drawn the row for the seeds and Barbara was going to cover and tamp them after Mother dropped the seeds in place. Instead, Mother came out, set the seeds in place, and then covered them herself. We laughed and started telling her that when the plants started to grow and bloom…, and then she interrupted us and said, “I can say that I planted those!” What a thrill it was for us to see here not only excited about her yard, but also participating in fixing it up!

We cleaned up our mess, watered in the plants and then, feeling every muscle and joint in our bodies calling out in protest, we retired to the house to clean up and settle in for the afternoon and evening. It had been a long day and a lot of effort in the hot sun and blowing wind…yes, real wind, just like in Southeastern New Mexico or Southwest Kansas, with strong gusts and blowing dirt. The only difference between Mineola and Artesia or Liberal today was that we had lots of trees to look at as the wind howled around us.

Tonight we just took it easy…Barbara double-checked all our online accounts and I started working on this week’s journal/blog in hopes of actually getting it posted on time this weekend.

Friday, April 30

Our original plan for this morning was to get to Lindale as quickly as possible and find Leslie at the Walmart Style Shop for much-needed haircuts…it has been w-a-y too long since our last session.

We did make it to Walmart, only to find that Leslie wasn’t working today and we would have to come back tomorrow after 9:00. Since haircuts were out of the question for today, we went ahead and did some shopping in Lindale rather than driving back to Mineola. It was good that we made that decision, because the Lindale store carried some items that we’ve been looking for in Mineola for over a month.

When the shopping was finished and the groceries were in the car, we drove across the parking lot to look at Lowe’s for a trellis for one of the rose bushes in the back yard. We settled on one and bought it, but found it was too short when we got back to the house. Oh well, you never know until you know.

We got back to the house and unloaded the car. Barbara worked at putting all the groceries away while I drove the Vibe to the county tax assessor in Quitman to register Big V for another year. The registration for the current year didn’t expire until midnight tonight, but I didn’t want to be one of those who wait until the last minute.

I returned to the house while Barbara was fixing lunch for Mother. We had both had a late breakfast while we drove to Lindale, so we weren’t hungry. Instead, I used the time to get the ingredients for jalapeno bread together and start the bread maker. While Mother was eating, Barbara started on a cake…quite a little bakery we had going there!

The reason for all the baking was that our friends Bob and Mary Royar were coming to dinner tonight, so we needed to get our parts of the meal put together and then wait until they arrived with the chickens for me to throw on the grill.

The rest of the afternoon was fairly easy-going. We had a very short nap and then began preparing for company. Barbara came up with a cole slaw dressing that was absolutely yummy and both the cake and the loaf of jalapeno bread turned out beautiful.

TJ and her friend Cherry came by for a few minutes to visit. Actually, they really came by so Cherry could sell us some raffle tickets for a homemade quilt that is being used by her church for a fund raiser for a local student. Cherry must have spotted all of us as easy marks, because she walked away with ten dollars and we ended up with 12 tickets that will also double as bookmarks after the drawing is held.

Bob and Mary called to say that they were running a little behind schedule, but that didn’t really matter, since all we have is time anyway. When they did get here, I seasoned the chicken and threw the pieces over the hot coals in the grill. It took time to get the chicken cooked properly, but we used that time to visit with Bob (Mary was a little under the weather at first, but soon was feeling better) and get caught up on all that had happened with them since they left to go to the Rio Grande Valley at the end of December.

When the meal was finally on the table, we dug in like none of us had eaten in a week. Soon we were able to get the conversations going again and the talk went on for a couple of hours as we moved from the kitchen to the living room and then back to the kitchen.

Around 9:00, with all of us yawning, Bob and Mary left to go back to Holiday Village and we came back inside to check on Mother, Bonita, and Spike. All was well in their room so I got out my computer and start writing today’s entry of the journal/blog while Barbara worked on some of her business. Then, it was time to go outside for some fresh (we hoped) air. Instead, we found warm, heavy, and very oppressive air…sure hope that’s not a sign of bad things to come tonight.

Saturday, May 1

Happy 67th Birthday today to our good friend Marion Johnson in Santa Fe, New Mexico!!!

Once again we set our sights on Lindale and a chance to get our hair cut. It was either that or go to the vet and get shots and dog tags, as we were well past our scheduled time to, as Mother said, “get our ears lowered.”

This time we did find Leslie at work; we also found that she had a couple of folks ahead of us, so we just took our seats and waited, and waited, and…

Finally, Leslie got to us and got us both presentable to the public. We’ve said it before, but Leslie is the only stylist we’ve met since we left Liberal who can cut my hair and cut and shape Barbara’s hair the way we like it…sure are glad we found her last year!

While at Walmart, we bought an electric hedge trimmer. I’ve been using a set of scissor clippers, but it is too difficult for me to cut and shape the bushes and hedges, so we decided we’d splurge and get something to make the job easier. Besides, when we started working in the back yard this week, we found that the hedges and bushes were way out of control and I didn’t want to take all the time and effort necessary to get them back in shape.

When we got back to Mother’s house, we fixed lunch for the three of us (baked potatoes, and leftover slaw, jalapeno bread, and barbecued chicken…yum-yum…just as good as it was last night.

Then, after a short nap, it was time to finally get some work done around Mother’s yard for the day. We started in the backyard with both of us working to retrain a rose bush on a new trellis…not an easy job and one that gave new meaning to blood, sweat, and tears in the work.

Next, I broke out the new hedge trimmer and started shaping up hedges along the back wall of the house. Boy, was I ever glad that Barbara made the executive decision to buy the trimmer this morning…it would have taken hours to shape those hedges by hand!

I moved the extension cord and the trimmer to the front yard and managed to clean up several hedges there. Some had been given only a lick and a promise with the hand clippers a month or so ago, so they were as much in need of a “haircut” as we were this morning.

Later, I moved to the back yard and put the hand trimmers to good use by cutting out a bunch of ivy vines that have overgrown the sidewalk between Mother’s house and the house next door. Of course, that only made some of the other places stand out as being in need of help, but that will just have to wait for another day.

The rest of the evening, what was left of it was spent in relative peace and quiet. Mother and the puppies got situated in bed, Barbara got caught up with some folks through phone calls and then went to the kitchen to do her Bible study homework, and I headed to the living room with my laptop to finish off this edition of the journal/blog.
“Leave it in God’s hands and enjoy the ride.” - Church sign in Nocona, Texas

From Mineola in the heart of the Texas lake country,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

More Than a Little Personal

Sunday, April 18 – Saturday, April 24, 2010

Sunday, April 18

What a beautiful Sunday! Jim played a spirit medley on his trumpet today during the Annie Armstrong offering. Not being prejudiced, I am happy to report that he performed ably and with passion.

We had decided that today that we were not eating at the club house. We would fix our own meal, in our own home (Big V!). That’s exactly what we did and even threw in a 2 and a Half Men DVD to accompany our meal. What a treat!

After a short nap, Jim went out to work on the land planting azaleas, but I found myself dizzy and really feeling poorly.
Therefore, when it came time for him to go to choir practice, we decided I’d just stay put until he came back after evening services.

Once back at Edith’s, I threw some clothes in the washer to get a jump start on tomorrow’s chores as we are hoping to do a lot of yard work once chores are done.

Monday, April 19

Jimmy’s health issues are still out of whack, but we’re hopeful that after the bout today and the change, once again of medicines, he will be able to resume normal activities.

With all the ordinary, boring chores taken care of, Jim and I hit the highway between Mineola and the lake with the Vibe filled with shovels, gloves, plants, etc., etc., etc. It was the perfect day to take care of our last week’s “graveyards” by adding some companion plants.

While Jim dug the holes, my important job was to take the plants out of the pots, stick them in the hole, and cover them up. Really tough assignment!
With pride and a lot of photos, we left the lake in time to feed the puppies and begin our evening routines.

Another awesome day!

Tuesday, April 20

Happy Birthday to daughter Whitney Farnham in Olathe, Kansas!!!

Lawn mowing day…what more can we say except that taking care of Mother’s yard is a time-consuming activity.

Not realizing the day had slipped away from us, we threw mower, etc. in the car and hightailed it to the lake as Jim was going to work there while I went to my Bridge meeting.

After dumping him off, I realized that I remember that we couldn’t find the butter pecan cake mix I needed to make snacks I was responsible for tomorrow at Bible Study. Since I am lucky to have my own walking, talking, breathing, recipe adviser in Georgia, I clicked speed dial and visited with Nell. Once again, she came to my rescue, but it would require a trip to the store for a lemon pudding mix. With that crisis handled, I wandered into the church to spend a couple of hours enjoying fellowship with some pretty savvy young ladies! (I’m the oldest by 7-15 years!)

Jim: The weather was great, so I managed to get in a couple of hours of mowing and trimming while Barbara was at Bridge. With all the trees leafing out, Our Little Lot is looking much like we dreamed it would when we bought it last year.

Barbara: Back to the lake to get Jim and then on in to town where I left him at Edith’s to tuck in his Mom and the puppies while I ran to Brookshire’s to find the pudding and several other items we decided were needed.

Finally, the cooking session began at 9:00 or so with me making the pound cake and Jim mixing up ingredients to make sausage balls! In the meantime, we realized that neither of us had even thought of supper for us, but decided that we’d just wait a little longer and have a meal of sausage balls. It was worth the wait!

Wednesday, April 21

Happy 6th Birthday to Daniel Duke in Knox City, Texas!!!

Barbara: Bible Study for me.

Jim: Barbara dropped me off at the lot and then headed off to her Bible study group at the church. I dragged out the mower and began hitting the areas I couldn’t get to last night. Unfortunately, when I started mowing a small patch of grass and weeds on the opposite side of the creek, I also hit a small tree stump that was buried under some leaves. It’s amazing how quickly the lawn mower blade can stop when it hits an immoveable object! When I tried to restart the mower, the pull cord wouldn’t move, meaning that the spindle had been broken or bent. In either case, it was the end of serviceable life for that mower.

With time on my hands, I broke out the weed eater and did some more trimming before turning my attention to the new briar vines that are making their spring appearance. Obviously, I didn’t kill as many of the vines as I thought last year, but at least the new vines are tender enough to cut without too much trouble and maybe the Round-Up cocktail that I gave each of them (until I finally ran out of Round-Up) will help keep them at bay.

Barbara returned to the lot after Bible study and then we drove back to Mineola and Mother’s house for the afternoon and evening.

Barbara - Warning: The rest of this journal is of a very personal nature. Normally, we do not share any of the personal, private lives of our children; but to recount the next hours and days of our lives, we must be open and honest.

The real purpose of our journals is a daily account of our lives, and hopefully, lessons for our grandchildren. There is no way to talk about the afternoon and the rest of the week without revealing information that is extremely personal.

And…life is not always pretty, smooth, and rosy…it’s not Leave It to Beaver and Father Knows Best which is what Jim and I grew up thinking it was. (Our grandchildren will have to research the net to even understand that sentence!)

We, like most parents, have had hopes, dreams, and ambitions for our children. Jim and I are blessed with three each, making a total of 6. Through the years, the kids (they will always be kids to us), have grown, married, and children of their own. We are so proud of each and every one of them!

However, sometimes life throws a curve ball and things don’t work out the way you, or they, planned, hoped for, etc. The complete story is Jimmy’s, my son, to tell, but some of his past choices caught up with him and since this is a matter of public record, we refuse to treat it like it’s a deep dark secret or to act like we are ashamed of him, though we regret that through his choices to escape his problems he turned to the bottle for comfort and oblivion. Now, the consequences are going to have to be faced.

With the background laid, I go on with the afternoon of Wednesday, April, 21.

After lunch and a nap, I was fired up by today’s Bible Study and decided to tackle the self-help worksheet for next week’s lesson, which happens to be about surrendering. It challenges with such entries and scripture as:

• Hebrew 11-12:1


• Philippians 2:13-14


What areas of your life do you have the most difficulty surrendering?


Write your own personal completion of these prayers.


• “Lord, I surrender all control over each role/position I hold (mother, wife, sister, etc.)”


• Lord, I surrender all control over my plans to…

There are more questions, more scripture, but these are the ones that are important for what the evening held.

Jimmy called to say that he had court tomorrow concerning revocation of his first DUI probation from an incident in 2003 (which he broke in November). He filled us in on what was going on and requested our prayers, which we were glad to offer on his behalf. After our last conversation of the evening, we asked him to let us know tomorrow morning if he had to appear himself, or just provide letters from the medical staff at UMC and from the Managed Care (rehab) facility.

Thursday, April 22 

Happy 3rd Birthday to grandson Jimmy Farnham in Olathe, KS!!!

Jim: We began the day with our usual morning routine…get up early fix the coffee, check emails, take care of online business, fix breakfast, etc.

We made the daily trip to the post office and then went to Wal-Mart for groceries-a lot of groceries…seems the cupboard and refrigerator were almost bare.

While I was picking up things on one side of the store, Barbara was doing the same in the grocery section. As I walked toward the grocery side, I saw Barbara coming toward me. She stopped me and said she had just received a text from Jimmy and that he was headed into the courtroom, so we stopped where we were and offered up a short prayer.

We finished our shopping, returned home to put everything away and Barbara started work on lunch. While we were working in the kitchen and dining room area, the text message signal sounded – it was Jimmy, with the terse message that his probation was being revoked and he was being sentenced to 150 days in the Lubbock County Jail…definitely not what we had hoped for. But, believing that every choice brings its own consequences, we are trusting that God is at work.

The rest of the day was a blur as we took care of things that needed to be done around Mother’s house, exchanged phone calls and text messages with Jimmy’s friends and family, and began making preparations for a trip to Lubbock tomorrow to close up his apartment and be available for visitation on Saturday.

To say that there was little sleep tonight would be an understatement. However, we both felt that Barbara’s Bible Study worksheet paved the way for a much smoother ride on this roller coaster and was definitely what we call a God moment.

Friday, April 23

Happy Birthday to Cousin Rob Sandley in Crockett, Texas!!!

Once we found out that visiting hours had been set for Jimmy on Saturday’s and Sunday’s, we talked with Edith and made plans to head for Lubbock sometime today. Knowing that there was no financial resource to keep Jimmy’s apartment, we turned to God for supplying help in closing it down and moving everything back to a storage facility. There is just no way Jim and I alone could move the furniture, etc. Knowing that, we turned to the Lord in prayer to show us how we could accomplish what needed to be done.

It was at this point that God sent the first of many angels we would encounter through this journey. Leah and Ryan had already scheduled a private week-end away from Liberal and were going to be in Amarillo. We received an email from her shortly after our prayer saying that she and Ryan would be coming down to Lubbock on Saturday by 8:00 AM to help Jim and me close up the apartment, but they’d have to leave by 2:00. Angels 1 & 2 accounted for!

Armed with that information, I hit the computer searching out U-Haul rentals. Mission accomplished, I thought, until I received the confirmation email. Somehow, I had ordered it for Friday, April 23, at 9:00 AM…"Correct me if I’m wrong," I say to Jim, "but I think that’s only 1 hour from now!" (And, we’re in Mineola…not Lubbock!)

I quickly grabbed the phone and found angel #3. John from the U-Haul place, not only said, “No problem,” but also volunteered to come in an hour and a half earlier tomorrow so we could get the U-haul at 8:30 instead of 10:00.

After sharing lunch with Edith, Jim and I left Mineola. Since we were planning to go through Wichita Falls to avoid the Dallas/Ft. Worth traffic, we passed right by the parsonage in Yantis. After a little discussion and a few blocks, we turned around and stopped to ask David and Lorrie to say a prayer with us. Angels 4 and 5. One of the things that David asked for in his prayer was that Jim and I could travel without dwelling on the issues standing before us…that was answered in spades.

As soon as we left David and Lorrie’s we agreed that we should text Cathey and try to see Jaycie even though we wouldn’t be in Lubbock long. To cut to the chase, after many messages back and forth, the bottom line was this. No, we could not see Jaycie for one hour because we hadn’t given her enough time. Again, we recognize we cannot control her choices any more than we can control Jimmy’s or anyone else’s; nevertheless, it hurts.

Somewhere along that unending highway from Mineola to Lubbock, we received a phone call from angel #5, Kyle, Jimmy’s friend and AA mentor, that he had gone by the apartment and gotten a key for us so we could get into the apartment when we arrived in Lubbock. He would leave it in his mailbox since we’d be arriving so late.

However, the closer we got to Lubbock, the more apprehensive we became as we were going to stop at the jail to use a kiosk to put money in an account so Jimmy could make phone calls, purchase snacks, etc. Having been treated very shabbily in November there, we were not looking forward to asking any questions of anyone on duty at the desk. So…once again, we turned to God to stop the fear and to send us help.

Finally at 10:00, we pulled up in front of the county jail and turned to God once more before tackling the business at hand.

Jim: As we walked into the lobby of the Lubbock County Sheriff’s Department, we spied a large machine that could be used for depositing funds to inmate accounts. The only problem was that there were no real instructions and what there was might as well have been written in Martian. We looked at the machine for about a minute trying to figure it out, but after a nightmare night last night and a 430-mile drive this afternoon and evening, our minds were fried.

It was at that time that angels 6 and 7 appeared from around the corner from the information office. A young man, probably about 17 years old, and his grandfather saw us and the young man asked if we needed help in using the machine. We said that we did, since we knew absolutely nothing about any of this.

The young man (we never did get his name) took us through the process of locating Jimmy’s information and completing the transaction. When we said that this was all new to us, the grandfather very quietly said that they were learning about these things for the first time also…obviously a sad and very personal story going on there.

When we told them that we had asked for angels before we came inside, the grandfather smiled and asked, “Do you believe in angels?”

We told him that we did and that they were proof of it. The grandfather then asked what church we attended. We told him and then exchanged a few more comments before they turned away and left the building.

Our next stop was at the information station, where we had to talk through speakers set in a bullet-proof window. Two female deputies were working and it took several minutes before they finished what they were doing and one of them stood up and said she’d be right with us.

A few minutes later the second woman finished with what she was doing and asked if she could help us. We explained that we didn’t know anything about this and had some questions.

We wanted to know if we could bring Jimmy’s Bible and Recovery notebooks to him and also asked about his personal effects like toothbrush, toothpaste, etc. She very politely said that she was new at that job, wrote down our questions, and said she’d ask the other woman when she returned to the desk.

When the first woman returned, the lady who was helping us began asking the questions and deputy No. 1 got a look on her face that said that was the stupidest thing she had ever heard. She gave a very emphatic, “NO,” and then realized that we were standing in front of her and that we had asked the questions.

At that point her demeanor changed and she went over the rules with us. The rules are that the inmates are stripped of everything and are issued a jumpsuit…they are not allowed to keep ANY personal articles, but are allowed to buy items from the commissary whenever they are available. Since everything, including underwear, shoes, and socks are taken away from them, they must purchase them from inside the jail at inflated prices; hence, the need for an electronic account, since they aren’t allowed to have cash.

Armed with that bit of information disheartening though it was, we confirmed that the first visitation opportunity will be tomorrow evening from 5:30 – 6:00 and then left downtown Lubbock to make our way to Jimmy’s apartment and try to get some sleep.

The one thing that eased the pain of entering the apartment was to find Jimmy’s Bible next to his bed with his pink highlighter and a list of verses and thoughts someone had encouraged him to read. We had thought we could begin packing things, but we were bone-tired and overwhelmed by the job ahead of us, so we just put on our pajamas and went to bed.

Saturday, April 24

Barbara: Though my heart aches for my son, I have peace because I know that nothing this week has happened by coincidence…that the Lord was preparing me by giving me the strength to let go and let Him move in Jimmy’s life. Even with that mindset, I did wake up about an hour before Jim so I began the process of packing away items. And, when Jim awoke, we went to Wal-Mart to find more boxes. Now, that in itself is interesting as we found that 6:45-7:00 AM is a wonderful time to get some really strong, convenient boxes. We will keep this in mind next time we need boxes!

Back at the apartment, we began even more packing and by 8, when Leah and Ryan arrived, we had all but about 3 or 4 boxes completed. Jim and Ryan took off to find 3 Sixteen Motorsports which is where we had rented the u-haul. While the guys were gone, Leah and I continued to pack things away and then started cleaning the apartment. By the time the guys arrived, we had cleaned the entire apartment, except for the carpet and bathroom. Talk about teamwork!

Jim: Ryan and I drove out to find the U-Haul place. In other times, it would have been very simple, but a large section of the Loop is under construction in the area we were going, so the regular exits weren’t available. Eventually we found the place, way out on Frankford Avenue, and even got there with a minute or two to spare.

After filling out all the paperwork (even though Barbara had already made the reservation on-line), we were ready to go back to the apartment and get to work. I drove the truck and Ryan followed. We got to the apartment around 9:45 and began carrying furniture, boxes, and large plastic bags full of clothes out to the truck.

With a lot of teamwork, we soon had nearly everything in the truck and several items packed in the two cars. Leah made a few suggestions about how to load the last of the items in the back of the truck and, being almost too tired to care anymore, we deferred to her judgment, which ended up being the smartest thing we did all morning. After seeing how her room looked all those years ago and believing that she didn’t know how to even hang up clothes, let alone pack a truck, I had my doubts, but she proved that she knew what she was doing, and by 10:30 we had everything out of the apartment and were headed for Add-A-Closet on north University.

Once we were at the storage facility, Ryan and I concentrated on bringing things in from the truck and cars while Barbara and Leah arranged them in the storage room. That job, which was overwhelming when we first did it in November, went very smoothly this time and by 11:30 the three vehicles were empty and the storage room was full with everything in order to be moved out at a later date. But, it wouldn’t have been possible without Leah and Ryan’s help.

Barbara and Leah went back to the apartment so Barbara could take a shower and change clothes while Ryan and I returned the truck to the U-Haul place. When we got back to the apartment, I took my shower and got dressed while everyone else checked the apartment to make sure we had everything out and the place was clean. Then, we went to Market Square to have lunch at the deli. Leah and Ryan hadn’t eaten there before and were a little apprehensive about eating deli food, but soon discovered, as we had last fall, that it was really good food (and lots of it) at very reasonable prices.

The kids needed to return to Amarillo for the evening, so we said our goodbyes and then we drove to a used-book store to see what we could find before driving back downtown to wait in front of the sheriff’s department until time to go in and visit Jimmy Clint. They had warned us at the information center to be there to check in about 30 minutes before the scheduled visitation time so they would have time to call Jimmy out and bring him to the visitation area along with other inmates who had been requested by their families.

We found the visitation area, just a small concrete room with stools mounted in front of small double-pane glass windows, where we would be able to sit and see Jimmy and talk to him over a telephone-style communications system; and then we waited, and waited, and waited. 5:30 came and there was no sign of anyone coming into the room on the other side of the walls and windows. Finally, one of the visitors pushed a call button and a faceless voice told us that it would be a few minutes before we could see anyone.

When they finally escorted the three inmates to their side of the wall, we were able to see Jimmy’s face and barely hear him over the telephone connection. It was not a pleasant time, but it was good to be able to see Jimmy and know that he was as okay as a person could be in that situation. He told us his daily schedule, that he was sharing space with seven other inmates, and that the television in their area was broken, so they couldn’t even watch TV.

When our time was up, we told Jimmy that we loved him and would continue to pray for him (as are many others) and said goodbye before we left the building, got in the Vibe, and started the long journey back toward Mineola.

It was nearly 7:00 when we finally got away from Lubbock and we decided early on that we would go only as far as the first motel that looked half way decent. Once found, we were soon fast asleep, worn out completely by the moving, the visitation time, and the travel of the day.

Even though we have been shaken mentally and physically by the events of the past three days, we remain firm in our conviction that God has great plans for Jimmy Clint and this is an opportunity for Him to show His strength and love. It's not an easy lesson for any of us, but we believe that our faith in God and His promise to never leave or forsake us will carry us all through these times as He has in the past.

“God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage.” – God Post-it e-mail

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Little Week of Kicks

Sunday, April 11 – Saturday, April 17, 2010


Sunday, April 11

What a great day this was!

To begin, it was an absolutely gorgeous morning…just a few wispy clouds in a mostly clear, blue sky and warm enough to not need a sweater or jacket.

We got ourselves and then Mother ready to go to church and then left Mother at the house until TJ came to get her to go to Harvest Acres Baptist Church here in Mineola.

Meanwhile, we pointed the Vibe north toward Yantis and enjoyed a wonderful Sunday school class and a great church service.

After church we drove back to Holiday Village, stopped at the clubhouse to order lunch to go (Barbara waited on the food while I took the car across the street to unload it and put some of our things in Big V.)

Barbara was on the phone quite a bit, so I went ahead and started on my chicken salad. It was more than I wanted at the time, so I put it in the refrigerator and then headed to bed to take a short nap.

After a few minutes Barbara called inside to say that we had visitors. Ken and Donna, the new friends we met at the POA dinner last night, dropped by to see our place and visit for a few minutes. It was so warm outside by then that we asked them to come inside and take a look at Big V while we talked.

Ken and Donna will be leaving at the end of the week to go to Idaho and won’t be returning to Holiday Village until October, so while we won’t be doing a lot of visiting in the near future, we know that we’ll be getting together in the fall and, who knows, there might even be a few motorcycle rides in our future.

When Ken and Donna left, Barbara came in to take her nap while I got my work clothes on and went outside to burn off two large piles of brush and vines that I’d collected over the last month and a half. It has either rained or snowed (or was still wet from rain or snow) when I had the time to burn before, but today was perfect for it…just enough breeze to keep the oxygen moving through the piles, and a beautiful afternoon to be outside.

Once the fire burned down, I turned my attention to cutting down the young briar vines that have started appearing after the wet winter. I found a heavy duty Round-Up solution that is supposed to kill brush and Poison Ivy and figured that if it worked on those things, surely it should have some effect on the briar vines, so after I cut the vines down to about two inches above the ground, I sprayed the remaining stems with a good dose of Round-Up…guess we’ll see in another week or so whether it will work.

When I’d drowned the fire ashes and embers and put away all the tools, I went back into Big V, took a shower, and then we loaded things back into the Vibe and drove back to Yantis to go to choir practice while Barbara discovered a small park where she could read for a few minutes.

David began a study of Philippians tonight and immediately got our attention with the first three verses and his elaborations on them. David is a tremendous Bible teacher, as well as preacher and pastor, so we are looking forward to the next several weeks of study on Sunday nights.

We came back home to find Mother and the puppies resting comfortably. Spike and Bonita both tried to convince us that they hadn’t eaten supper, but Mother said they had and that they both lied from time to time, so we just gave them their treats and let them be happy with what they had.

Monday, April 12

We started off the day with news from Jimmy Clint that he was really hurting and couldn’t move his legs. He had already called one of his doctors and was told to not try to come to the hospital, that the doctor would come to him to try to see what was wrong.

Meanwhile, Jimmy’s friends Kyle and Chris were keeping an eye on him and when the doctor didn’t show up by 11:30, the boys took Jimmy to the ER at University Medical Center where medical staff worked to get his meds stabilized.

Jimmy is still having trouble with blood clots in the arteries of his legs, so the medical staff is working to carefully adjust meds to keep the clots from doing severe damage. They have had to break some of them up with ultra-sound, but they would much rather get the meds adjusted so the clots won’t form at all.

Jimmy spent all afternoon at UMC and was finally released to return to his apartment this evening.

Meanwhile, life moved forward at a fast pace here at Mother’s house. There was the possibility that we might have to make a quick trip to Lubbock, so we made sure we could do that if necessary. Also, we had errands to run for Mother, particularly to get her prescriptions from the local pharmacy.

Gene and Michelle Young dropped by this morning to show us the plans for their new house and let us know they were back in town for a couple of days. We had seen the freshly-poured slab on Saturday, but couldn’t remember all they had told us about the layout of the structure.

Our new friends Ken and Donna came to visit this afternoon. We found out Saturday night that they are interested in setting up their own blog site, so Barbara invited them over for a demonstration lesson. They are both quick learners and within an hour or so had their blog set up and ready to use. It was obvious that Ken is going to get a lot of mileage out of their name (Good), much as we use “Little” in our blogs. Ken even set up his first posting combining the two last names to describe the “Good Little” lesson he learned from us.

In between visits and other chores, I made several trips to hardware stores to find parts to fix the lawnmower. By the end of the day I had replaced the air filter and container, found a bolt to hold the container in place so it doesn’t fly off and get chewed up by the blade again, replaced the blade that has hit about as many rocks and tree stumps as it has blades of grass, and replaced the spark plug. It doesn’t run like new, but it sure is better than it was early this morning!

Tonight I started cleaning the inside of the Vibe. The pollen and dust have infiltrated every part of the interior, so I grabbed my trusty micro-fiber cleaning rags and dusted and vacuumed every part of the interior that I could reach. I finally quit when it was just too dark to see anymore.

Tuesday, April 13

Today we celebrate the birthday of Thomas Jefferson, third President of the United States, born on this date in 1743. It was Thomas Jefferson, principal author of our Declaration of Independence, who said, “I'm a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it.”

I got up early this morning and started washing the car. It was just filthy from road grime and pollen. Just as the pollen had gotten all over the interior, it also covered every square inch of the exterior. As I washed and rinsed, I had a continuous stream of yellow water running down the driveway. Barbara came out and helped with the rinsing so we could finish the job before the sun started hitting the car and streaking it.

After breakfast, I put the car in the garage and then we started mowing and trimming the front yard. It was amazing to see how much the grass had grown since the last mowing, even without significant rain.

Barbara grabbed a shovel and did some more clearing in the little ditch we dug out last week. Meanwhile, I got the flathead shovel and removed several years of sand buildup at the end of the street. We mentioned in last week’s writings that all the water in the development drained to our end of the street. When that happened, it also washed down a lot of sand, resulting in a huge buildup right in front of our house and the house across the street.

John and I managed to get a good drainage system going for the water, but that left us with a large “beach” area, with sand several inches deep, and the only way to get rid of it was one shovelful at a time. Unfortunately for me, John was gone for the day and I was holding the shovel.

This afternoon we drove out to Gene and Michelle’s new house to take a picture of what had been done today. We don’t know how many men were on the job, but the house was completely framed by the time we got there. Those guys really work fast when they finally get to work!
Wednesday, April 14

Today was Barbara’s Bible study day at Yantis. I drove her to the church, visited with David for a bit, and then went to the lot to spend a couple of hours mowing and trimming. It seems there’s never enough time to do everything that needs to be done, but b y the time I left, the place was really looking good…at least, it looked like someone cared.

While we were gone, Maria came to the house to clean Mother’s room and bathroom, so we returned to a shiny clean and fresh-smelling room. Maria does wonderful work and has been a real Godsend to all of us.

Mother has been reviewing some of her recipe files and recently found a Wacky Cake recipe that she asked Barbara to make, so Barbara spent the afternoon on that.

While Barbara worked on the cake, I grabbed the lawnmower and mowed the back yard and the lot beside the house.

I practiced my trumpet tonight (as I have been doing since Sunday night when our choir director asked if I would do something for the special music next Sunday. Luckily, I wasn’t too badly out of shape, so the practice has gone pretty well.

Thursday, April 15

Happy Birthday to Aunt Glennis in Marianna, Florida!!!

Today is our national tax day. As Arthur Godfrey once said,  "I’m proud to pay taxes in the United States. The only thing is, I would be just as proud for half the money."

Today was a fairly easy day for us. With nothing on the agenda for the biggest part of the day, we just took care of some basic errands. Housecleaning was tops on the list, but Mother’s house is so easy to clean that it didn’t take but a couple of hours to get it dusted, swept, and mopped.

Barbara walked to the pharmacy to pick up some prescription refills for Mother and then we drove to Walmart for a few things. I sprung for a new pair of tennis shoes and we stopped by the garden shop to buy several small pots of Impatiens that we brought back to the house to plant in the area between the driveway and the fence.

Today was also the time for the monthly administration of the puppies’ meds…not their (or our) favorite thing, but one of those necessary chores.

Ken and Donna Good came to town this evening and we had nachos and played Chickenfoot. I once again proved what a genial host I could be by being the biggest loser. Ken and Donna said they had never played the game before, but after they scalped me, I’m beginning to doubt their veracity. Anyway, it was a really fun evening. We’re just sorry that they will be leaving so soon after we met them; but, they’ll be back in five months and then we’ll let the games begin!

Friday, April 16

TJ took Mother to the optometrist in Tyler this morning and the two of them had a late birthday lunch for TJ at Red Lobster.

While Mother and TJ were off on their adventure, Barbara and I decided we’d spend the day working on the lot up at the lake. We drove up to Sulphur Springs because we thought we’d find some good plants at Lowe’s outdoor center, but were disappointed to find absolutely nothing we liked or could use.
We left Lowe’s and crossed the street to Walmart where, unlike the store in Mineola, we found some beautiful Asian Lilies that we thought would dress up the yard across from Big V. We returned to the lot, broke out the shovel and hoe, and got the lilies set in place. They were very pretty, but we both decided that the way we set them made them look like head markers in a cemetery…we’ll just have to do something about that later.
After doing a little more work around the lot, we returned to the house in Mineola and did some work in the garden area between the driveway and fence. There are a couple of small areas that we can’t seem to get just right. One thing we did that made us feel much better was to move the hummingbird feeders and stand where they can be more easily seen. The feeders aren’t attracting hummingbirds, but they sure do look nice!

Saturday, April 17

Happy Birthday to our good friend Joyce Whitaker in Houston!!!

When Heather, Andy, and the kids were here during the Easter weekend, we asked them about Alexander’s soccer schedule. We’ve never been able to attend any of the kids’ events, but when we found that Alexander had a soccer match this afternoon, we decided we’d make the drive to Richardson to see him play

Earlier this week, we learned that Jaycie would be involved in a cheer competition in Dallas, so we thought we’d ask about seeing her sometime during the morning. We already knew that we wouldn’t be able to attend the competition, but thought that if Cathey would let us, we could maybe meet Jaycie at their hotel and take her to breakfast for an hour of granddaughter/grandparent time.

We wrote to Cathey Friday morning to tell her that we were going to be in Richardson for Alexander’s game and asked if there was any way we could see Jaycie this morning before going to the soccer match.

Around 12:30 we received a note from Cathey stating that they were getting ready to leave Lubbock for Dallas. She said that Jaycie had to be at the competition site at 9:00 this morning, but that we could come at 12:30 for the competition and then see her for a few minutes after that.

We had already promised the kids that we would be at Alexander’s soccer match at 1:00, so we wrote back and said we could leave very early and asked about meeting Jaycie at 8:00 for breakfast and a visit, but, we didn’t hear back from Cathey until 9:11 this morning when she wrote and said she just got our message, that they were on their way to the competition site and it was just too bad it didn’t work out.

So, with the possibility of seeing Jaycie, along with Alexander and Abby, out of the question, we focused on getting ourselves ready and driving to Richardson in time to visit Andy and the kids (Heather was spending the morning working on a school fundraiser) for a while before heading to the soccer fields.

After stopping at the donut shop for breakfast, the post office to check mail, and the gas station to fill an almost empty tank, we finally headed up Highway 69 toward Greenville and then across to Richardson. We had plenty of time, so there was no big hurry.

Well, we had plenty of time until we got to Greenville and I decided to take a shortcut that I knew would save us at least 15-20 minutes by cutting out the Greenville traffic; and, it would have worked if I just hadn’t guessed wrong about the next turn. Soon, we were wandering through the backwoods of East Texas, making great time (at least as far as the speedometer was concerned), but totally clueless as to where we were and what we should do next.

I even stopped and asked a highway department driver about the fastest way to get back to I-30 toward Dallas. He gave us the directions, but I must have transposed them in my mind and we made another left turn that took us even farther away from our destination.

When we saw the sign that said we were only 15 miles from Terrell, we knew that our speed had gotten us nowhere fast. Luckily (and before we actually got to Terrell), we saw a sign that directed us back toward the northwest and Caddo Mills, which is what we should have driven through about 45 minutes earlier.

Barbara texted Andy to tell him we were lost and might be late. He only replied, “Ought to get a GPS.”

Later, when we knew where we were and could set an arrival time, Barbara called and got the directions to the park where the soccer matches were being played.

Even with my blunders, we would have made it for the beginning of Alexander’s match, but I figured out that there must be some new state law that that sets the maximum speed on Saturdays at 45 MPH, but that drivers can drive much slower than that if they wish. I don’t believe I’ve ever gotten behind so many slow drivers on so many different roads!

We finally got to the park, having just missed the beginning of the game, but with plenty of time to see Alexander in action. Alexander is a very gifted athlete with a good sense of field presence and outstanding coordination. He told us at Easter that he had already scored 6 goals and that his team was “undefeatable” for the season.
Barbara and I took turns playing with Abby, watching Alexander, and visiting with Andy throughout the match. Of course, we did remember to bring the camera, so we’ll just let the pictures tell the story of the time we shared at the park.

At half time, we were even able to sneak in a few photos with Alexander…
One time during the soccer game, Abby decided that she wanted to take a picture of Grams and Gramps. So…with a few instructions and many finger holding tries (the camera just seemed to be too big for those little fingers!), Abby became a photographer in her own right. There were a couple of things that went a little wrong, but overall, we think Abby has great potential!

When the match was over, we all drove to a McDonald’s close to the house and had lunch while Alexander and Abby played in the indoor playground; then, we drove to the house to visit. It didn’t take long until we were all outside in the backyard, visiting and playing baseball with Alexander while Abby showed that she is a big girl now and didn’t need help playing on the swing set.

Andy and I alternated pitching and catching while Alexander took lots of batting practice and Barbara took lots of pictures. And again, the pictures tell the story.
Heather arrived back home in time for us to have a short visit with her before we had to leave and head back home. There were storms ahead of us and we needed to make a couple of stops in Sulphur Springs before getting back to Mineola in time for our nightly chores, so we said our goodbyes and drove away, promising to return another time.

We stopped at Walmart in Sulphur Springs and bought three Azalea bushes to plant on our lot at Holiday Village. We love all the trees we have, but there just isn’t any color other than shades of green, so we’ve been looking for some way to add at least some splashes of color to the place.

We fully intended to go ahead and set the trees in this evening (silly us…we didn’t have a clue about what we were in for), but it was raining when we got to Big V, so we just set the plants on the pad between Big V and the motorcycle and turned around and drove on to Mineola and Mother’s house.

We were pretty much in a daze by the time we got home, but did take time to fill Mother in on the adventures of the day and to find out how her day had gone. It seems that a good day was had by all, but we were all ready to end it and get some much-needed rest and sleep.

“When times are trying, don’t quit trying.” – Mineola Northside Baptist Church Sign

From Mother’s house in Mineola, Texas,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams

A Lot of Little Work

Sunday, April 4 – Saturday, April 10, 2010

Sunday, April 4

Happy Easter!!!

We got up early, early this morning so we could go up to Lake Fork for our church’s sunrise service. It was gray and overcast as we got to the lake, but we found about 50-60 of our fellow church members turning out for a short message by Pastor David and music led by Danette Lovelady, our choir director. The service was very moving and the setting was as beautiful as any we’ve ever seen.
Since the service was over around 7:30, we went to Holiday Village to get breakfast at the clubhouse and then get some sleep in Big V until time to get dressed and go to Yantis for Sunday school and church. As many meals as we’ve had at the clubhouse, it never fails to amaze us at how much good food we get for such a low price, and this morning was no exception…two complete breakfasts cooked to order for under $5.00…just can’t beat it.

We had a good Sunday school lesson and then I went to the choir room for our final preparations before we presented our Easter cantata. Now, I may be a little prejudiced, but I felt that the choir really outdid itself this morning with a program of very moving selections presenting the theme, “Because He Lives.”

We had Communion following the cantata. David said that he had asked the deacons to prepare 200 servings of the wafers and juice, but the crowd was so large that they ran out before two-thirds of the choir was served. What a blessing it was to see nearly every pew completely filled and people seated in the foyer!

With choir practice and the evening service canceled for this evening, we booked it back to Mineola and TJ’s house for our second big get-together of the weekend. Rob and his family left yesterday, but today we were joined by Ladd, Angela, and Madelyn, as well as TJ’s friend Marge, as we gathered around the table to feast on baked ham, Puerto Rican potato salad, and a wide variety of other succulent dishes.

Conversations on a multitude of topics were flying all around the table, but we all stopped to listen as Madelyn, who had volunteered to work at the recent Home Makeover project just a couple of blocks from TJ’s house, talked about the house, the work, and her impressions (and some not good ones at that) of various cast members.
Around 4:30 Donnie, Lynette, and Caitlin came over and we led them out to Holiday Village to see our place. As luck would have it, this is also the spring cleaning week at the village and a huge roll-off dumpster was in the parking lot at the clubhouse, providing us with a convenient place to dump all the cardboard and packing foam from the four cabinet kits.

Tonight we tackled the last of the three cabinets, hoping that our previous experience would pay off and we would finish the building in time to start emptying boxes and filling the cabinets. But, like the kids we worked with for 36+ years, we found that each cabinet kit was different in its own way…no two were formed exactly alike, and it took different techniques and strategies to form them so they would reach their full potential and usefulness.

Finally, the third cabinet was finished and standing. The next challenge was to get them in exactly the right alignment against the wall, a challenge that was compounded by the fixed placement of an electrical outlet, the hardware that was already in place for the automatic sprinkler system, and the placement of the main breaker box. We were literally moving cabinets (remember the 200+ pounds for each of them) an inch at a time to get them in the right positions.

When we finally had each cabinet in place, it was time to secure them to the wall studs so they wouldn’t fall over. Again, what should have been fairly simple quickly became very complicated. The first stud was easy to find since it ran just above the electrical outlet. I then used 16, 18, and 24 inch measurements from that spot, but never could locate the next stud (and now the wall a couple of inches above the tops of the cabinets looks like Swiss cheese), so I decided to go to Walmart and get a stud sensor.

Once back at the house I opened the sensor package, only to find that it required a 9-volt battery to make it work (honestly, there was nothing on the package to tell me that…I even looked again). We have a whole package of 9-volt batteries at Big V, but that didn’t help much tonight.

As I was preparing to go back to Walmart to get batteries, Barbara said that maybe Mother had some. I didn’t think so, but when Mother told me to check a certain drawer in her bathroom cabinets, I found that she did have a couple of 9-volts, saving me another trip.

With the stud sensor operational, it didn’t take long to locate a stud behind each cabinet, get the cabinet lined up and mostly level and plumb, and secure it to the wall.

All that was left was to attach the doors; again, a chore that should have been easy, but quickly became as complicated as the other parts…same story-ach was different and had to be treated a little differently for both appearance and efficiency.

Finally, the cabinets were ready for occupancy by Mother’s “treasures,” but the time and energy to get to that point had taken its toll on our nerves and energy, so we just closed the garage, turned off the lights, and declared that we would take the next steps tomorrow.

Monday, April 5

Happy 70th Birthday to Aunt TJ in Mineola!!!

Congratulations to step-grandson Khris Johnson and Taryn on their wedding today in San Antonio!

Today was just a huge garage cleaning day. With the cabinets in place, we started going through all the boxes that had been stacked against the wall, trying to organize the contents so we could utilize the new storage space. It took all day and a lot of placing, moving, and placing again, but at the end of the day we had all the shelves where we need them and all the items in a place that made sense (at least to us), and Mother was happy with the results.

The only problem we had left was that there were stacks of empty boxes filled with throwaways, and several boxes of “giveaways,” so even with the cabinets in place and filled almost to capacity the garage still looked a mess. Since the garbage collection won’t be until Thursday, we’ll just have to live with it.

We did find during the day that we had several large storage containers of ours in the garage, so when we had done all else that we could do, we took some of our containers inside and began packing away our winter clothes to take out to the lot for storage.

Tonight we tried to watch the NCAA basketball championship game between Duke and Butler, but we were so tired from working in the garage all day that we just couldn’t get into it, so we turned the TV off at halftime, went to bed, and immediately dropped into a deep sleep.

Tuesday, April 6

Happy Birthday to cousin Lynette Sandley in Irondale, Alabama.

We started the day as usual…check for email and read some on-line journals, breakfast, and then get dressed for the morning’s work.

Job one was to get our income taxes finished and on the way. We had found a CPA from a Tyler firm who comes to Mineola on Tuesdays to work out of an office here. We took all of our files to her a couple of weeks ago, and today we just had to sign off on some authorizations and wait for her to file for the year.

With that big step out of the way, we went by the post office to pick up the mail, and then drove to a nursery just north of town on the Quitman highway to look for geraniums. When we were sitting outside on the porch last Saturday, Mother said that she thought red geraniums would be a good addition to the English primroses that we had planted under the tree a couple of weeks ago. TJ said she had bought some geraniums at the nursery and since we had checked at Walmart and didn’t find anything satisfactory, we decided we’d try Gray’s also.
Sure enough, they had exactly what we wanted, so we bought seven pots of bright red geraniums and returned to the house to plant them. Of course, nothing is never easy (I had forgotten about all the root problems when we planted the primroses), but some toil and sweat, I managed to dig out the grass clumps and Barbara followed behind me to set the geraniums in.

The problem with doing yard work and house work is that one can never do just one chore without seeing something else that needs to be done. In this case, after I raked up the mess that I made while digging in the flower bed, I noticed that the yard needed to be trimmed. So, I fired up the weed eater and made relatively short work of the trimming. But, with the flower bed looking good and the trimming completed, the rest of the yard begged to be mowed.

By now it was almost lunch time, so Barbara went inside to fix our noon meal while I fired up the lawnmower and proceeded to mow the front yard…finally, everything looked great except that the flower bed really needed some mulch in it, but I didn’t have any, so that would just have to wait for another day; besides, we had worked and sweated all morning and naptime was looming on the other side of lunch.

Mother came in and we had lunch. When she headed back to her room afterward, Barbara and I opened our computers to see if we had received any mail since breakfast. I was just closing my computer and getting ready to go take a nap when I saw John, our neighbor from across the street, coming up the driveway.

I went out to meet John and ask if he needed anything, but before I could speak, he asked if I could give him a hand getting something out of his car. I said I’d be happy to and walked across the street with him to find the trunk lid of his car open and an electric jackhammer on the trunk floor. With two of us lifting, it didn’t take much to lift the jackhammer out and set it up on the pavement.

A few days ago John and I had talked about the problem of all the rocks at the end of the pavement on our street. John’s and Mother’s houses are at the end of the street and at the lowest point of the Heritage Square development. When it rains, all water drains to the front of these two houses. What the developers didn’t do was to provide drainage to the adjacent undeveloped property, which is even lower than the end of the street. Instead, they dumped about a ton of granite and other rocks to shore up the end of the pavement, and then overlaid them with dirt.

That was all well and good, but the rocks protruded several inches above the end of the pavement, effectively forming a rough curb that trapped the water and backed it up, forming what we call Lake Borsberry on our side of the street and Lake John on the other side.

Ernie, when he and Billee were living with Mother, had dug the dirt away in an attempt to channel some of the water into the field, as had John on his side of the street, but none of us had overcome the rock problem…I tried using a pick to dig the rocks out, but they were so large and piled in such a way that I soon found that wasn’t the answer.

John decided that the only way to break out the rocks would be to get a jackhammer and go to work on them, so he went to the local rental store today and got a jackhammer and an assortment of bits to tackle the job.

So, here I was, looking at the business end of a jackhammer instead of taking my much dreamed of afternoon nap. Not to worry though, as heavy as this thing was, we should be through with a few rocks in an hour or so and still have time to get a little rest before going out to the lake this evening.

Have I mentioned this week that nothing is ever as easy as it looks? After taking turns pounding away at the rocks next to the pavement, John suggested that we move several feet down the lot to find where the rocks ended and work backward from there.

About that time, I went to the house and told Barbara where I was and what we were doing and she grabbed the camera to come document this new adventure. Of course, the very first picture she took was of John and me sitting in lawn chairs that John brought out for our “union breaks”…timing is everything!
The idea was great, but the job was far bigger than we ever thought and four hours later, dripping with sweat and our arms still shaking from the constant bombardment and vibrations by the jackhammer, we finally finished breaking and digging out about eight feet of rocks on John’s side of the street and five feet on our side.
We like to tell people that we learn something new nearly every day of our retirement, and what I learned today was that I was glad I didn’t have to do that for a living in my younger years, and I hope I don’t have to do it again! It is something that will NOT be included on my resume’.

John and I did have a good time talking during our breaks and he told me a lot of stories from his career of working for the highway department as a bridge inspector. But, as much fun as it was (and there were fun moments) I was glad to help him put that jackhammer back in his car and declare the job done. Now all we need is a good rain to see if our work did any good.

Barbara was scheduled to go to Yantis for her Bridge meeting tonight, but when I said I would go mow and trim our lot while she was at her meeting, she said she’d just come along with me. So, after a few minutes of rest, we loaded the lawnmower, trimmer, and an assortment of other lawn tools in the Vibe and drove up to Holiday Village to work on our long-neglected lot.

Barbara started the mowing and I did the trimming with our electric weed eater (after stringing out 75 feet of extension cord) and we got busy making the place look loved once more.

While we were working at the front of the lot our friends Bob and Mary, who just returned from spending the winter months in Pharr, down in the Rio Grande Valley, stopped by on their bicycles to see what we were up to. We’ve kept up with Bob and Mary through emails and telephone calls, but it was really good to see them again, even if it was for just a few minutes.

When Bob and Mary left, we went back to work and by dark we had most of the place mowed and trimmed. At least the front of the lot and the areas on either side of Big V looked like someone lived there and cared about the place.

We put the equipment away in the storage shed and under the canopy, locked everything down, and headed back toward Mineola, hot showers, and a clean and comfortable bed, worn out from another day of “retirement ease.” After today, we are considering getting full-time jobs so we can at least get scheduled time off!

Wednesday, April 7

We awoke this morning with much moaning and groaning from yesterday’s exertions, but after popping some Aleve and having breakfast, we were soon ready to meet the new day.

I took Barbara to the church in Yantis for her Bible study group and then went back to the lake to continue work on the lot. Although we got a bunch of mowing and trimming done last night, there was still much to do and I spent the first hour knocking down grass from the lot behind us (don’t want to have breeding grounds for things like mosquitoes, chiggers, or other critters).

When I had finished the mowing and trimming, I went to the gully with two large containers of grasses that we had dug out from under Mother’s tree in the front yard. We thought if we could transplant the clumps they might take root and help stop some of the erosion when it rains and the water drains down through the gully on its way to the lake.

After an hour or so of digging and planting the grass clumps, I didn’t need the clock to tell me it was time to quit…every muscle and joint in my body was screaming out that it was time to get out of there and head home.

First though, I had to load all the equipment back into the Vibe, close Big V for a few days, and then drive back to Yantis to get Barbara, who was, more or less, patiently waiting for me.

We got back to Mineola as quickly as possible and, instead of taking the nap we had planned, decided that the backyard and some of the adjoining lot needed to be mowed. Ernie kept about 20 yards of the adjoining undeveloped property mowed for the same reason that I mow the lot behind Big V; namely, to keep the critters (chiggers, ticks, snakes, etc.) away from Mother’s house. Now, it’s our job to do the same, so Barbara started mowing the lot while I trimmed the backyard.

When Barbara went inside to fix a late lunch, I took over the mowing. All went fairly well until the mower seized up and wouldn’t start again. I pulled the spark plug and found that it was filthy and past the point of sparking, but managed to get it cleaned off enough to fire up the mower and finish off the backyard after we finished lunch.

By the time that lunch and the yard work were finished, it was too late to take a nap, so we just rested a bit and then Barbara started working on a new dessert recipe-oatmeal butterscotch bars to take to the firefighter's luncheon on Saturday.

Tomorrow is the trash pickup day for our neighborhood, so tonight we gathered up all the trash sacks and the boxes left over from Monday’s garage clean-up. Finally, we could see what our efforts in the garage had brought about, and what a transformation it was! We even made a collage to commemorate our efforts and to remind us of just how much we did accomplish.
Thursday, April 8

Happy 70th birthday today to our good friend Jimmy Payne in Cairo, Georgia!!!

We both woke up early this morning, refreshed after a good night’s sleep. Barbara took a short prayer walk around the neighborhood…she had planned to go out for an hour, but the early morning was unusually cold and windy, so she shortened the time.

After breakfast we tackled some serious house cleaning. It’s been a couple of weeks since we did that, and we just couldn’t put it off any longer. By noon and lunchtime, the house was clean and fresh and the floors were shining from sweeping and mopping. Like Big V, Mother’s house isn’t really hard to clean, but it does take time and persistence, and we’ve been spending most of those two things outside lately.

We spent the afternoon and evening trying to get caught up on the journal/blog for the past two weeks. Luckily, Barbara has kept a good record of our activities on a calendar, but we’ve been too tired at night to do anything other than just think about writing.

While I reconstructed the notes into anecdotes, Barbara waded through picture after picture after picture to create the 19 collages that formed the pictorial record of our work and play. Now all we have to do is fit pictures and text together and get the whole thing posted on the blog…maybe tomorrow?

Friday, April 9

Hallelujah!!! Two weeks of the journal/blog are completed, proofed, edited, and are now ready to be posted on the blog site. Because of all the pictures, the latest edition was way too large to attach and send in print form, so we just told everyone on our list to check out the blog site to see what we had been up to.

With that project out of the way, we went into full-scale chef mode in the kitchen to prepare dishes for a special meal tomorrow.

Several weeks ago they announced in church that the annual fire fighters appreciation luncheon would be held April 10 and asked for church members to provide food for the meal. We decided that we’d prepare some Puerto Rican dishes (something unusual around this neck of the woods), so I went to work preparing a double recipe of black beans while Barbara started on the potato salad. Within a couple of hours we had everything put together, but no space for the two containers in Mother’s refrigerator, so we set them aside and decided we’d take them to Big V later and store them overnight in the refrigerator there.

After lunch we finally got to take our first real nap of the week…yah-hoo! What had become part of our daily routine (which includes getting up around 6:00 am and going to bed around 10:30 or 11:00) took a backseat to all the chores and activities of the past week.

When we got up from our nap, we put the food in the car and drove out to Big V to get the beans and potato salad stored safely in the refrigerator. We enjoyed a few minutes at “Our LITTLE Lot” before getting back in the Vibe and returning to Mineola, stopping first at Walmart to get ice cream and a frozen pizza for tonight’s meal…real healthy stuff.

For only the second time since becoming regular Walmart customers in Mineola we ran into someone we know. As we were preparing to check out, Cousin Ladd was grabbing a shopping cart right beside us, so we blocked traffic and talked for a few minutes (finally getting out of the way in case anyone else wanted to come through the line).

Tonight was a night to kick back and relax, eating pizza, watching TV, starting on this week’s issue of the journal/blog, and then finishing the night with a milkshake before going to bed and reading until we fell asleep.

Saturday, April 10

We were on a mission this morning, so as soon as we got Mother coffeed and fed, we started getting ourselves cleaned up and dressed to go to Yantis and assist with the annual Firefighters Appreciation Luncheon sponsored by First Baptist Church. Call us crazy, but when David started asking for volunteers at the business meeting a couple of weeks ago, we got in the spirit and volunteered for just about everything, including food (our Sunday school class had already committed to bringing desserts, but we added the Puerto Rican dishes just for good measure) and cleaning up when it was all over.

Our first stop after leaving the house (TJ came over later to take Mother to lunch, so we weren’t really leaving her alone all day) was to go straight to Big V to get the food for the luncheon. On the way out of the park, we stopped at the sales office to pick up a couple of tickets for tonight’s POA dinner at the clubhouse and ask Josh if we were among the first ten to come in and inquire about this quarter’s Property Owners Association gifts. As luck would have it, we were number ten, and walked out with a new SkyTek Notepad and a Blu-Ray CD/DVD player, items with a combined retail value of over $500. For our POA dues of $18 per month for the last year, we’ve already received well over $1,500 worth of merchandise…not a bad deal at all!
As we were leaving the sales office, up drove Brittney, Josh’s sister, in her sporty red Jeep. I keep telling Barbara that I need a jeep, but she never listens to me! I even use the argument that my son Michael thinks I need one, too. She, however, keeps saying I have a motorcycle and that’s enough! Spoil sport, she is!

We’ve never gotten a picture of Brittney, who is part of the sales staff, so Barbara jumped out a got a shot of her.

About the same time, our friends Bob and Mary Royar came rolling in on their golf cart, so we talked to them for a couple of minutes and Barbara got their picture, too.

Then, it was on to Yantis to take our food in and help with whatever needed to be done to have the luncheon ready by 11:00.

During the next hour a large number of church members showed up with food…some stayed and helped and others returned to their Saturday chores. By the time the firefighter force arrived, we had right at 50 people, including church members, ready to go through the line and feast on brisket and all the trimmings…at least four kinds of beans, three or four kinds of potato salad, and various other dishes (and two tables full of luscious desserts…what a spread!

There was also lots of visiting going on, with firefighters expressing their appreciation to the church for their efforts and church members thanking the firefighters for their service and efforts.

All good things must come to an end, so shortly after noon the firefighters left and the rest of us started the cleanup. Many hands make short work, or so they say, and that was proved today as we had everything washed and put away before 12:30…plenty of time to go back to Mineola and get a nap.

Tonight we returned to the clubhouse for the monthly POA dinner, a meal that requires only that we go to the clubhouse before noon and pick up all the tickets we need for property owners and guests. The menu tonight was pork chops, au gratin potatoes, cornbread, red beans, peach cobbler, and a drink.

Bob and Mary were well ahead of us in the line, but promised to save us a couple of chairs at their table. When we got our food and approached the table, we found another couple also sitting with the Royars. Luckily, the tables sit 8, so there was still plenty of room. We all ate and talked and then Barbara said to the man who was sitting with us, “I didn’t catch your name.” “Good,” he said, and we wondered for a minute if he was playing a practical joke. Then he explained that they were the Goods, Ken and Donna.

We all had a good laugh about that and then started talking about places we have been. Ken and Donna are preparing to leave in another week or so to spend 5 months in Idaho serving as park attendants. Ken then said that one of the places they had worked was in New Mexico. When we asked where, he said it was down around Carlsbad.

Our faces lit up and we told him that we were from Artesia, at which point he went on to say that they stayed at the Escapee’s campground resort between Carlsbad and Artesia (a place we had looked at before Jean invited us to move to her place after retirement) and that they attended First Baptist Church in Artesia when they were there.

With that, we launched into a whole new conversation about Artesia, Cloudcroft, Ruidoso, and other places in southeastern New Mexico we had all been to.

Ken and Donna also ride a motorcycle and he said that Josh had told them they needed to come visit us, but they just hadn’t gotten around to it.

Ken was a professional photographer…worked for the Associated Press for 17 years…and has his photographs hanging in several museums. In fact, some of his signed photography even hangs in the halls of Artesia First Baptist Church…what a small world it really is!
The bottom middle photo is of our neighbor and friend Linda. She and her husband Gary live behind us and are so good to try to keep an eye on our property while we're here in Mineola. Tonight seemed a perfect time to get a photo of her.

When the food was all gone and everyone started leaving, we decided it was time for us to hit the road and get back to Mother and the puppies. Mary had suggested that they might drive us to the site of Gene and Michelle Young’s new house, where the slab had been poured today. Since we were inside and couldn’t tell much about the weather, we declined for now, but when we got in the car and drove to the gate, we could see that the sun was still pretty high in the western sky.

We changed our minds and drove across Lake Fork to the West Fork Addition close to Alba and took a quick view (and a couple of pictures) of the new cement slab. We’ve already forgotten what the floor plans showed, but when the Youngs return from Kansas in another day or so they will be able to explain it all to us.
With our sightseeing and visiting done for the week, we drove back to Mineola and Mother’s house to settle in for the evening, get Mother, Spike, and Bonita prepped for bed, and then go for a short walk around Heritage Square before coming back to the house to finish writing the journal and sort through all the pictures we took this week.

“Don’t audit life; show up and make the most of it now.” – Unknown

From Mineola, Texas,

Jim/Dad/Gramps & Barbara/Mom/Grams