A Little Settling In

Tuesday, July 1– Saturday, July, 5, 2008

Tuesday, July 1


What a fun morning! We awoke fairly early and prepared to leave the roadside park with Edith still in bed drinking her coffee! What a good sport she has been throughout this adventure!
With the generator running and both air conditioners going full blast, it was relatively comfortable inside despite the mid-90 degree temperatures outside.

Basically, the rest of the morning and afternoon was get to Mineola as quickly and safely as possible! We were pleasantly surprised to find minimal traffic along I-20 through the Dallas/Fort Worth area, so we made it through there without any hassles. (We did stop along the way to let Edith get dressed and take a short break!)

Once we arrived in Mineola, TJ and Ernie met us at the Civic Center where Jim and I will begin our new Mineola life. The first thing was to get Edith loaded into TJ’s car so she could get to TJ’s house and air conditioning. (Won’t move into her own house until tomorrow.)

Next, Ernie helped Jim get the Vibe and motorcycle off the car hauler so we could get Big V set up on the concrete pad that will be our “property” for the foreseeable future. The car was easy enough to unload, but because of the slant of the trailer next to the curb, the motorcycle high-centered coming off the trailer onto the ramp, so the guys had to get it back in place on the trailer and move everything to an area where it would come down the ramp easily.

With both vehicles on the ground and the trailer parked in its appointed slot, Jim backed Big V onto the pad (actually, he had to do it twice, because he backed it onto the wrong pad the first time), and I began opening it up while Jim took care of the hookups.

Jim: We did learn another lesson during this set-up; that is to always be alert to what is happening under Big V. The hookups at the civic center are unique in that every other pad has the water, sewer, and electric hookups on the right side of the RV, which is normally the “wrong” side. Fortunately, all of our cables and hoses were long enough, so that didn’t pose a problem in itself.

After Barbara got the slide-outs in place, she took the next step, which was to lower the automatic jacks and begin the leveling. So far, so good; we checked the levels, saw that everything was as close as we were likely to get it, and then…POP!...we lost our electricity. I checked all the breakers in the house and found that they were ok. Next, I went outside to throw the main breaker; again…POP! I then tried the other three 50-amp hookups that were on our pole, all with the same results.

Barbara said she would go inside and report the faulty electrical hookups to Charlotte, our genial host. As she went inside and I turned around from where I was sitting next to the pole, I happened to glance under Big V and immediately determined what our problem was…one of the rear levelers had come down squarely on top of the power cord, putting 20,000 pounds of pressure on it and mashing it flat.

I immediately ran back inside Big V and raised the levelers and then came back to see if we had permanently damaged our power line. The line was pretty much flattened when the leveler came up, but when I threw the main breaker, the electrical power came back on in the coach. Wow…we narrowly averted what could have been a disaster for us. Two things could have happened - both of them bad. We could have ruined our shore line (the power cord), which would have been expensive and time-consuming to replace or, the power surges when I attempted to throw all those breakers could have fried the entire electrical system, which would have been v-e-r-y expensive and v-e-r-y time-consuming to replace.

Luckily for us, the shore line is very well constructed so no permanent damage was done to it. But, we now know that if we ever have to hook up on the “wrong” side again, one of us will be outside watching hoses and power lines while the other sets the jacks. Every day is an adventure and a learning experience (or two or three).

Once we had everything in place, we took a break to go over to T.J.’s house for dinner, and then Barbara, Ernie, Billee, and I went to Mother’s new house to wait for the movers, who had told us that they wanted to start unloading all the boxes tonight so they wouldn’t have to work in the hot sun all day tomorrow.

By 10:00 pm we had half the moving van unloaded and Barbara had most of Mother’s clothes hanging in her new spacious closet. It was time to call it a day. Everyone was tired, hot, and sweaty and ready for a cold shower and a good night’s sleep.

Wednesday, July 2

We all gathered at Mother’s new house at 8:00 this morning. Mother acted as the supervisor, telling us where she wanted the furniture placed, Ernie, Barbara, and I helped shift furniture into place as the movers brought in each piece, and also began moving boxes around in the garage so we could get some order for unpacking. Since the doors all had to be wide open throughout the process, Billee took Bonita and Spike out to the screen porch in back to take care of them and keep them from leaving to explore their new surroundings.

As it is with every move, placing furniture was a trial and error process. What we thought would fit somewhere didn’t necessarily fit or look well there, so there was quite a bit of shifting around during the morning.

When everything had been brought in and placed in the appropriate room, Ernie left with the movers to oversee the unloading of their belongings in a storage shed. Meanwhile, the rest of us continued moving the large pieces around until we thought we had an order that was close to what Mother had envisioned.

While Barbara and Billee worked and Ernie was gone, I took a short break to ride to the local post office to set up a mail box. We had decided that since we’ll be here an indefinite amount of time, we’d just have our mail sent directly to Mineola rather than bothering Jean to sort through everything and re-mail it from Artesia. When that was done, it was back to the business of business.

Since the kitchen and dining room had minimal furniture, we began unpacking boxes of things that belonged there. The new kitchen has beautiful wood cabinets with glass doors, just perfect for displaying Mother’s fine China collection, so that was where we started.

While I unpacked the boxes of dishes, Barbara started putting away the China, but even that became a trial and error process as we found an extra set that just cried out to be placed where she had put the first set. Oh well, with a month to get it all done, we just resigned ourselves to taking the unpacking one step at a time.

When Ernie finally got back we moved more boxes around to try to make sense of the stacks in the garage while Barbara and Billee put things up as we moved them inside and unpacked them. With T.J.’s help we all decided that we had too much furniture in the house, so Ernie and I moved a desk and a large sleeper couch (have you ever considered that four-fifths of couch is “ouch?’) out to the garage…so much for clearing spaces in the garage.

By 6:00 pm we had the kitchen more or less put together, the beds made, and the bathrooms usable…enough done that Mother, Ernie, and Billee could spend the night in relative comfort and find food for breakfast tomorrow morning.

With that done, Barbara and I said our goodbyes for the night and headed back to Big V for cold showers and an evening meal…worn out, but weary with well-doing.

Thursday, July 3


While Ernie, T.J., and Mother went off to Quitman, the county seat, to take care of various kinds of business relating to the move, Barbara and I slugged away at unpacking and putting up. I tried to find boxes of like items for the rooms that she was working in and keep her supplied with everything she needed for filling cabinets or decorating the rooms. Meanwhile, Billee was out on the back porch repainting kitchen chairs.

When the others got back, we went to the local Pizza Hut for the daily buffet special and then returned to work for another hour or so before breaking for the day. We had an invitation to go to dinner at Ladd and Angela’s house (my cousins through T.J.’s marriage to Harry Logan) and visit with them and their daughter, Madeline, who has just graduated from Mineola High School.

When we got to their house around 6:00, we found Ladd all by himself. It seems that Madeline was swimming up in Quitman, and Angela, a nurse, had been called to work that evening. Ladd was a great host though, and served up the wonderful meal that Angela had prepared…a chicken casserole, hot bread, steamed vegetables, dessert, and plenty of ice cold sweetened tea.

Needless to say, we thoroughly enjoyed Angela’s cooking, Ladd’s companionship, and a great time of just sitting around and visiting.

When we had finished eating, Ernie and I went out to look around the place. Although they live in the city limits, you wouldn’t know it once you get to the back of the house, which overlooks a large pond (dug by Ladd), and several acres of grassland completely surrounded by trees. Since they are all accomplished riders, they stable several horses on their place.

While Ernie and I were down the hill looking at a couple of the horses, Barbara called us and got our attention. When we went back toward the house, she pointed out one of the horses, Spot, that was gnawing away on a watermelon rind. T.J. came out and told us that Spot has always liked watermelons. She used to bring them out regularly, so much so, that when spot saw her car approaching, he would run to the fence to get his “treat.”
Ladd had to attend some meeting at the civic center tonight, so we all took our leaves and returned to our respective homes for the night. Barbara and I had a lot to do to get ready for tomorrow, so we went back to Big V. When Ladd’s meeting was over, he drove across the lot to visit for an hour or so and get the grand tour of Big V, since he hadn’t seen our “house on wheels.”

Friday, July 4

Happy Birthday America…232 years and going strong!!!

The day promised to be hotter than a firecracker, and before it was over, it delivered on its promise.

We spent the morning unpacking boxes and decorating the new house. Ernie and I continued to try to make sense of the garage. One of our chores was to break down all the boxes that Mother bought for packing. When she moved to Artesia from El Paso several years ago, she said it was her last move, so we ended up getting rid of nearly all the boxes she bought then. Even though she says that this really is her last move, we decided to break the boxes down and stack them in the attic storage “just in case.”

With the inside of the house looking good by noon, we broke for the day so we could come back to Big V to get started on our 4th of July picnic. We had invited the family to the park for the evening to eat grilled hamburgers with all the trimmings (including two big batches of Big Red ice cream) and watch the fireworks display.

By late afternoon there were about 2,500 people in the park. There were several kinds of food concessions, a live band, and displays by various local service clubs, and folks were milling all around the place visiting and having a good time.

Madeline was the first of our guests to show up, but she was soon followed by T.J., Mother, Ernie, and one of T.J.’s, friends. Billee was a little under the weather, so she stayed at the house and kept company with the puppies. Ladd and Angela had told us that they would be late, so we began setting out the food…grilled hamburgers, Puerto Rican potato salad, baked beans, and all the other various and sundry condiments and chips and dips that go along with a special picnic.

We had told Mother that if she got tired we would have the bedroom fixed up so she could take a nap, but again she was a real trouper. When we had finished eating, she even came outside to visit and observe the washer game that we had going between the concrete pads.

The washers were a real hit, with several folks playing (some of whom we still don’t know) and lots of passers-by who either wanted to know what we were doing, or older guys who said they couldn’t remember the last time they “lagged washers.” Teams were formed, disbanded, and re-formed throughout the evening, with a good time being had by all. Soon, Ladd and Angela joined us for the food and fun.

Just before the fireworks started, Barbara started dishing our huge bowls of Big Red ice cream, our favorite. We had made two freezers of it, so there was plenty for all, even though there were several second helpings dished up.

Promptly at 9:00 the fireworks started with a band (actually, several of them), and everyone in the park was treated to a spectacular 25-minute show, sponsored by the Mineola Volunteer Fire Department. Since the displays were set off only a couple of hundred yards to the south of us, we had a clear view of the launching and the impressive overhead displays (not to mention the loud explosions). (Barbara: It didn’t even dawn on me until I sat down to watch the fireworks that I hadn’t taken a picture one! How sad is that?)

When the show was finished, everyone started getting away, but Ladd and Angela stayed around and visited for another hour or so. We’ve never had an opportunity to visit with them at any length, so it was good to just be able to sit around and talk.

Only a month ago our plans for the Fourth of July were set; we would join the traditional Terpening/Francis gathering at Jean’s house for the horseshoe tournament in the afternoon and then go to Jerry and Nancy’s house for a picnic with family and friends. When the picnic was over, we would adjourn to the front lawn and observe the fireworks display from Jaycee Park, a couple of miles away.

All that changed with the sudden house sale and the move, and we missed being in Artesia for the “family” gathering that has come to mean so much to us, but it was also good to be able to spend this evening meeting new friends and getting reacquainted with family members.

It was a great day…a wonderful celebration of friendship, family, and patriotism.

God Bless America!!!

Saturday, July 5

After the work of the week and last night’s activities, it was definitely a “sleep-in” morning. We took our time getting up and around. It was nice to have a leisurely breakfast, check mail, and not be concerned about what furniture needed to be moved or which boxes we would unpack.

We had invited Heather, Andy, and the kids to join us for yesterday’s celebration activities, but they already had plans for the day at their place; instead, they asked if they could come over today for a family get-together. Of course we were more than willing to do that, since it doesn’t really matter what we are celebrating, as long as we can have part of the family together.

So, by mid-morning we began turning a menu into a meal. I got a loaf of homemade bread underway and then we went over to Mother’s house to get the rest of the meal prepared. With so many eating, it was much simpler to use the nice new kitchen for cooking instead of trying to get it all done in the limited confines of Big V.

Barbara fixed her delicious chicken baked in mushroom soup and some baked potatoes, and I cooked up my green beans with bacon and sautéed onions. It didn’t take long until Mother’s house really smelled good.

The kids got to Mineola a little after 1:00, so we had some time before the meal to show off the house and visit before sitting down to eat. It’s been only three months since we saw them, but oh, how they’ve grown. Abby is talking up a storm, and Alexander is growing into a handsome young man…even riding a bicycle now.
Alexander and Abby weren’t too sure about Spike and Bonita (and vice versa), but it didn’t take long for them to adapt to each other.

Around 2:30 we finally had all the food ready, so we gathered around the tables (with a card table for Grams, Gramps, Alexander, and Abby) and dug in to a delicious meal. It had been a long time since our morning oatmeal, and our stomachs were telling us it was chow time!

What a wonderful day it was…after we ate and got the kitchen cleaned up, we sat around and talked some more. Then I went outside to play catch with Alexander. He had brought a couple of Velcro baseball gloves and a cloth ball that we had given him some time back, and Mother’s new front yard was the perfect place to go try them out.

While Alexander and I were playing ball, Grams and Abby were exploring Granny’s yard and looking at the lawn decorations in neighboring yards. And then, when Alexander had almost completely worn me down, Heather came to the rescue and took him out for a bicycle ride around the neighborhood.

All in all, it was a great time of doing something we’ve always dreamed about…visiting with kids and grandkids and bringing the family closer together, and no one had to drive more than two hours!

It was the perfect ending to a wonderful week...we got a lot of good work done (even though there is still a lot left), Mother, Spike, and Bonita are getting settled into the house, if not into a routine (that will have to come later), and we got to enjoy the benefits of being close to more family members. Life is really good!

“If you can’t see the bright side, polish the dull side.” – Church Signs

From another new home, Mineola, Texas,

Jim & Barbara

A Little Move

Sunday, June 22– Monday, June 30, 2008

Sunday, June 22

Happy 50th Anniversary to our friends Bob and Nell in Georgia!

We awoke this morning early to find that the rains from last night and early this morning left the trees all sparkling and clean. With the windows open, we could smell the piney woods and the crisp, fresh air. It was a beautiful start to the day.

Since today is our last Sunday at the J Bar J Country Church, Jim and I decided to really get into the swing of it early and weren’t disappointed with our efforts. The entire service was just great! After church, Jim and I visited with the pastor, Charles Clary, before I roamed around taking photos both inside and outside the church.


Pastor Clary’s story in many ways paralleled with the life of my father. He was a school administrator (Dad an insurance agent) when he felt the call to the ministry. It was very frightening to him since he was the father of three daughters (so was Dad), but he was convinced that it was what he should do. However, he became a pastor of Baptist churches…Dad, of Methodist. As he continued to visit with Jim, I set out to capture at least an essence of the church we came to depend upon so much.

While waiting on Jim to finish visiting with Charles, I was entertaining myself with taking pictures of the plant and insect life around the church.

Monday, June 23

Carol and Cal came up today for one last visit. It has been so awesome to see them weekly, sometimes even twice a week. For this reason, it’s even harder for us to give up our mountain living. Eventually, it was time to bid each other farewell since it will be at least 4 months before we’re back in New Mexico. With good-byes hanging rather heavily, Jim and I began the process of getting Big V ready to move back down to the flatlands of Artesia and the Pecos Valley.

Tuesday, June 24

With Jim in Big V and me behind the wheel of the Vibe, we got an early start for Artesia where we’ll begin the finally stages of preparing Edith’s home to move out of on the 30th. After arriving home safely and getting our house in order of sorts, we headed over to Edith’s to visit with the family and catch up on any last minute changes.

Wednesday, June 25

We had another one last time moment when we had lunch with Jean and Susie at Chaos. (Jerry, Nancy, and Becky are on their way home from her brother-in-law’s funeral.)

Since there are only so many ways one can say “we packed boxes”, I just won’t even try.

Thursday, June 26

Rain! It hasn’t rained in forever and now that we’re leaving Artesia a monsoon seems to be coming!

Jim used his time in the afternoon to begin switching trailers around in the boat barn. With three different trailers and a motorcycle in the barn, we take up one full bay with our “toys.” His work was to pull out the car hauler (which has our medium sized trailer on top), get the medium trailer off the car hauler and put it back in the barn, and then make sure that the car hauler is ready to load the Vibe and the motorcycle when the time comes. It isn’t really complicated, but it does take time and patience; add in a generous of hot sunshine and higher than usual humidity, and it becomes quite a chore. I helped with shuffling boxes around and assisting Jim in getting the motorcycle cargo trailer loaded on the medium trailer so we wouldn’t be taking up so much floor space.

Friday, June 27

Once again, rain and packing…all of you who have moved, whether across town or across the country, know that certain things can only be done at the last minute, and the last minute is quickly approaching.

Saturday, June 28

Today was a grandbaby shower over in Hobbs for Susie; so Jim and I rode over there with Jean and Becky.

The shower was held at the Kountry Korner, a really unique tea room and gift shop. Before the usual shower activities, we “girls” had fun trying on hats and posing for photo op sessions!

After the shower, it was over to Susie and James’s to meet up with the guys who spent the day bonding and relaxing.

Before, and while the hamburgers were cooking, Jim, Jerry, and James (the 3 J’s) partnered up to play Trivial Pursuit against Becky, Gina, Joyce, Susie, and Nancy. Much to the guys chagrin, they lost after a hard, valiant fight…According to Jim, the 3 J’s made a great run at the end, but just couldn’t overcome!

Our decision that it was time to head home came about the same time that another storm rolled in which meant that we were accompanied home by rain, but not so much that it was a worry.

Therefore, we were totally unprepared for what we found when we arrived back in Artesia. The streets were flooded and water was rushing over the curbs and through the low spots. Obviously, we missed the worst of the storm. Rain continued to fall throughout the night giving the ground a real soaking!

Sunday, June 29

Jim’s middle brother Jerry and his wife Jane came over from Roswell to visit with Edith. With all the moving activities going on, lunch was prepared by KFC.
After saying farewell to everyone, Jim and I ventured out the mud swamps to see about getting Big V moved in case it rained some more.

Since we have the concrete pad for Big V to sit on, we weren’t mired in the mud; but, once we leave the pad, we have about 20 feet of mud to wade through before getting to the graveled drive in front of the boat barn. We were pleasantly surprised to find that not only were we able to get out without destroying Jean’s property too much, but we were also still able to plug into the electricity for the night.

Ernie and Billee came out so Ernie could help Jim get the motorcycle and the Vibe loaded on the car hauler. They hooked the trailer onto Little Red for stability and then got both vehicles loaded and secured. Billee and I watched from the living room windows of Big V and gave verbal encouragement while the guys made sure everything was set.

While Jim did the hundreds of the moving chores that have to be done, I finished making the chicken salad, cookies, tortilla rolls, and other sundry snacks for all of us to take on our trips tomorrow. Billee and Ernie will be leaving with the puppies early in the morning while Edith, Jim and I will oversee the moving of Edith’s belongings.

Monday, June 30

Jim: Moving Day!!!

We got up early and headed on over to the house at 8:00…got there just in time to watch the moving crew start doing their thing. We were totally impressed with how well the crew worked together and the concern they showed about packing and loading all of Mother’s things. They were like a well-oiled machine.

While the movers were organizing the stacks and taking things out to the truck, we packed the “final last minute” items and got them ready to load. As the rooms began to clear out, we fired up the carpet sweeper and moved from room-to-room to do some last minute cleaning before we vacated the place.

When the crew took their lunch break, we ate some sandwiches that Barbara had made, and then I took Mother out to Big V so she and I could take a nap while Barbara stayed at the house. Since our plan was to leave Artesia as soon as the truck was loaded I needed some sleep so we could get as far down the road as possible.

Barbara called about 2:30 to say that the crew was about an hour away from being finished, so I got up and began closing Big V and getting it ready to hook up the trailer and get back to the house.

Ironically, we pulled out of Artesia at nearly the same time as we pulled away from Liberal two years ago today to begin our retirement. As we did then, we drove until dark and stopped at a rest area to spend the night…this time along I-20, about 20 miles east of Big Spring, Texas. Again ironically, this rest area was the same place from which we sent our first emails that eventually became our journal series. History really does have a [sometimes] funny way of repeating itself!

“God will direct your footsteps, but you must be willing to pick up your feet.” – Church Signs

On the move from Artesia, New Mexico, to Mineola, Texas…Jim & Barbara

POSTSCRIPT

It’s hard to believe, but this journal entry marks the end of not only another six months of our writing (some might call it rambling), but also the end of two full years of retirement. As we wrote earlier in this entry, it’s somewhat ironic that a major phase of our retirement plans, moving from Liberal, Kansas, to Artesia, New Mexico to be close to Mother, should come on the anniversary of a new phase, moving Mother to Mineola, Texas, to begin a new phase of her life. It can’t be easy, at age 85, to start all over again, but she is being a real trouper about it. Like so many of us, she said when she left there 75 years ago that she’d never move back; but like so many of us, that was then and this is now, and here we are.

While the planning and preparation for this move have taken up a large part of these six months, they certainly haven’t been the total focus.

Since the dawning of 2008 we have shared in countless celebrations of events relating to our family members, both blood and “adopted.” Having time and opportunity to share birthdays, anniversaries, and other special occasions has been a very real blessing of retirement.

While we didn’t attend any weddings during the last six months, we did receive with great joy the news that son Mike proposed to Kelly and that they will be married in Virginia in October…what a wonderful blessing it has been to be able to watch those two young people as they moved toward this stage of their lives.

In our travels we have been able to visit four of the children and four of the grandchildren, connect with old friends, and develop new friends. In March, we even got to fly to Puerto Rico to visit with Margarita, Maria, and Francisco, acquaintances from our teaching days in Liberal. By the time the visit was over, we were far more than friends, they became, in almost every sense of the word, our Puerto Rican family.

During May we experienced overwhelming grief when we learned that our expected grandson, Jameson Dudley McQuitty, had died and was later stillborn when we were in Liberal with Leah and Ryan. The outpouring of love and friendship from countless friends and family helped us through that very difficult time. We were so very grateful for the food, flowers, hugs, and other expressions of sympathy and support that we received through that time. The Lord has truly provided us with the richness of a beautiful extended family.

And how about all that time on the road?...It seems, in review, that we didn’t travel quite as much in the last three months, but a look at our mileage chart shows that we still covered a lot of miles along the way. Totals since April 1 included Big V – 1,892, the Vibe - 4,508, and the Voyager (motorcycle) – 613, for a grand total of 7,013.

For those who like to read the larger numbers, mileage totals since January 1 of this year included Big V – 1,902, the Vibe – 9,720, and the Voyager, 763, for a grand total of 12,385 (just have to get to work bringing the cycle mileage up). Add in 6,000+ air miles for the flights between Houston, Texas, and San Juan, Puerto Rico, and we’ve covered a little over 18,000 miles in six months (slightly more than a football season’s worth of band bus miles in Liberal).

We thank each of you for your prayers, praises, expressions of concern, and encouragement during all of these days, weeks, months, and miles. It has been a pleasure to hear from you as we open up the pages of our lives to you each week…thanks for traveling with us.

Love and best wishes to each of you…Jim and Barbara

A Little Misunderstanding

Sunday, June 15– Saturday, June 21, 2008

Sunday, June 15

Happy Father’s Day to all Fathers! (and yes, Ryan, that means you, too!)


With eagerness in our steps today, we journeyed up the road a bit to the J Bar J Country Church. What a place! It was extremely packed this morning even though we arrived early to join in the singing; but, fortunately, we found two empty seats. By the time church started for real, there were only 5 empty seats. No wonder they can hardly wait until their big red barn of a church is ready for occupation!

A couple of things we didn’t mention last week that impacted us greatly though we just had to be there in spirit, not physically…

First, we received word on Friday, the 6th, that Juanita, brother-in-law Tom’s mother, had passed away. Juanita had been in ill health for quite a few years and confined to bed; so the news came as a blessing, but not without its grief. The services for her were on Tuesday, the 10th, in Slaton, TX, but we were not able to attend. However, our thoughts and prayers were with the family at this time.

Then on the 11th, we received an email telling us that Dick Conklin in Lady Lake, FL, was killed in an automobile accident. When Jim and I were helping to build the church in Lady Lake, we parked Big V next to Dick’s and Dottie’s home in Weirsdale.

Early Friday morning the 13th we received an email from our friends, Margarita, Maria, and Francisco in Puerto Rico informing us that while brother George and his family were visiting them prior to their planned trip to Spain, George's wife, Evelyn, who was six months pregnant was taken to the hospital. Not only was the family letting us know, they were asking for our prayers.

Monday, June 16

Early this morning, we received another email from Margarita to tell us that the doctors found that on Friday Evelyn and George's unborn baby girl was stillborn. Evelyn, like our Leah only a month earlier, still had to go through the delivery process.

Little Stephanie Marie's services will be tomorrow at 11:00 Puerto Rico time. Our hearts are broken for this beautiful and caring family who had "adopted" us. Margarita and Maria had been such a strength to us when we went through Jameson's death, giving us beautiful words of encouragement and shoring up our stunned faith.

Now, it was our turn to share of our experiences and try to bring comfort to someone in similar circumstances. Of course, our hearts and prayers went out to them, and we have exchanged several emails trying to keep up with what was happening.

Eventually, there was no doubt that we could no longer hide from the mound of dirty clothes these two people, who don’t seem to do much of anything, had to take care of! So…after messing around half of the day on the computer, straightening the house, etc., we donned our bathing suits and headed to the laundry and the pool. Some combination, huh? Why waste time while the washing and drying of clothes was taking place? We spent the next several hours alternating between the laundry room and the pool which, let’s face it; if you have to spend time doing laundry, soaking up the sun helps ease the pain!

The rest of the day was as exciting as the above mentioned activity!

Tuesday, June 17

Happy Birthday, Amanda, in Knox City

Since brother-in-law Cal has a doctor appointment in Alamogordo tomorrow, Carol called to say they were at the Travel Center. Once we got our act together, we met them there for an hour before we started what I call the Ride to Heck!

Keep in mind that here in Ruidoso; the highs are in the 80’s which makes riding the cycle a joy. However, the scheduled trip for today was the Three Rivers Petroglyphs site about 23 miles north of Tularosa. And, the trip started well until we left Mescalero, NM, and started into the flatlands. Then the heat just poured all around us…

When I mentioned how hot it was, Jim wanted to know if we should turn around…well, wrong thing to ask me! Now, this is a woman thing, I know…but I wasn’t about to be the one who called it quits, I expected him to decide that on his own. But, he did the man thing…didn’t read my mind…and, therefore, continued on our journey with my temper boiling inside as rapidly as the temperature rose outside! I kept asking myself, “Who in their right mind can think this is fun????”

Jim: There’s a book out there somewhere called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It points out some of the essential differences between men and women. I guess I was in my Martian mode today, and science fiction notwithstanding, Martians ARE lousy mind-readers. I pointed out that “do what you want” and “whatever” must have different meanings in male-ese than they do in female-ese, and that was the root of the problem. Yes, tempers were pretty hot for a while, but, along with cooler temperatures in the mountains came cooler heads, and we were soon able to laugh (ok, maybe smile a bit) about the day’s adventures.

One good thing that occurred was that Barbara did have a hot opportunity to snap the below photos of the shimmering sands of White Sands in the far distance once we left Mescalero.


Barbara: Finally, we did arrive at Three Rivers Trading Post with no more damage than my burnt calves and the rising temperature…I quickly went into the restroom and stuck my head under the faucet to cool everything down and was then ready to find those petroglyphs!

Jim:
The petroglyphs site is about 4 ½ miles east of the trading post and U.S. 54.

We had asked the manager of the trading post if the road was paved (important information for motorcyclists) and she assured us it was. What she didn’t tell us was that the turnoff and the roads into and throughout the site (managed by the U.S. Bureau of Land Management) were gravel, not a cycle-friendly surface.

Luckily, I was able to maneuver the Voyager through the dirt and gravel to a parking place outside the main office.

We were soon greeted by one of the caretakers who told us that he (also a biker) had been trying to get “them” to do something about the parking lot because of all the motorcyclists who came to the area, but so far he hadn’t had any luck.

After showing him our National Parks Senior Pass and signing in, we got a map and description of the site and headed down the one-half mile trail. We had our water bottle with us, but the signs stating, “Rattlesnakes are common in this area and have been found in the boundaries of the petroglyph and village sites. Stay alert and watch your children and pets,” caused us to look around a little more carefully. I told Barbara that no self-respecting rattlesnake would be out in this kind of heat, but she didn’t think that was funny. (I still hadn’t found my sense of humor! Barbara)

The Three Rivers Petroglyphs are outstanding examples of prehistoric Jornada Mogollon rock art. The basaltic ridges rising above the Three Rivers Valley contains over 21,000 petroglyphs, including masks, sunbursts, wildlife, hand prints, and geometric designs. The number and concentration of petroglyphs here makes this one of the largest and most interesting rock art sites in the Southwest.

Some of the petroglyphs were made expediently by simply scratching through the patina to the light inner layer of the rock. Others were painstakingly created by pecking through the patina with two rocks used like a hammer and chisel.

The petroglyphs of Three Rivers were made at a time of great social and lifestyle changes for the Jornada Mogollon people. It is assumed that early hunters and gatherers in the area practiced an animalistic religion, worshiping nature. As their population increased, they settled into villages. Their rock art seems to reflect a strong supernatural and religious connection to their environment.

We walked up the hill and along the path to the sites, stopping at some of the rocks to take pictures. Due to the heat (probably around 106 degrees), Barbara soon returned to the canopy area to seek some shade and wet down her shirt (a trick sister Nancy had taught her, thanks Nancy!), while I continued up the path to try to get a few more pictures. It was miserably hot, but I knew that there was little chance that we would return to this area, since our travels don’t bring us through here anymore.

When I was through taking pictures, I carefully made my way back down the path toward the parking lot, where I took a short break before getting back on the Voyager and guiding it to a spot in the road that was safe enough to put down the kickstand and let Barbara remount.

After a short stop at the trading post for water and a dreamsicle (and Barbara to go into the ladies room to douse/drench her shirt and pants with water), we once again climbed aboard the Voyager and headed south to Tularosa and U.S. 70, and then north to Ruidoso.

Now, we’ve made the journey from Ruidoso to Tularosa, Alamogordo, and El Paso many times, always marveling at the scenery along the way, but never taking time to get photographs of some of the sites that seem to jump out at us. Today, Barbara kept the camera handy to attempt shots of a couple of unique sights. (My sense of adventure had returned since my wet clothes made an effecient type of air conditioning for the cycle ride! Barbara)

The first view along the way was Round Mountain, a towering 1000-foot high hill that has a 20-foot tall cross tethered to the rocks with guy wire at its peak. It is not at all unusual to see crosses on the tops of hills throughout New Mexico, most the sites of religious pilgrimages. However, the cross at the top of Round Mountain was placed there by a Tularosa religious order in remembrance of those who fought at the Battle of Round Mountain in 1868, the last in a series of vicious attacks by the Apaches against the invading Hispanics who were driven up into the foothills from the Mesilla Valley when the flooding Rio Grande River washed out their crops.

In the battle, a sergeant and five troopers from Fort Stanton managed to stave off an attack by nearly two hundred fierce Apache warriors led by legendary war chiefs, San Juan and Cadette, until 26 armed citizens from Tularosa arrived by horseback and joined the fray. Having lost their advantage to superior arms fire, the Apaches retreated, never to invade Tularosa again.

In memory of the brave men from Tularosa who joined the battle, the cross was erected at the top of the mountain in 1957 by a religious order known as Los Caballeros de la Santa Corona. A plaque at the base of the mountain contains the names of the 26 citizens and lawmen who fought there.

The next picture was to be of a beautiful stone Catholic church in Mescalero. We’ve seen the church countless times and have remarked that we wanted a picture of it those same countless times.

Today we were ready…as we approached the church, I moved to the outside lane of the highway and slowed down as much as I possibly could. Barbara sat on the back seat, armed with our trusty Sony digital camera, just waiting for the perfect moment. We’ve both done this a kazillion times, but today it just didn’t work. For some reason, probably the gathering clouds above us, the shutter delayed and we missed both the optimum shot and another that would have been ok.

Since it was too tricky to make a u-turn in the highway and come back for a better shot, we decided that this just wasn’t the day, and that we’d have to make another trip down the mountain to get this picture.

So, we resumed our highway speed and continued our trip back up the mountain to Ruidoso. As we got closer to the village, I told Barbara to be ready to get some shots of Sierra Blanca Mountain, as it would swing into view around one of the sweeping curves on this modern 4-lane stretch of U.S. 70.

Sure enough, the big mountain, which looks different every time we see it, soon appeared, first ahead and to our left, and then right in front of us. It’s a beautiful sight, and well worth the effort to capture the image.

We got back to Big V in time to rest and relax a bit before going to the regular Tuesday night service at the J Bar J Country Church.

As usual, we thoroughly enjoyed the song service, the preaching, and the covered dish supper. Since this was our second visit, we brought our contribution, a large dish of my green beans. I made what I thought was enough that we would bring some home for tomorrow’s meal, but there was nothing but a little juice left when I went to pick up the dish…so much for leftovers!

One of the highlights of the evening was talking with some first-time visitors, a couple from Switzerland. Actually, Patsy is originally from Snyder, Texas, but Gary is a Swiss chef.

We also got a chance to ask the pastor, Charles Clary, how they came up with the name of the church. He told us that it was pretty simple. The current church building was for many years the J Bar J western wear store. When the building was sold to the church, the church board asked if they could keep the name, mainly for the recognition factor. He told us though that now they say that since “bar” in Aramaic means “son of,” J Bar J now means Jesus, Son of, Jehovah…pretty neat, huh!

Tonight we received an email from Margarita telling us of Stephanie Marie's funeral and sharing the depth of her faith when she said that now Jameson and Stephanie Marie were two angels in Heaven, laughing and playing, and serving as our guardian angels. Even while we attempted to bring comfort to them, Margarita found a way to increase our faith and strength.

Wednesday, June 18

After yesterday’s cycle adventure, we were “plumb tuckered out.”

Our original plan for the day was to take a motorcycle through the back country of the Mescalero Apache reservation to Cloudcroft and Sacramento, a trip that we’ve discussed many times. However, neither of us felt much like climbing back on the cycle again, so we left it covered and took advantage of the day to take care of some paperwork that’s been piling up.

It was a great day to just rest, relax, and take advantage of the relatively cool weather here in the mountains.

Thursday, June 19

Another day of hanging around and taking it easy. We spent much of the day exchanging emails and telephone calls with family members to try to figure out how we are going to handle the final details of getting Mother’s house closed out and moving her to Mineola, Texas. We now know for sure that the mover’s will be at the house on June 30 to load, and will deliver to the new house in Mineola on July 2.

While this information meant that we would have to cancel our part of the traditional Fourth of July celebration at Jean’s house with the Terpening/Francis, we drew some comfort in knowing that we finally have a plan for the move.

Barbara fired off some emails to an RV park in Mineola, one that we stayed in on our very first trip in Big V, and made reservations for the month of July. We’ll just stay down there to help Mother get her new house set up and to maybe take a few side trips around the area.

We also decided that we need to get the motorcycle back to Artesia as soon as possible so we can get back up here and move the Vibe and Big V back down next week. We’ll just cut our stay up here short in order to have the time to refit Big V and do the thousand and one other chores that have to be finished before we can take off for a long time.

Friday, June 20

This was another travel day. We got up early and left Ruidoso around 8:00 a.m. I rode the cycle back to Artesia and Barbara drove the Vibe. While in Artesia, we stopped by Wal-Mart so Barbara could get her hair cut, then picked up mail that Jean was holding for us at the funeral home. From there, we went over to Mother’s house where we washed a couple of loads of clothes while we chowed down on hamburgers and fries while we discussed the details of moving day.

After a fun and informative visit at Mother’s house, we drove back to the funeral home to share our new-found information with Jean and Jerry and then crawled back in the car for our two-hour trip back to Ruidoso.

On the way back we noticed great clouds of smoke rising from behind some of the mountains. Jean had told us that a forest fire had started last night, but we hadn’t heard anything about it. Sure enough, several large plumes of smoke were billowing above the mountain tops, and the air around the little village of Picacho was yellow. (In the photo the smoke looks rather pink and white.)


We met several fire trucks as we were coming up toward the mountains…don’t know if they had finished their jobs or were just having to shut down for the day.

We were really pleased to run into rain as we got into Ruidoso, and enjoyed the sound of rain hitting the roof of Big V during the evening.

Saturday, June 21

It was just another day of making like flatland tourists in the mountains. We went up to the Inn for a bit and then came back down to the travel center where I stuffed myself with their fantastic Huevos Rancheros while Barbara had bacon, sausage, eggs, hash browns, and pancakes.

We received a phone call from Nancy Terpening telling us that her brother-in-law Ron has passed away and that she is on the way to Kauffman to be with her sister. Once again, our thoughts and prayers accompany Nancy and her family at this time.

We also received an email with a photo of Brandi's daughters Eva, who was 3 in April and Keylin, who was 7 in May. My sister Nancy, the grandmother, wrote, in part, "Of course I’m not braggin’ or too proud – but aren’t they just too cute???" We definitely agree with her...they are real cuties!

Tonight…stay inside and listen to the rain (and occasional hail).

“Happiness is in the heart, not in the circumstances.” – Church Signs

Finishing our time in Ruidoso…Jim & Barbara

A Little Cycle Time

Sunday, June 8– Saturday, June 14, 2008

Sunday, June 8

Happy Anniversary to son John and wife Carol in San Antonio!

With a recommendation from the RV park office, Jim and I set out to go to J Bar J Country Church this morning. We really didn’t know what to expect, but we were absolutely thrilled with what we found.

As we arrived 15 minutes early, we found the congregation singing old country hymns with an accompanying country band. We quickly signed in, found seats, and added our voices to the crowd. What an uplifting experience. We sang songs from our youth that churches today ignore and we sang all the verses without missing a beat. Believe me when I say, the band does not slow down…no dragging of the tunes, that’s for sure!

Promptly at 10:00 the service began with 6 more favorite hymns out of the Heavenly Highway Hymnal. (Isn’t that a cool name?) This was certainly what our souls needed this day. The assistant pastor delivered the morning message on Progressive Christianity stressing the fact that we never know what God can do. But, it all starts with fervent prayer which includes 1) the intensity of asking 2) the integrity of asking and 3) the immensity of the answer. It was certainly a powerful message that hit home for Jim and me.

Back at home in the RV park, we fixed a quick bite to eat and headed for the bed. It was nap time!

That night Jim was glued to the television to watch the Celtics take on the Lakers while I messed around on the computer. With a win in the making, I headed on to bed letting Jim root Boston on.

Monday, June 9

We had decided that today we needed to go back to Artesia to help pack up some more of Edith’s belongings and that we’d just spend the night with Jean since I also needed to finish up some grandbaby shower invitations for Susie. Also, the motorcycle is ready so on the way back, we’ll pick it up.

However, before leaving in the Vibe, we met up with sister Carol and husband Cal at the Travel Center. It has been really cool to get to see Carol and Cal so much lately! There are some real benefits to this life of retirement. Though Cal still has many difficulties, he is able to get around some and enjoy life.

Once in Artesia, we spent 3 hours boxing up kitchenware that they didn’t need and I washed our laundry at the same time. Nothing like killing 2 birds with one stone! (We didn’t even have to pack this time…clean clothes would suffice!)

Suppertime found us eating with the Terpening clan at Chapz, a restaurant that Jim and I had not gone to before. We all enjoyed some really delicious Mexican food and good company.

Tuesday, June 10

After leaving Jean’s and Edith’s, Jim and I pointed the car towards Roswell where he would hop on the retuned, re-tired cycle and ride it to Ruidoso with me following in the Vibe. Fortunately, we left the flatlands before the heat rose above 98 so Jim didn’t have too tough of a ride.

Once home, after unloading and putting everything away, we preceded to head for the hills on the cycle. It has been way too long since we’ve just gotten to ride for the fun of it.

At 5:50, we arrived at J Bar J Country Church for the Tuesday night service which included a pot luck dinner. Without going into great detail again, I’ll just say that once again we found ourselves thrilled with the service. During the praise and prayer time, Jim’s phone went off…oops! He slipped outside to check and found a message from Heather. What an answered prayer! She has landed a job as the Director of College Counseling in a small private school in the Dallas area which means that they will not have to move! Thank you, God, for answered prayers! For us, this meant that we can continue to see them when we go to Mineola to see Edith (once we get her moved!).

We finished up with church services around 8:15 and returned home where we spent the rest of the night visiting with our kids, friends, and family on the net and phone as we kept track of the Celtics and Lakers game on TV.

Wednesday, June 11

Boo…hiss! Our first full day to have the cycle and the wind was forecast to begin around 9:00 or 10:00. Gusts were expected (and delivered) to be in the 50 MPH range.

Therefore, we hit the trails of the upper canyon this morning before going to the Inn for breakfast.

We chose the upper canyon route since the boys and I spent many summers when they were young staying at the Dan Dee Cabins (top right photo)

Then it was home to cover the cycle and hunker down for the rest of the day.

However, I spent my time wisely…planning tomorrow’s cycle ride since it’s supposed to be a beautiful day.

Thursday, June 12

Happy Anniversary to Susie and James in Hobbs.

Jim: When we looked at the Ruidoso guide that we received when we checked in here at Twin Spruce, we found that the Spencer Theater offers free tours of the facility each Tuesday and Thursday morning at 10:00. Since we had barely even heard of the Spencer Theater, and we didn’t have anything pressing on the agenda except riding the cycle, we decided we’d ride up there to see what it was all about.

What we found, after about a twenty mile ride through the countryside, was truly a “jewel on the mesa.” The Spencer Theater for the Performing Arts, a vision by Jackie Spencer, is a 50,000 square foot complex that houses a 5,000 square foot stage and a 514-seat theater area.

Designed by architect Antoine Predock, the facility silhouettes Sierra Blanca, a 12,003-foot glacial peak that hovers in the distance. Rising seven stories in height, the facility is encased in 440 tons of sparkling white limestone that was quarried in Spain and cut in Italy before being shipped to New Mexico.

The Crystal Lobby, a steel and glass lobby area, features 300 panels of 1-inch thick glass, with no two panels being the same shape or size. It took seven months just to develop the computer generation of the lobby.
Because of my previous life, I was particularly interested in the backstage area, where I found that in addition to ample shop, storage and dressing areas, the fly space contains 95 battens (for “flying” sets, curtains, etc.), with nearly 5 ½ miles of counter-balanced steel cable.

Within the lobby and other parts of the building are nearly three million dollars worth of permanent glass art, commissioned by Mrs. Spencer from Dale Chihuly, the world’s foremost glass artist. Works include blown-glass representations of Indian Paint Brush, a Persian Wall, and the Glowing Sunset Tower that graces the entry way.

Headline performers for the 2008 summer season include The Smothers Brothers, Chuck Mangione, Pam Tillis, The Fab Four, Esteban, and Kathy Mattea.

More information about the Spencer Theater can be found at http://www.spencertheater.com/.

After our two-hour tour of the Spencer, we climbed back on the Voyager and wheeled off down the highway to historic Fort Stanton, one of seven United States Army forts that were established following the conclusion of the 1848 war with Mexico. The mission of the army presence in the New Mexico Territory included subduing Indian tribes, protecting settlers, promoting commerce, and confronting the invading Confederate forces during the Civil War. In 1861 the fort was abandoned to Confederate soldiers. Retreating Union troops attempted to set fire to the fort, but rain extinguished the blaze. In the ensuing months, Mexican, Indian, and Anglo settlers cannibalized the fort for supplies.

One of Fort Stanton’s most colorful and famous commanders was General Black Jack Pershing, who served two tours as commander of the fort. Billy the Kid was incarcerated at the fort during the early 1880’s, and the territorial governor, Lew Wallace, is believed to have written part of his epic novel Ben Hur while staying at the fort.
In 1899 the fort transitioned from a military fort to a Merchant Marine Federal Tuberculosis hospital. It later became a state medical facility and hospital in 1953. During World War II, it housed a large contingent of German prisoners of war.

Currently, Fort Stanton is property of the state of New Mexico and is part of the state’s prison system, housing first-time non-violent alcohol and drug offenders. Because of its status, only a couple of buildings are open to visitors. The visitor center and museum houses a small but very interesting assortment of memorabilia from throughout the fort’s history.
More information about Fort Stanton is available at its website: http://www.fortstanton.com/.

From Fort Stanton we rode on down NM 220 to U.S. 380, where we turned west toward the village of Capitan, where we found the Smokey the Bear Museum and Visitor Center.
On May 4, 1950, a carelessly discarded cigarette started the Los Tablos blaze in the Lincoln National Forest. On May 6, a second fire, known as the Capitan Gap fire, started in the same general area. Together the two fires destroyed 17,000 acres of forest and grasslands.

On May 8, a 70 mile per hour wind made it impossible to control the blaze. On that day, nineteen men were trapped in a rock slide while the raging fire blazed around them. They all survived, but later expressed the opinion that they knew “just how a slice of toast feels.”

On May 9, a fire crew brought a badly singed bear cub into their fire camp. They had found the frightened cub clinging tenaciously to the side of a burnt pine tree. Badly burned about his buttocks and feet, he was given the name “Hotfoot.”

In 1944 the U.S. Forest Service and the Advertising Council created and authorized the use of a poster by artist Albert Staehle, depicting a character named “Smokey Bear.” With the discovery of “Hotfoot,” soon to be renamed “Smokey,” a real Smokey Bear came into being, and the popularity of the fire prevention campaign grew so great that in 1952 Congress passed a bill into law governing the commercialization of the name and image of Smokey Bear. Due to the vast amount of mail that Smokey received from school children and fans around the world, he was given his own zip code.

Upon his death in 1976, Smokey’s body was returned to his beautiful Capitan Mountains. He now rests in peace in Capitan, buried in a small park that bears his name.

For more about Capitan and Smokey Bear, visit http://www.villageofcapitan.com/.

All the touring and learning, plus the altitude of the ride, just served to make us hungry, so when we located Emily’s Southern Accent at the east end of Capitan, we decided we’d sample some of the local fare. Boy, were we glad we did! The restaurant was very nice and unpretentious, but the food was delicious and the service and attention by the wait staff was wonderful. We looked over the menu, but both decided we’d go with the daily special, chicken fried steak with mashed potatoes, gravy, salad, cottage cheese and peach cup, and for dessert, we split a platter of homemade blackberry cobbler…yum yum!!! When we finished, I told Barbara she might just have to drive the cycle home while I sat on the back to take a nap!

Obviously, that wasn’t going to happen, so we took our customary seating assignments and rode back up NM 48 to Ruidoso, where we decided that it was time to take a break from all that learning and just rest a bit.

Tonight…Watch the Celtics make a historic run to come from behind and defeat the L.A. Kobies (oops, I mean the Lakers) in game 4 of the championship series.

I mentioned that Chihuly designed some glass art for the Spencer Theater to represent the Indian Paint Brush plant. Learning that, Barbara and I began to notice these plants all around.

Here’s a photo of each.
Friday, June 13

Our original plan yesterday called for us to visit historic Lincoln, a small village tucked away in a beautiful mountain valley about 35 miles northeast of Ruidoso and just eight miles from Fort Stanton. However, we never made it there so that’s where we headed this morning.
After Fort Stanton was established and the area hostilities ceased, a community of seven or eight families and a large number of single men comprised the village of La Placita. The village grew steadily, and in 1869 was renamed Lincoln in memory of President Abraham Lincoln. It also declared itself to be the seat of Lincoln County, at that time the largest county in the United States.

Lincoln is considered by many historians to be the most authentic of the old west towns remaining in the U.S. Its story brings with it the dubious honor of having been the most violent town in western American history. In fact, President Rutherford Hayes once called the single road leading through Lincoln “the most dangerous street in America.”

The cast of characters during the infamous Lincoln County War (1878-1881) included Billy the Kid (William Bonney), Pat Garrett, John Chisum, L.G. Murphy, John Tunstall, and many others who were caught up in a capitalistic struggle between two entities who were competing for the lucrative government contracts at Fort Stanton and the Mescalero Agency.

Now just a sleepy village with a handful of permanent residents, Lincoln is primarily a weekend tourist attraction. Various historic buildings, sites, and other areas of the village are well-marked, and tours of some of the main buildings are available.

Scenes from Lincoln, NM....
Of particular interest was the wooden shed pictured at left center. This was a Tuberculosis shed where patients were kept in quarantine to keep them away from other villagers. Because of the dry climate in New Mexico, many people with the dreaded disease came out here seeking a cure from “consumption.”

From Lincoln, we returned to Ruidoso by way of Capitan and NM 48, the same road we traveled yesterday. After a brief stop at the Inn of the Mountain Gods, we decided to leave the area to the weekend tourists who were piling into town for the horse races at Ruidoso Downs and all the local tourist attractions, and we returned to Twin Spruce and Big V to settle in for the evening.

Saturday, June 14


Today was just a “take it easy” day for us. With all the weekend traffic in the area, we voted to not even uncover the motorcycle for a ride. Between reading and taking naps, we managed to use up most of the day, and eventually made it to Wal-Mart during the evening to buy some groceries and replenish some supplies.

“Give your troubles to God. He’ll be up all night anyway.” – Anonymous

From the v-e-r-y dry cool pines of Ruidoso,

Jim & Barbara







A Little Time Away

Sunday, June 1 – Saturday, June 7, 2008

Sunday, June 1


It was a hot morning to start out the day, with predictions of temperatures well above 100 degrees by afternoon. Since we had made arrangements to get the motorcycle to the shop in Roswell today, we decided that we’d leave relatively early to get on up there, drop the cycle off, and do some shopping before it got too hot and windy back in Artesia.

We got away from the house around 11:00. I headed on up the highway on the Voyager while Barbara followed in the Vibe. (Both of us listening to Artesia 1st Methodist on the radio) It didn’t take too long to get the work order done up on the cycle, but it did take a little while for them to discover that they didn’t have the right size rear tire in stock. They told me it would have to be ordered on Monday and that it would take about ten days to get it in. I told them to just keep it there until everything was done (nothing too serious…just the routine 20,000 mile checkup and maintenance procedures), and to call me if they found anything else that needed attention.

After leaving the cycle shop, we drove across town to Sam’s Club to try to find a memory-foam mattress topper for the main bed in Big V. When we stayed with Gary and Joyce in Houston, we slept on a bed that had that topper, and we thought it would be well worth the money to get one for ourselves.

It didn’t take long to find the merchandise we wanted, but as we started to check out, we decided we’d take another page from the Gary and Joyce playbook and walk around the store to see what kinds of food samples they were offering. When we visited Gary and Joyce in Maryland once upon a time, they took us out to Sam’s on a Sunday and we walked around testing all the different kinds of food. Well, the store in Roswell had a really good selection of samples, so we took time to “savor the moment” as it was, and enjoyed several new taste treats.

Once we were checked out, and had wrestled the topper box into the car, we drove back to Artesia and Big V. We didn’t know that it would take three or four graduate degrees to figure out how to get the topper unfolded and placed flat on the bed, but we eventually got there after much discussion and sweating. Since the topper had to lie flat on the mattress for at least 24 hours so it could expand to its proper size and shape, we went ahead and opened up the sleeper-sofa in the living room and made it up for the night.

While we were doing all this work (in 90-plus degree temperatures inside), we decided that we needed to move Big V to a cooler climate. Temperatures for Artesia were predicted to range from 103 to 108 over the next two weeks, and our air conditioner just can’t keep up with that sort of thing.

So, we turned to the internet to get some information about an RV park that we had stayed in previously up in Ruidoso. Fortunately, we were able to reserve a space for several nights, so we then turned to making all the plans for closing up and moving Big V tomorrow.

Meanwhile, we took Jean up on an earlier invitation to join the group over at her house for supper tonight. She wanted to try her hand at grilling chicken on her new outdoor cooker, and since Susie was spending the night with her while James was on a business trip, we just turned it all into a family dinner. We had prepared potato salad the way Margarita and Maria taught us when we were in Puerto Rico, and others contributed their own dishes. As usual, it was wonderful to join in the conversation and great food with everyone.

After eating, we decided we had better call it a day so we could finish the preparations for tomorrow’s travel, so we said our goodbyes and returned to Big V.

Monday, June 2

Happy Birthday to Zeke in Knox City!

We took our time moving around this morning, checking and double-checking to make sure we had everything we needed for a few days away from Artesia, and to be sure that Big V was properly buttoned down for travel.

Before leaving, we went over to Jean’s to say goodbye to Susie and her and to ask if Jean would keep up with our mail while we were gone. Then, it was off to Wal-Mart to gas up both Big V and the Vibe (luckily, neither tank was so low that we suffered severe price-shock). Then, leaving Big V in the Wal-Mart parking lot for a bit, we drove the Vibe over to Mother’s house to check in with everyone there and let them know where we would be for a few days.

While we were talking, we asked if Mother had received any counter-offers on her house from the lady who had been talking to the realtor about it. She said that they hadn’t, but there was always the chance that there might be something in the works. Barbara jokingly told her that if they got an acceptable offer on the house, they would need to come up to the mountains to visit and we would celebrate. With that, we said goodbye and headed back to Wal-Mart so I could drive Big V up to Ruidoso while Barbara followed in the Vibe.

When we got to Ruidoso, we stopped and fixed ourselves a little lunch. We found long ago that trying to set up a rig, whether a pop-up camper or a motor home, is not a job to be done when we are tired and hungry.

Soon, we found our way to the Twin Spruce RV Park, the only RV park we have ever stayed in Ruidoso. We got checked in, found our site, and were soon setting up our home in the cool pine country of the Sacramento Mountains. Since temperatures were already 15-20 degrees lower than they were in Artesia, we were well on our way to being happy campers!

Tuesday, June 3

What a change from down in the valley! In the middle of the night I had to get up and turn on the gas furnace and close the bedroom windows. The cool night air had taken a strong turn toward cold. We were suddenly wishing that we hadn’t taken the electric blanket off the bed when we made it up with the new topper last night.

We were greeted by cool morning breezes that soon became gale force winds. With predictions of 35 – 50 mph winds for today and tomorrow, we battened down the hatches and prepared to stay inside for most of the day. It seems that there is just no escaping the strong winds this season.

While I was working on some things inside Big V this morning, Barbara went over to the park laundry and started getting caught up with the washing and drying.

When she got back, we decided that, if possible, we’d extend our stay in the mountains for the rest of the month. In talking with our hosts last night, we found that we could get a great rate if we stayed a month…much better than at most RV parks. The only question would be the availability of a site for the rest of the month, since many sites have been reserved for several days at a time.

Luckily, there was a secluded site available up on the hillside, so we made arrangements to move from our present site to the new one on Friday.

We did venture out around the area for a couple of hours, but it was just too windy to be outside for long.

When we did get back in, we had an email from Ernie letting us know that Mother had received an acceptable counter-offer on her house, so the long weeks of waiting are nearly at an end. There were no details, only the information that the house would be under contract as soon as they could meet with the realtor on Monday. Hallelujah…an answer to our prayers!

As soon as we finished reading and digesting the message, we called Mother to congratulate her. She didn’t know that Ernie had already told us, but she was obviously very happy at the turn of events. While she was talking, Barbara reminded her that she had promised to come up to the mountains for a celebration if the house sold. Mother then asked Ernie which day they were coming up, and we all settled on Saturday for a celebration meal.

Wednesday, June 4

Today was much more of the same…high winds and gusts that could really spin us around if they caught us just wrong, so mostly we just hunkered down inside and got caught up on some cleaning, straightening, and the business of daily life.

Thursday, June 5

Today was a major housecleaning day. We haven’t done a good deep-cleaning for some time, and we decided to get that out of the way while the winds were blowing all around us.

By the time we finished everything, it was time for a nap, and we ended up taking a long one…both of us slept the afternoon away.

Tonight was the opening game of the NBA basketball championship series, so I turned on the TV and cheered for the Celtics over the Lakers. Wonder of all wonders…a team I was cheering for actually won! Now if they can just keep it up for Sunday’s second game.

Friday, June 6

It’s moving day!

And let me tell you, folks, except for the distances involved, there’s not much difference between moving this rig a couple of blocks or across the country. Either way, everything has to be taken down and packed away just right or there will be a huge mess at the end of the journey.

By 9:30 we had everything closed in and buttoned down. Then, I made a short detour across the parking lot to take on a load of propane before going up the hill. We might have had enough propane to last us for the rest of the month, but I didn’t want to take that chance, since the only way to get it is to drive from wherever you are to the pump.

Once loaded with a full tank of LPG, I followed our host up two steep hills and through two very sharp turns (one to each side) before arriving at our new site overlooking most of the campground. With a little more help, I got Big V backed into the site and Barbara and I soon started the reverse of the process we began earlier this morning…getting everything opened up, leveled, and livable.

After an hour or so, we had the place looking like new…even put out some of the decorations that we had taken down some time back because we weren’t sure how long we’d be in one place.

Carol had called last night to say that she and Cal were coming over from Roswell to spend a couple of hours at the Apache Travel Center. We told them that we would be moving, but that we’d try to meet them sometime after 11:00…as soon as we could get everything ready at the campsite.

With everything finally in place, we got cleaned up and headed on down to the travel center where we played and visited with Carol and Cal. Aside from the fact that we really enjoy visiting and talking with them, about all we can say about today is that we seemed to be good luck charms for Carol, allowing her to walk out with a big smile on her face.
We returned to Big V, had some lunch, and took a nap before sitting down to work up a grocery list. In addition to the food items that we promised Mother, Ernie, and Billee, we were running short on some of our standard supplies. Around 5:00 p.m. we made our way back up the highway to Wal-Mart to join the Friday evening throngs…seems like we’d know better than that, but that’s just the way it worked out today.


Back at the RV park we sorted out the groceries, got everything put away, and worked out a general game plan for turning Big V into an industrial strength kitchen tomorrow morning.

Once everything was organized, Barbara started work on tomorrow’s dessert, a large pan of Cherry Betty.

Saturday, June 7

What a beautiful morning! It was absolutely gorgeous outside, with a beautiful sunrise over the mountain behind us.

We got started on the menu for the day. With two different meals in the works, we were using every square inch of the kitchen area for food preparation.

In addition to a roast that Barbara was cooking in the crock pot, our meal for today was brown-in-bag chicken with carrots, potatoes, and onions. Also, I had a loaf of honey wheat bread going in the bread-maker. At the height of our activities, we had the bread-maker, the crock pot, the convection oven, and two stove top burners going. Meanwhile, Barbara was also preparing a pecan pie that would go into the convection oven as soon as the chicken came out.

Ernie, Billee, and Mother arrived around 10:45…way early for the meal, but it gave us a lot of time to visit and get caught up on the past few days. By shortly after noon we were sitting down and digging into a delicious meal…all of us eating far more than we needed.

While Mother took an after dinner nap, the rest of us went for a hike around the RV park. We stopped in at the office to ask about area churches and services for tomorrow, and then made our way back up the steep hills to Big V, feeling somewhat self-righteous for having a little bit of exercise after that huge meal.

Soon, they all had to load up and head back to Artesia, and we set about straightening Big V, but leaving all the dishes until we could get the temperature back down. The air-conditioner was running full blast, but it just couldn’t keep up with all the heat we generated while cooking, and the warm afternoon outside.

With everyone gone and the place kind of neat (but scorching hot!), we took off for a couple of hours to go up to the Inn of the Mountain Gods, before returning to the site to wash and dry all the dishes and cookware and get them put away. Then, after a couple of hours of television, it was time to call it a day and head for bed.

EXTRA! EXTRA!!

We had several bits of information and some pictures of grandkids the last few days and, since they didn’t fit into any particular spot in the daily entries, we’ve added this short section to showcase them this week.

First, we got the great news that both Randi and Jaycie passed their TAKS tests (the Texas state assessments that are tied to No Child Left Behind) with flying colors. In fact, Jaycie made a perfect score on the 4th grade writing test and was notified that the test publishers wanted to use her writing sample as an example of a Level 4 submission. Way to go girls!

Andy and Heather sent us the following photos of Alexander and Abby:
Meanwhile, Whitney and Jim sent us these pictures of Little Jimmy in the outfit that we bought him when we were in Puerto Rico.


Without Him, I am nothing, but with Him ... I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ( Phil. 4: 13 )

From the cool pines of Ruidoso,

Jim and Barbara




A Little Wind Blown!

Wednesday, May 21 – Saturday, May 31, 2008

Wednesday, May 21


It was with mixed emotions that we left Leah and Ryan this morning. It was time for them to begin rebuilding their lives, but a part of us wanted to be there to care and comfort them. After saying our goodbyes, we picked a new rose from one of the bushes that has been brightening the front of the house for so many years and took it to place on Jameson’s grave before we left town.
Once on the road, we pointed the Vibe toward Guymon, Oklahoma, Stratford, Texas, and Tucumcari, New Mexico, where we eventually got on I-40 West and drove to Clines Corners, New Mexico. At Clines Corners, we turned north toward Santa Fe where we could begin our own recuperation. Last night was long and the morning came early, so we split the driving duties along the way.

Arriving at the Days Inn on Cerrillos Road in Santa Fe, we got checked in and started moving everything from the car to our assigned room. We usually take the computers in first and check for wireless availability and strength, but we just piled everything in this time. As soon as we fired up the computers, we discovered that we had NO internet access, so we called the front office to see if they could do something about it. Meanwhile, we also called our friends, Bob and Nell, to let them know we had arrived.

Within a few minutes, the motel manager arrived at our room with a set of keys for another room that was just a few feet from one of the wireless connection points; so, we began moving everything out and back downstairs.

When we got set up in our new room, we discovered that the computers didn’t work there either. For some reason, the signal wasn’t reaching from the office to the booster antenna. We decided we’d just ride it out for the time being, since we didn’t want to move again. I went down to the office to inform them that there was no signal at the back of the motel and to see if I could get a connection in the office area.


On the way to the office, I ran into Bob and Nell who had just returned. They had been out sight-seeing and came back to pick us up to go to lunch before heading up I-25 to visit with Rod and Ruth. We hopped in Bob’s rental car and drove off to Schlotzky’s for a quick meal and a time of catching up. Then, we headed out to the Glorieta Conference Center for a reunion with Rod and Ruth.
We met Rod and Ruth and Bob and Nell for the first time when we went to Lady Lake, Florida, in March, 2007 to help build the Crossroads Community Church. Bob and Rod took me under their wings and taught me a lot. Meanwhile, Barbara, Nell, and Ruth bonded into what has become a very close friendship. We saw them in December when we went back to Lady Lake for the dedication service, and we had the opportunity to visit Rod and Ruth last summer when we were in the Richmond area. It seems that whenever or wherever we meet, we can all immediately pick up our conversations and carry on from where we left off in the previous meeting…what great people and wonderful friends they are!

After our lunch, we rode out to Glorieta and visited with Rod and Ruth for a bit, and then got the grand tour of the campus. We had visited Rod and Ruth not too long ago, but this was the first visit to the place by Bob and Nell. When we finished there, we all rode back to Santa Fe, found a Denny’s Restaurant close to the motel, and continued our various conversations while enjoying our evening meal.

With our meal at Denny’s completed, we all returned to Bob and Nell’s room at the Days Inn and started new conversations – mostly with the men on one side of the room and the women on the other. After an hour or so, we all decided it was time to call it quits for the night; Rod and Ruth had to return to Glorieta to rest up for another day at work, and Bob and Nell had to get ready to leave for the rest of their “out west” trip early tomorrow.

Barbara and I went to the room, grabbed our laptops, and went to the office area to check email. While we were there, we formally met our genial hosts, Ben and Meena. At some point in the conversation, we asked if they had come to the United States from India. They told us that they had, and one thing led to another until we were soon talking about Indian food and the dishes that the Georges had fixed for us while we were in Liberal this week.

During the course of the next hour, we had a good conversation and got some great tips on food preparation as well as advice on where to go in Albuquerque to purchase authentic ingredients for Indian dishes. In case you are interested and find yourself in Albuquerque, check out the selection at the Thai Market at Louisiana and Central.

Soon it was time for us to call it a day ourselves, so we headed back to our room, read for a bit, and then crashed for the night…we were weary from the long day, but so very glad to have reunited with old friends and to meet new ones.

Thursday, May 22

We got up early enough to join Bob and Nell for breakfast in the motel breakfast room and to see them off on the next leg of their journey. Once they were on their way, we made a quick check of our computers and then went back to the room.

It was a cold, cloudy, rainy, and very windy day in the Santa Fe area, so we decided that today would be just a rest and recuperation day for us…a chance to be away from everyone for a bit and lick our wounds.

We did go out for a bit later in the day to do some sightseeing and then returned to Denny’s for a late afternoon/early evening meal. When we went back to the office to check our email, Ben came out and gave us a box of chicken curry mix to get us underway on our next culinary adventures. He and Meena were such gracious hosts; we really enjoyed visiting with them.

Back in our room, we did some reading and then fell asleep. I guess the pressures of the week finally caught up with us and our bodies demanded some down time.

Friday, May 23

We got up fairly early (but not TOO early), got cleaned up and dressed, packed the car, and went to the office area to have breakfast, check out, and have a last visit with Ben and Meena.

By 8:30 a.m. we were on the outskirts of Santa Fe and headed back to Artesia. It was cloudy and a little rainy until we got to Clines Corners. From there on home, it was the usual sunny and windy until we got to Artesia.

We first went by the funeral home to see Jean and Jerry and to leave the baby casket that Jerry had given us to take to Liberal “just in case.” As we were leaving, Jerry came out and invited us to join the family for a hamburger cookout during the evening.

When we got over to Mother’s house, Billee and Ernie were fixing lunch, so we joined them for some vegetarian pizzas and pinto beans before going back to Jean’s place to open up Big V, unload the car, and start putting our house and lives back in order.

By time for the cookout Barbara was feeling a little under the weather, so I went on over to Jerry and Nancy’s house and joined them, Becky, and Jean for some of Jerry’s home-grilled hamburgers and the trimmings that Nancy had put together. After the meal we all joined in a rousing game of Chickenfoot dominoes…a sure way to test the strength of friendships.

When I got back to Big V, Barbara was up and around, but we decided we’d had a long enough day and both went in to read a bit before falling fast asleep in our own comfortable bed.

Saturday, May 24

Today was just a “work around the place” day. While Barbara worked in Big V, I went outside and cleaned tumbleweeds and trash out of the fences surrounding Jean’s land. We made a trip into town to see Mother, Ernie, and Billee, and then came back and lounged around Big V for the afternoon.

Jean called to say that James and Susie would be passing through town on their way back to Hobbs and were offering to take us all out for supper. Around 6:00 p.m. we all loaded up in Jean’s car and went to the Pecos Diamond where we got caught up on the latest news and had a great meal.

Since James and Susan had to get on to Hobbs tonight, we all said our goodbyes when we got back to Jean’s house and went our separate ways for the night.

Sunday, May 25

We got up and went to church this morning…It was good to be back in our “other” home church for a great message from Pastor Rick.

After church we went by Mother’s house to check on everyone and then headed back to Big V for a much needed afternoon nap.

Later in the evening we went back to Mother’s house and offered to fix a Memorial Day dinner if she would spring for the food. She thought that was a great deal; so on the way home we stopped at Wal-Mart to pick up some supplies.

Monday, May 26

It’s Memorial Day, a special day to remember all those who have passed before us.

Quote for the day: “ If you can’t stand behind our troops, please feel free to stand in front of them.”

I guess it was also a day to wake up early, since, after a restless night, we both woke up at 4:00 a.m. Just as well, since we needed to get the food started for our noon meal. I got out the bread maker and the crock pot and got them set up in the kitchen. While Barbara started on the roast and trimmings, I gathered all the ingredients and started a loaf of white bread. It wasn’t long before the house started “stinking really good.”

About 5:30 or so I decided to take advantage of the cool weather and no wind to wash the dirt and grime off the motorcycle. That job didn’t take too long and I had plenty of wash water left, so I then tackled the Vibe, getting it clean and shiny on the outside.

At 9:00 I rode the cycle over to Mother’s house and joined her, Ernie, and Billee on a short trip out to the cemetery where Daddy, Mother’s parents, and Billee’s parents are buried. We did a little cleaning and straightening around the gravesites and put out some flowers for the special day. Barbara didn’t feel that she could go back to a cemetery this soon, so she stayed in Big V to work on the meal.

After we got back to the house, I left for Big V, stopping at Wal-Mart for a couple of necessities to finish off the meal, and then went back to the place to help Barbara get everything ready. By the time I got there, the dessert, Apple Betty, was almost ready and everything else was coming together quite nicely.

Right around noon we loaded everything into the Vibe and hauled it over to Mother’s house where we enjoyed a great dinner and a good time together. Billee offered to do all the dishes since we had prepared the meal, and she didn’t get much argument from us this time. We usually try to split the responsibilities after a meal over there, but she insisted, so after a little more visiting, we hopped in the car and came back to Big V with our stomachs full and our bodies crying out for a nap after an already long day.

After a short nap we again started to work in Big V’s kitchen. Jerry and Nancy had invited us over to their house for a family dinner tonight. Jerry was cooking one of his delicious briskets for the bunch. We volunteered to fix scalloped potatoes and glazed carrots, both new recipes for us. Between us, we managed to get everything done, and went over to their house around 6:30 to join the Jerry, Nancy, Becky, and Jean for conversation, a wonderful meal, and another rousing game of Chickenfoot to close out the evening.

Tuesday, May 27

Not a whole lot to write about today…We got up early and closed Big V up to prepare her for a short trip. Ernie came out at 7:00 a.m. and he and I took Big V to Seminole, Texas, for her annual state safety inspection and to be serviced. Since it was a two-hour trip each way and a lot of down time for us while we were waiting at the shop, we had most of the day to just get caught up on “guy-talk.”

We got back to Artesia around 4:00 p.m., got Big V parked, opened up, and reconnected to the water and electric lines, and generally ready for habitation.

Barbara: After Jim and Ernie left with our home, I went over and sat on Jean’s front porch a while with her. Since she needed to get ready for work, I continued sitting out there working on the computer before heading into town to complete my list of errands. Once the errands were done, I wandered over to Edith’s where we spent the afternoon having some girls’ time.

Once Jim called to say they were in town again, I headed out to the place to help with the settling in of our home.

Wednesday, May 28

It was another “not very exciting day” for the Artesia bunch. With high winds and high temperatures, there wasn’t much we could get done outside, and we just didn’t feel like doing much inside.

We did run some chores in town and joined the Terpening/Francis clan for our usual Wednesday lunch at Chaos. After that, we returned to Big V to just “veg out” for the afternoon.

While we were vegging out, the UPS truck arrived with a new toy for Barbara. She had placed an order earlier for a DVD burner, and when it arrived, we found it was incompatible with our Dell laptops. So, she arranged to return the burner and get something that would work. Well, today the new burner arrived and she quickly began getting it set up and installed, excited to begin learning about a new program and starting a new project.

Since Mother’s house was being shown at 6:30, they all came out here to visit and have leftovers with us. After the meal, Ernie and I took Spike and Bonita for a walk (actually, more than one since they got restless in the motor home) while Barbara, Mother, and Billee visited. This was the f irst time we had tried keeping the dogs here, too; but it turned out that this was a great deal for everyone.
After everyone left, I went over to Jean’s house to help her cheer the Boston Celtics to a close victory over the Detroit Pistons in a NBA Eastern Conference playoff game. Meanwhile, Barbara stayed at home to play with her new computer program.

Thursday, May 29

Mark this down as a red-letter day of sorts for us. For the first time in two years, we didn’t make a trip into town! Except for a walk down to the highway to get the mail, we didn’t even leave Jean’s property.

It was a hot, windy, and generally miserable day outside, so we just stayed inside and worked on our various projects. Barbara stayed busy with her new DVD program and I tackled the journal, trying to get caught up so we could be back on schedule with it and the blog by the end of the week.

Mother had another house showing this afternoon, so they all came out for an hour or so. Barbara got to show them what she was working on, and Ernie and I made a couple of rounds of the place with Spike and Bonita. And, while they were here Barbara quickly baked up some oatmeal/butterscotch cookies to serve.

This evening Barbara made up a macaroni/cheese/hamburger casserole that we shared with Jean while Jean and I watched the final game of the Spurs/Lakers NBA series.

It wasn’t a particularly exciting day, but it certainly was unusual for us.

Friday, May 30

Another slow day around the place for us…With more high temperatures (100 degrees) and high winds (30+ mph) in the forecast, we elected to crank up the air-conditioning early and try to keep Big V as comfortable as possible.

While Barbara finished up a practice DVD project to mail out to Mike and Kelly and Kelly’s parents, I walked to the highway to check the mail, came back and installed our new registration stickers on the motorcycle and two of the trailers, and reconnected Big V to the big propane tank.

After a quick trip to town to see Mother, Ernie, and Billee, we stopped at the bank and post office and then returned to Big V to fix lunch, watch another episode of M*A*S*H, and ride out the heat wave.

Nancy had offered to help me straighten out and reconcile some medical bills and Blue Cross statements, so I walked over to their house for a few minutes around 3:00 to show her all the paperwork. Since dealing with insurance and billing is her regular job in Dr. Moreno’s office, she was quickly able to help with some of the issues and knew who to call when she didn’t have an answer…Thanks Nancy…you are a lifesaver!

Barbara baked another batch of cookies she made yesterday and, while I rode the cycle into town to take some paperwork back to Mother, made preparations for our evening meal. We called Jean to see if she wanted to share in one of our favorite dinners – baked potatoes with broccoli and cheese soup topping. She said that sounded good to her, so while Barbara stayed in Big V to bake the potatoes, I took the soup over to Jean’s house and heated it while she and I watched the first half of the Celtics/Pistons NBA game.

Just before halftime, Barbara brought the potatoes over and we all sat down to enjoy a delicious hot meal together.

Barbara then went back to Big V to work at her computer while Jean and I finished watching the game…a very gutsy performance by both teams, with Boston putting together a great late-fourth quarter run to win the game and the Eastern Division championship.

Back at Big V we watched a little TV before opening the place up to let in the cool night air and going to bed to read a bit before calling it a night.

Saturday, May 31

It was a pretty quiet morning…we worked at our computers, had a little breakfast, and then drove over to Mother’s house to deliver a casserole that Barbara put together…some for them and some for us.

The wind got up this afternoon and gave us fits with the awning. It had been perfectly still outside all day, but around 2:30 the strong winds came out of nowhere, and we weren’t able to get the awning all the way in. Our biggest concern, of course, was that the wind gusts would rip the awning off the outside wall…just another concern for full-time RV’ers.

A generally quiet evening with no particular plans…just sit back and relax and hope the wind dies down soon.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Unknown

Watching and waiting for someone to buy Mother’s house in Artesia,

Jim & Barbara


More Than a Little Time to Grieve

Thursday, May 15-Tuesday, May 20, 2008

For almost two years, our lives as retirees have been an open book; but, this has changed for the days after Leah and Ryan were told their heartbreaking news. There is no way to document such a private time with the grief over the loss of Jameson Dudley McQuitty even now fresh in our hearts.

However, it always amazes me that even through the darkest of days, God sheds light if you’re willing to look for it. We had never met Ryan’s family until now and were pleased at how quickly we all bonded together, almost extensions of each other. The family, friends, and church friends of ours and Leah and Ryan’s rallied around with food, plants, visiting, calling, and offering comfort. Not one mile of this horrible journey did we have to walk alone. The prayers that others were saying for each of us reached us and were felt each step of the way.

Leah and Ryan were an inspiration to all who witnessed their struggle with such a tragedy. Yes, at first the bitterness and anger were there; but as prayers began to pour in, the transformation of this young couple, who had all the hopes and dreams in the world for little Jameson, became one that soothed and comforted those of us who were there to strengthen them.

Though Jameson was not alive when Leah delivered him with Ryan by her side, each of us got to hold him, examine him, and love him. He had Ryan’s button nose, to the delight of Leah who thinks her nose is just too big! However, as Jim pointed out, he had Leah’s thin lips and open mouth! We’re still not sure she agrees with that, but it did make Ryan snicker. And, oh, my! Jameson had such long legs, fingers and toes. It was obvious to all that he would have been quite a runner. (And, yes, those were characteristics of his Mommy.) We were all blessed that Leah and Ryan chose to share this moment with us after they had time alone with him.

It was difficult to handle the evening after we left him; but even then, God kept us all together and we marveled as Leah declared late that evening that she was at peace even though she felt so empty. What a blessing she shared with us as parents!

Now, you all know that the only way a family gets through a loss as horrific as this is to find laughter. Well, one day at meal time, after the graveside services had been planned, Ryan mentioned that Leah always sings her special version of Jesus Loves the Little Children to him when she’s mad at him. Then she proceeded to sing it to us….”Jesus loves the little children, all the children of the world…red and yellow, black and blue, He loves everyone but you.” Now if that isn’t enough to shock a set of parents! Just means she was in Odyssey of the Mind much too long…her creativity obviously knows no bounds.

I only mentioned the above incident because it also became the source of relief at the end of Jameson’s service. Pastor David Bagwell opened the simple graveside service with a prayer and then Larry Moore sang a hauntingly beautiful rendition of Jesus Loves Me. After a moving and comforting message by David, the closing song by Larry was Jesus Loves the Little Children, and I know I wasn’t alone in thinking of Leah’s silliness as he sang…then just as Larry finished the second verse and was concluding with the usual line, Leah and Ryan looked at each other…I know…I was watching Leah…and they burst out laughing, along with the rest of the immediate family. Did we shock the 55-60 friends and relatives in attendance? No…I don’t think so…once they heard the story, they too joined in laughing…Oh, Jameson, you would have grown up with such a loving, laughing family…

To each of you, we say thank you for the prayers. They worked! Though the road will still be rough for each of us in our own way, we are better people for the time we shared these days, and with our eyes fixed on Jesus, we continue to run this race of life.

With love and appreciation to all…Barbara and Jim